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Post by oysterbabe on Nov 8, 2013 15:42:21 GMT
Sounds like its going lovely, love the peacocks story and the bit at end made a tear come to my eye when you explained about mummy and daddy. Really sweet. He sounds like he's doing really well with you both. Will read over weekend and see what's happening... Do you know what day he's moving in yet?
Hope your heads and muscles are getting time to rest... One little lad should be easy right? Hehe, teasing! I had little blighters that ran in opposite directions to each other! Nightmare I still remember intros with mostly horror! Was a good job they were adorable under all that running....lol.
Take care x
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Post by soon2be3 on Nov 8, 2013 17:14:49 GMT
Hi, it sounds like you are all doing so well and communications with each other which is key. It must be so difficult doing intros so far from from home but it sounds like you are doing a brilliant job. Hope you ave a good day tomorrow.
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Post by spideress on Nov 8, 2013 19:46:12 GMT
Does Incy like being read stories? That's a nice way of each of you having a turn to cuddle up while the other gets a 5 minute breather, and doesn't need to be only at bedtime (I made the mistake of reading LO a story when we were early for her dance class once - now all the other children ask me to read something as soon as we get there!). Or if you're in the lead in some of the active stuff, Mr Spider could be the storyteller? At the moment he is not quite calm enough to "get into" a story as such. When he left school they bought him The Gruffalow's Child and we tried reading that too him on Day 1 of Intros but he did not really want to listen to either of us reading or pointing out pictures and just kept turning the pages until the book had been flicked through in a few seconds. Since the "are we there yet, are we there yet" of yesterday we tried a new tac-tic today of two books in the car "that's not my monkey and also that's not my teddy" and he was a little more calm so Mr Spider could read some of the words too him (plus there are less words than on a Gruffalow page) We have bought him lots of books so once he moves in I am hoping we can both have lots of reading time with him and not just at bedtime.
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Post by spideress on Nov 8, 2013 19:52:13 GMT
Do you know what day he's moving in yet? The day for moving in has not been fixed yet but there is a verbal plan that it might be Sat 16 Nov or Sun 17 Nov :-) We have the review meeting 12 Nov so I think it will be finally decided then.
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Post by spideress on Nov 8, 2013 19:54:13 GMT
Re the leaving thing, I try and leave a "treat" of some kind in the car when I know we're going to places I know we'll have feet dragging about leaving. You'll be surprised how quickly a mention of XX (insert biscuit, drink, banana etc here) gets those feet running to the car! Excellent Idea!
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Post by spideress on Nov 8, 2013 20:08:10 GMT
Day 4
We were hoping to go to a Sure Start Children's Centre for stories, songs and rhymes but when we got there we found it had been cancelled due to one of the staff members being off work sick and no one to cover. The original plan was to go the centre until 11am and then go on to the park after but since the event was not on we took the opportunity to do something more "standard" which was take him to Tesco Direct as I had found that once I got to FC today I was having a wardrobe malfunction! One of my shoes had come apart at the bottom and the whole heel/sole area was coming away so I really needed to find some kind of replacement footwear before going to the park! In many ways it was good to "try out" something "standard" like a quick shopping trip to Tesco's and Incy behaved REALLY well which resulted in him getting the "reward" of 5 new matchbox toy cars (to go in the cup holders of his car seat) and a ride on the child's ride "Choo-Choo-Train" which was outside the store. We almost had an embarrassing moment in Tescos though and are REALLY glad that Incy does not appear to have been taught to be racist yet and connect the racist comment of “monkey” with a Black Person – we had given him two books for the car today to try to combat the “are we there yet, are we there yet comments” and one of them was a book about a monkey “that’s not my monkey” so he had just been reading that and when we got into the store we had seen a toy monkey that he liked and said he wanted it (to which we had said “no”) and just as we then left that area a tall black man was coming the other area and we had a split moment of cringe wondering if Incy was going to shout and point “monkey” at him since monkey’s had been his whole recent theme.
We then went to a different park than yesterday (we had already bought a cheap loaf of bread from Morrisons on our way up to FC’s) so that we could have a walk and feed the ducks/geese/swans and apart from a bit of drizzle it stayed fine. We had a great time feeding the birds even though the swans were MASSIVE (certainly as tall as Incy) and a bit scary at times! We then saw a horse so walked around to get closer to it and tried feeding it some grass but I think it was only really interested in if we had brought apples or carrots :-) We got the football out in the field near the horse as the area was reasonably flat and away from the car park or water and had a bit of a kick around but the grass was a bit too wet to stay there too long as none of us had wellies on today.
Since we were due to meet Incy’s SW at 1pm at FC’s we decided to take Incy from the park to a smaller park at the end of FC’s street to ensure we would be in the correct area at the correct time. We had a short time in that park but really the things there are for older children so we decided to go back to FC for 12.30pm so that we could all have something to eat before Incy’s SW came. As we were walking back Mr Spider bent down to Incy to say something like “mummy and daddy love you” to him and Incy just blurted out “you’ve got a bogey up your nose!”
We saw Incy’s SW and then when she left at about 2pm we were due to leave too but Incy was being very "cuddly" - he was tired and he had snuggled up on Mr Spider and it was too much of a shame to move him off in order for us to leave so we ended up staying until about 2.45pm. Up until now I have been using the “fake it till I make it” idea from Daisy as whilst my HEAD had a commitment to Incy I was not feeling any “love/heart connection” as such but that has changed today and I am starting to feel an emotional attachment to him now.
Overall it was a day which felt calmer all around and Incy's attention was split very much 50/50 with us so there was no need for either Mr Spider or I to purposely take a bit of a back seat in order to ensure the other had an appropriate amount of time with him. Also this is the first time after coming home that neither Mr Spider or I have felt “ill” in any way though I am a bit tired but that is likely due to just 3 hours sleep last night :-) Am going to go to bed at a more sensible time this evening ready for our next new task tomorrow which is taking Incy out for something to eat for his dinner – we are thinking of trying a carvery so that could prove interesting!
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Post by nomoretears on Nov 8, 2013 21:23:11 GMT
Hurray! I'm 100% convinced the no illness thing is because of your less stressful day.
I'm looking after a 4 year old at the moment who had virtually no attention span when she was first placed. She loved the "Thats not my..." Series too (and still does). Now she loves all the Julia Donaldson (Gruffalo, Room on the Broom etc) books though -especially these two as they've been on telly - but will often go back to younger books. She tends to flick, as you describe, if we're reading a book with paper pages so maybe consider getting board books of older children's books for Incy?
I'm sure you've already planned for tomorrow but I always take a small toy bag with me when we're eating out (just crayons, paper, little figurines etc) for any waiting that might happen. Remember he'll want the loo just as your meal arrives!!
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Post by spideress on Nov 8, 2013 22:07:05 GMT
Hurray! I'm 100% convinced the no illness thing is because of your less stressful day. I'm looking after a 4 year old at the moment who had virtually no attention span when she was first placed. She loved the "Thats not my..." Series too (and still does). Now she loves all the Julia Donaldson (Gruffalo, Room on the Broom etc) books though -especially these two as they've been on telly - but will often go back to younger books. She tends to flick, as you describe, if we're reading a book with paper pages so maybe consider getting board books of older children's books for Incy? I'm sure you've already planned for tomorrow but I always take a small toy bag with me when we're eating out (just crayons, paper, little figurines etc) for any waiting that might happen. Remember he'll want the loo just as your meal arrives!! Thank you. I have got quite a few "board" books for him and I think we will use those first. He is more like a 3 year old developmentally than a 4 year old. With it being a carvery there should not be any waiting as it is already cooked but certainly a good idea to let him take a toy car etc in :-)
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Post by knight on Nov 9, 2013 0:30:02 GMT
Oh wow Spideress: I missed the start so have read from start to finish (a good way actually to see how the intros have/are building up) ~ sounds like you're both doing fantastically and have thought through the intros, where to go with him etc really well. wonderful, story intros: very encouraging and enjoyable to read, thank you. Enjoy the rest of the intros and you'll relax even more I'm sure when he visits his new home for the first time.....look forward to reading the rest of your updates x
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Post by moo on Nov 9, 2013 6:15:03 GMT
Yay spideress.... Just lovin your intro diary.... So fantastic that the emotional attachment is coming.... Fabbo..... Loved the shoe dilemma.... Isn't it amazing all the preparation & excitement in the whole world just can't stop a shoe from committing suicide!!! ..... See that's why the librarian was off sick..... You just had to brave Tesco!!! Lucky you that Incy was so good.... My two were a nightmare in supermarkets at first.... Enough to send the most stoic of shoppers to the hills!!
Loved the "bogey " poor Mr Spider.... Deffo for the memory file along with the I'm a huntin' peacocks!!! My two loved thomas the tank engine magnetic trains for brio track.... They always had a couple for playing with when in the car.... Always a great pull at the dreaded "we are off now back home ( or to f/c)....."
Well Done you re doing sooooo well..... You sound so happy.....
Hope you get more sleep this night owl stuff just has to stop!!!
Carvery to-day....yum.... I used to take ( the thomas trains ) & a colouring book or paper & wax crayons.... Huge hit they would happily scribble for houres.... My two are quite hyper tho & it was the only way to guarantee relative quiet for the other diners!! Never play at the table at home so it was a great treat....
Not long now & you will be in your own home.... That is great it makes everything so much easier.....
Looking forward to the carvery story......
Xx. moo. X
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Post by spideress on Nov 9, 2013 8:21:06 GMT
Perhaps those books that you do actions to? My LO loved 'teddy bear, teddy bear, touch the ground' and 'we're going on a bear hunt'. Any of those action rhymes (incy wincy spider?!). Then he wouldn't have to sit still... I will look for some of those to use with him when we are not in the car :-)
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Post by spideress on Nov 9, 2013 8:37:42 GMT
Yeah, wardrobe malfunction waits for no one Was it just the "train" part of the "brio" trains they had in the car/food places etc? The "bogey" incident had us both belly laughing. I have told Mr Spider to keep hold of the "key" moments like when Incy says things like "I missed you daddy" as it is likely he will only get 1 of those "nice" memories for every 10 not so nice memories once Incy settles and starts to really act up.
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Post by moo on Nov 9, 2013 9:05:52 GMT
Ohhh I bet it did have you belly laughing!! You'll be dining out on that for years to come!!!!
Yep only the trains ( think they are called "take along" ) not the track too they would have taken over the entire restaurant!!!!
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by spideress on Nov 9, 2013 22:26:06 GMT
Day 5
Today was the day we were due to give Incy his tea out for the first time. The weather was awful today so no chance for a trip to the park. We therefore decided we would spend some time in “Bents” Garden Centre then if that had become boring we were going to go onto the Wacky Warehouse (in-spite of what SWs said was “allowed”) before taking him to the carvery in the evening.
Since Bents was really busy (with it being a Saturday) we seemed to get away with hardly doing any real browsing or shopping. Incy was trying to grab pretty much everything off the shelves and kept wanting us to buy this and buy that and we had to refuse him every single thing. It was certainly a challenging environment but we knew it would be. Santa was there and we could have paid (probably a small fortune) to go see him and there was face painting but even that was £2.50 and we really needed to do things that were free as it was bad enough having to find money to pay for the carvery in the evening. We managed to spend 2-3 hours in “Bents” and at one point we found a table where children were allowed to play so that occupied Incy for at least 30 mins. We used “distraction” to try to get off him the teddies he had picked up and “wanted” and when he started to get giddy from all the bright lights and activity I kept getting down to his level but behind him and putting my arms around him and just saying “calm down now, time to calm down a bit” – that worked for a second or so then he was off again! My next tactic was to pick him up and carry him a bit (but even though he is only 2 stone he gets very heavy quickly) and he kept saying “mummy put me down” to which I replied “I will but only if you promise to walk calmly and hold mummy’s hand” to which I got a “yes” and then 2 seconds later he was trying to run off again. I had a period of time when I was holding his arm more than his hand and I was having to hold it quite tightly as he wanted to be all over the place. He said “mummy you are hurting my arm” to which I said “yes, and you know why don’t you – I am having to hold you very tightly because you are running off so now I will hold your hand again if you will walk nicely” When Incy was playing with the other children at the table in Bents a larger girl was helping him build the train track and he said he liked her as she fixes things but then he started to look to her for the kind of things he should be looking to us for and so we got his attention back onto us.
On the whole we thought “Bents” went quite well considering the bustle and business of it plus the amount of breakable products there were in there!
We did not need to go to the Wacky Warehouse as it was time to go to the carvery and considering that was our first ever meal out it went fabulously. We had to queue to get food which gave me chance to pick him up and he voluntarily flattened himself against me in a hug. We then had to juggle three plates of food with gravy on plus keeping hold of his hand and get back to our table intact which by some miracle we managed to do! Mr Spider does not normally carry the food plates, particularly when there is gravy on as his mobility issues mean his balance is not great and he tends to struggle with a food plate carrying task but today he just “stepped up” and managed it somehow. He took his own and Incy’s plate and I took my plate along with Incy/Incy’s hand. Incy ate 80% of his food and we did put a big portion on his plate and so he was allowed ice-cream after. A full size knife and fork looked like he was trying to eat his dinner with a sword!
What we were really pleased about was that when he was starting to get full from his ice-cream he shared it with us…..one spoon for me, one for daddy then one for him…….for a child who has “food issues” and who used to beg food off other plates when his own was gone and who used to ask when the next meal was as soon as he completed his meal we were PARTICULARLY impressed that he allowed us to share his food with him. I got him a full size glass of Pepsi which was a bit much for him but that gave me chance to play another “share” game with him where we put two straws in it and both I and Incy drank from the straws at the same time……..this gave me chance to get him to drink a bit more but also let me take the bulk of the liquid so the money for the drink was not wasted. We have found it best (even from the few mealtimes we have shared with him – we have had two sandwich dinner times at the FC up until this point) not to pay him a great deal of attention when he first starts to eat his meal as if we say anything like “is that nice etc” he then starts to focus on it and before we know it we get “I don’t like this or this is minging etc”. We used the “just get on with our food and do not talk much or directly pay him a lot of attention at first” tactic at the carvery and he got through a good amount of food. He then started to get a bit distracted and so after allowing him a bit of time of “what is this and what is that etc” we brought his attention back to “what have you got left to eat now…are those some carrots?” that got him to eat a little bit more etc.
When we were out today he said “mummy why do you keep kissing me” and I said “it is because I love you” he also said “daddy kissed me on the head” so I replied “that’s nice”. Mr Spider also got down to his level and made eye contact with him and said that mummy and daddy are not going to leave him because we love him and Incy listened then gave Mr Spider a hug.
We have to be there very early tomorrow as it is the day we learn how to get him up in the morning and give him breakfast. We then take him out again for 5 hours or so and have to give him his dinner out. We are hoping to take him to the park in the morning then their local McDonald’s for dinner tomorrow as they are supposed to have a special “children’s session” type thing on.
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Post by moo on Nov 9, 2013 23:05:42 GMT
WoW spideress another busy busy successful day.....
You are amazing.... It must be soooo tuff having to be ' out ' for so many houres....
Some milestone moments too how well & far you have come.....
Good Luck tomorrow a Very Long Day..... Hope you get some good weather for fun in the park.....
Mind you think I would prefer to hear more about " I'm a peacock huntin' ".
Look Forward to reading about tomorrows day........
Sleep Well.........
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by spideress on Nov 9, 2013 23:08:17 GMT
WoW spideress another busy busy successful day.....
You are amazing.... It must be soooo tuff having to be ' out ' for so many houres....
Some milestone moments too how well & far you have come.....
Good Luck tomorrow a Very Long Day..... Hope you get some good weather for fun in the park.....
Mind you think I would prefer to hear more about " I'm a peacock huntin' ".
Look Forward to reading about tomorrows day........
Sleep Well.........
Xx. moo. Xx
Thank you. I am sorting out today's photos and video but will set a deadline of midnight as we have to be up at 6am to get to FC tomorrow on time :-) We have a "day off" on Monday which will give me chance to clean and sort the house etc
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Post by gilreth on Nov 9, 2013 23:37:55 GMT
Sorry not replied much - Sqk decided to start teething earlier in week and I have been exhausted... Sounds like it is going well & things are coming along. I remember those first meals out - although it seems a long time ago now. Good luck with your long day tomorrow.
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Post by nomoretears on Nov 10, 2013 9:44:22 GMT
Wow Spideress! Your days sound so busy, you must all be exhausted!
I know it's not "home" for you but is there no way you could spend a while at FCs house? That would also help you see things like how Incy plays with his own toys, as well as giving you a break from rushing about? I always try and plan a bit of time away from my house during intros so that adopters can have the run of the place and see little ones in their "natural" environment but without me looking over their shoulder.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2013 11:20:05 GMT
Spideress sounds like you and DH are doing amazingly well. You seem to have the right balance between reassuring Incy and not giving in to all his demands for toys/teddies etc, which I think is a good way to start (as some adopters can't resist the temptation to buy everything the child wants/sees). You might want to think about buying some kind of hand reins though if he is the type to run off, until he learns to hold your hand properly. It's fine in a Garden Centre but might be more of a danger if there are cars nearby. I agree with you carrying a 4.5 year old is not possible for very long without you developing back problems. I've forgotten where you are staying during intro's, but could you not take him back here for some of the time. It is very hard staying out and about all day, not to mention expensive if money is a bit tight. It would be good if you could take him back there for part of the day to give you all some down time and an opportunity to have some snuggle time on the sofa watching a DVD or something. Would also give you and DH a chance to relax a bit and not be on your guard waiting for him to run off all the time. Looking forward to reading the next installment and glad to read you are getting to bed before midnight - very wise!!
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Post by knight on Nov 10, 2013 12:45:37 GMT
Well done guys, sounds like it's all going really well and he's interacting with both of you which is a good balance to see. Hope you have had a great day today and benefit from your rest day tomorrow....loving the diary
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Post by spideress on Nov 10, 2013 18:36:39 GMT
Wow Spideress! Your days sound so busy, you must all be exhausted! I know it's not "home" for you but is there no way you could spend a while at FCs house? That would also help you see things like how Incy plays with his own toys, as well as giving you a break from rushing about? I always try and plan a bit of time away from my house during intros so that adopters can have the run of the place and see little ones in their "natural" environment but without me looking over their shoulder. We got chance to do that a bit today and it was really nice, I will write my update from today soon I am with him from the FC on my own next Weds for 2 hours as Mr Spider is working and Incy then comes back to our house later that day to see it for the first time so I am wondering if I could spend the 2 hours I have alone with him in FC house if it happens to be raining and we cannot go to the park. I should have him in our house by the end of next week so I do not mind too much that we only get a small amount of quieter time when with him in FC house.
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Post by spideress on Nov 10, 2013 18:41:34 GMT
Spideress sounds like you and DH are doing amazingly well. You seem to have the right balance between reassuring Incy and not giving in to all his demands for toys/teddies etc, which I think is a good way to start (as some adopters can't resist the temptation to buy everything the child wants/sees). You might want to think about buying some kind of hand reins though if he is the type to run off, until he learns to hold your hand properly. It's fine in a Garden Centre but might be more of a danger if there are cars nearby. I agree with you carrying a 4.5 year old is not possible for very long without you developing back problems. I've forgotten where you are staying during intro's, but could you not take him back here for some of the time. It is very hard staying out and about all day, not to mention expensive if money is a bit tight. It would be good if you could take him back there for part of the day to give you all some down time and an opportunity to have some snuggle time on the sofa watching a DVD or something. Would also give you and DH a chance to relax a bit and not be on your guard waiting for him to run off all the time. Looking forward to reading the next installment and glad to read you are getting to bed before midnight - very wise!! nomoretears suggested trying to get proper time with him at FC house but on the whole its not really been possible. She seems to have planned her own shopping trips or personal meetings at school for her birth daughter etc so I always feel like she is "trying to get out" as such whilst we have Incy with us and she has certainly never suggested going out whilst leaving us in the house (which is understandable since that is her private space). It is getting really close to him coming here to us now anyway and even though we have had to be "out" for many hours on end the time has generally flown by so it has not felt too problematic though there are only SO many times you can go to parks so I am glad that the "at the FC area" is coming to an end soon
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Post by spideress on Nov 11, 2013 0:00:37 GMT
Day 6
We were up at 6am today to get to the FC for 8am (normally Incy gets up at 7am but on weekends he sleeps in until 8am) as it was the day of “learn how to get him up in the morning/sort out his overnight pull-ups/get him dressed/give him breakfast/clean his teeth”
I found the “pull ups” cleaning him up etc very easy but it took me probably twice as long to get him dressed as it would take the FC to do but I am sure I will speed up with practice. I will also start to learn just how much self-dressing he can and cannot do. He had cereal for breakfast but here is a general question………….his FC were told he should have Full Fat Milk but is that REALLY necessary as from what I understand there are the same amount of vitamins etc in skimmed but just not all the calories of the “fat”?
I then did something I have never tried to do before……..brush a child’s teeth. The FC tells me that it is now advised that children SWALLOW the toothpaste (ie no longer spit it out and swill the mouth) so Incy sat at the table with toothpaste on his brush and I cleaned his teeth as best as I could and he just swallowed all the foam etc………it sounds pretty gross to me but is that the way it should be done now?
Since it was still early when it was all complete (9am ish) the FC seemed happy for us to stay for an hour or so in their house. This proved to be REALLY beneficial today as Incy asked for the new book he was given when he left school last Tue (The Gruffalow’s child) – when I tried to read that with him on Day 1 of intros (Tue 05/11/13) he did not want to let me read each page nor did he want to turn just one page – he just flicked through every page to the end quickly. Today – only a few days later – he sat pretty still on my knee and let me read page by page and only turned the page when I told him it was time to do so! This hour or so in their house also initiated Mr Spider in the art of looking after Incy’s Number 2 bum (Mr Spider thought Incy only wanted to wee so got a shock but stepped up to the mark!).
We then went to a park with a miniature railway for which a ride on the train was only 30p per person! There was an under 5s park which Incy loved and one thing fascinated him most which was a tube you speak into one end and your friend (Mr Spider in this case) speaks into the other end which is far away.
We had a really lovely game of “hide & seek” in the park today too – Incy is still of the age when he thinks if he covers his eyes he cannot be seen. He asked me to hide with him so daddy could find us so I said to him “quiet, shhh, just as if we were hunting peacocks again…hide from daddy” – Incy had his hands over his eyes and kept peeking out to see where daddy was and squealed with delight when daddy found him!
We then went for dinner at McDonalds as they had a child’s activity day on so we got lots of things to colour – one of which was on each Happy Meal box was a monster. We gook all 3 monsters off and tried to colour but I found Incy is seemingly not able to do that very well and is not interested as he knows he cannot do it very well. I was hoping that if I colour he will eventually copy me. I made 3 monsters and called one mummy, one daddy, one Incy.
He has still been a bit funny regarding the toilet. When we were in the park with the miniature railway he asked for the toilet but the park had none so I took him behind a tree. When we got into McDonalds we were right at the end of the time there when he said “I need to go behind a tree!” so I said “there is no need for a tree there are toilets in McDonalds” and he started to panic again saying that he didn’t want to go to the toilet. I said “I think you do” and took him there regardless. He did do quite a long wee but we found that he had already started to wet himself in McDonalds. I wasn’t sure if it was because he was afraid of going to the toilets or if he simply was not aware until it started happening and that is why he asked to go behind a tree.
We have a “day off” tomorrow from intros but Mr Spider’s workplace want him working all day so that is what he will have to do and since I have them all coming on Weds and have a full day with them Tue I need to use tomorrow for cleaning, shopping clearing etc and it is nearly midnight now and I have been up since 6am so gotta get to bed.
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Post by moo on Nov 11, 2013 7:19:31 GMT
Wow spideress such a busy day ( again ) you & Mr Spider must be exhausted!!! I hope you are gonna be in your home soon.... I think you need to be able to chill a little more & be able to all sit down with a cup of tea.... My two loved scribbling ( drawing you understand) on pieces of paper at the table.... Had many large & small blank sheets & packets of fat wax crayons.... Bet Incy will love it too when in his new house.... Quite grossed out by the toothpaste thing.... Trust me to be behind the times on that.... Loved the new peacock hunt what a shame they weren't there!!!.... baa & skweek love those tubes for talking ( yelling in their case ) thro.... Enjoy your rest day.... It will be evaluation meeting soon know that will go really well.... After all you have been out unsupervised so much .....however can any say that you are not managing you are doing Brilliantly.....
Well done with the reading!!! Bet the f/c was impressed.....
Shall miss my update to-day.... Will just be very ready for tomorrow's ....
Xxx. moo. Xx
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Post by spideress on Nov 11, 2013 7:23:48 GMT
Wow spideress such a busy day ( again ) you & Mr Spider must be exhausted!!! I hope you are gonna be in your home soon.... I think you need to be able to chill a little more & be able to all sit down with a cup of tea.... My two loved scribbling ( drawing you understand) on pieces of paper at the table.... Had many large & small blank sheets & packets of fat wax crayons.... Bet Incy will love it too when in his new house.... Quite grossed out by the toothpaste thing.... Trust me to be behind the times on that.... Loved the new peacock hunt what a shame they weren't there!!!.... baa & skweek love those tubes for talking ( yelling in their case ) thro.... Enjoy your rest day.... It will be evaluation meeting soon know that will go really well.... After all you have been out unsupervised so much .....however can any say that you are not managing you are doing Brilliantly.....
Well done with the reading!!! Bet the f/c was impressed.....
Shall miss my update to-day.... Will just be very ready for tomorrow's ....
Xxx. moo. Xx
Thank you. I have compiled a 7 min 30 second video clip from my four favorite videos we have made of our activities over the last few days and am putting it ready to play on my Netbook. Our SW said that it would be OK for me to make a 5-10 minute video clip to show in the review meeting tomorrow so that everyone can see how it has been going
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Post by nomoretears on Nov 11, 2013 19:46:55 GMT
Hi Spideress, hope you've had a bit of a rest today.
I give a mix of full fat and semi skimmed milk to my foster children. Like you, I thought there was no difference in the vitamins etc in each but a paediatrician for one of my previous children told me that as lots of LAC are nutritionally malnourished they benefit from even the slightest "extra" found in the full fat milk. Does that make sense? I must admit though that I give semi skimmed exclusively if a child comes to me very heavy.
I find there isn't too much foam these days with kids toothpastes (I know they should use adult toothpastes but they always seem to find them too strong. You can buy kids toothpastes with 1450 ppm which is an adult amount of calcium) but if they need to spit I still let them. I think it's more that you don't need to rinse and brush again than actually swallowing the paste itself that's beneficial.
Sorry I can't give too much advice about the toilet issues, except to try and remain calm and not let him worry about it. Almost every child I've cared for has had problems recognising when they need the loo, or refusing to go even when they clearly need to.
It must have been lovely reading together. We have The Gruffalo's Child lots in this house! (You can get wonderful TV adaptations of both this and The Gruffalo on DVD. and Room on the Broom, another Julia Donaldson book)
Looking forward to tomorrow's instalment already!
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Post by knight on Nov 11, 2013 20:43:10 GMT
Just love your intros diary ~ I feel I was there You're all doing so well and for Incy to sit calmly and read after only a few days has got to be a really good sign, fantastic. Hope you've managed to get some rest in your rest day (though I doubt it) ~ enjoy tomorrow x
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Post by spideress on Nov 11, 2013 21:13:24 GMT
Hi Spideress, hope you've had a bit of a rest today. I give a mix of full fat and semi skimmed milk to my foster children. Like you, I thought there was no difference in the vitamins etc in each but a paediatrician for one of my previous children told me that as lots of LAC are nutritionally malnourished they benefit from even the slightest "extra" found in the full fat milk. Does that make sense? I must admit though that I give semi skimmed exclusively if a child comes to me very heavy. I find there isn't too much foam these days with kids toothpastes (I know they should use adult toothpastes but they always seem to find them too strong. You can buy kids toothpastes with 1450 ppm which is an adult amount of calcium) but if they need to spit I still let them. I think it's more that you don't need to rinse and brush again than actually swallowing the paste itself that's beneficial. Sorry I can't give too much advice about the toilet issues, except to try and remain calm and not let him worry about it. Almost every child I've cared for has had problems recognising when they need the loo, or refusing to go even when they clearly need to. It must have been lovely reading together. We have The Gruffalo's Child lots in this house! (You can get wonderful TV adaptations of both this and The Gruffalo on DVD. and Room on the Broom, another Julia Donaldson book) Looking forward to tomorrow's instalment already! Thank you :-)
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Post by spideress on Nov 11, 2013 21:15:58 GMT
Just love your intros diary ~ I feel I was there You're all doing so well and for Incy to sit calmly and read after only a few days has got to be a really good sign, fantastic. Hope you've managed to get some rest in your rest day (though I doubt it) ~ enjoy tomorrow x correct, no rest at all..........though right now I am doing a "christmas clean up" which means everything that does not have a place gets put in the shed AGAIN until Incy is at school and then I should finally have time to sit down and properly sort out all that is in the house that I need to keep and what I can give away :-)
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Post by knight on Nov 11, 2013 21:39:01 GMT
Yes, I'm going to have one of those Christmas clear-outs when I sort my future LOs room......I shall have to be ruthless cos I'm not very good at it !!! Hope you get an earlier night, you must be wrecked x
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