For those of you who haven't seen this before. Basically how I feel every time one leaves me.
Today I have a 'Little One size' hole in my life. She left me, with a smile, a wave and a 'bye bye', and I miss her. I miss her smile, her chuckle and her cheeky grin. I miss her cuddles and her empathic stroking of any part of me that I have hurt. I miss her excitement and wonder at nature, slugs and snails included. I miss her imagination, her funny voices and mannerisms. I miss comforting her when she is upset, snuggling her in the towel after a bath, and sharing new experiences with her. I miss having to keep pens out of her reach, having to close the stair gates, having to look for her when she is quiet, to see what mischief she is up to. I miss searching for her special cuddly toy at bedtime. I miss all these things and more, but she was never mine to keep. She was always on loan, never mine to plan a future together, to look forward to sharing her first day at school, her first time riding a bicycle, her reading to me, instead of my reading to her. I love her, and I let her go, because that is what I do. So, to you, her new family, treasure this very special little girl. Treasure all these things that I miss, and relish the chance to share with her the joy of growing into your family. You don't know her well enough yet to realise just how very lucky you are to have her in your life. She was on loan to us, she is now your forever. Love and guard her well, I am trusting her to you, don't let us, or her, down.
This is bringing back memories of our intros! I particularly remember the girls (nearly 4) coming into the kitchen whilst I was talking to the FC saying "mummy, mummy" and repeating it. Whilst I was thinking "Why doesn't she answer them?" before I realised they meant me!!! Our FC was very good at giving us space with the kids whilst still staying within sight.
Mum to twin girls (16) and a son (13). One of my girls is s20 and the other is in a mental health unit.
Went really well, GLO met her new big sister and appeared to be mutual attraction. Big sis was interested in GLO, and her toys, but genuinely interacted with her. Lunch just for the 4 of them in the dining room, all seemed to be at ease Her parents have done a great job preparing her.
There was a break this afternoon while they went out/GLO had a nap, then tea together.
As soon as GLO started to fuss---signs of tiredness, they left, with a promise to see her tomorrow, Big Sis did then look somewhat miserable, but she must also be tired.
Then we had the 'fall out' (though not as vocal as yesterday). GLO just cuddled up to me once she was in her PJs. clinging on to me as though she was never going to let go. After a good half an hour she had relaxed her grip enough to be taken to bed and settled really quite quickly.
Intros seem to be going as we would expect, and Mummy and Daddy will be more hands on from tomorrow.
Sounds like going fairly well. I do wander at times how Sqk was during Introductions. He was just about verbal (2yrs 3 m when he was placed). Our FC did a wonderful job -as she has she has for other adotpees (we've met other adopters now). reading this is bringing back memories of a year ago - when we were in full flow of Intros....
Married to Droroin, Mum to DS Sqk (9) moved in Oct 13
First full day, GLO looked a little shocked to be collected from her cot by daddy, but demonstrated very firmly where her priorities are when she gets up---straight to the table for breakfast!
Mummy and daddy observed the dressing routine, followed by a full on tantrum---which had to be left to work itself out---then I went with them for a walk to, and round the park. Good time had by us all, despite the drizzle, and they were highly impressed by GLOs stamina. Loads of photos taken (as there were yesterday), lunch out, which we three adults thoroughly enjoyed, then a weary trek home, with GLO at last in the buggy.
Mummy then had the delightful task of changing the dirty nappy and putting GLO down for her nap, achieved with a minimum of fuss----from either of them!!!!! (I jest, mummy is very capable, and they are both lovely parents)
Break for them---retail therapy---while I did some of the essential chores that just can't be left, even for Intros. Fortunately OH had coped with the babies with his usual calm assurance.
Parents back for tea, saw GLO eat quite well, though not as much as usual. I do wonder if she might be a little one who goes off her food when stressed (unlike me who just eats more).
Observation of bathtime---daddy loves to play with the squirty toys---and bedtime.
---and so the end of another day!!!!!!
Half way review tomorrow, am sure all will go well, especially as all three of us will be able to report that the 'sisters' had a good day yesterday.
I, and they, are under no illusions that all will be plain sailing, but they are realistic and prepared to deal with the unexpected