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Post by imp on Oct 9, 2014 17:06:28 GMT
Trying to get the house reasonably tidy for the start of Intros tomorrow.
All photos transferred to a memory stick to go in her---enormous---memory box, with just a few more notes needed to indicate the relevance of some of the contents.
Washing up to date, though there will be more before she leaves in 11 days time.
Clean cot bed sheet going on her standard size cot so that it can go with her----with her 'smell' on it.
Choccy biscuits ready for tomorrow, apple cake to be baked tomorrow evening when the baking apples arrive with my daughter.
Menus planned for meals we will cater for.
---What else? Sure there will be something I have missed, but generally Ready To Roll!!!!!!!!!
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Post by jollymummy on Oct 9, 2014 17:32:21 GMT
Awwww, Imp. It is exciting, but tinged with a little sadness, too, I think.
Sounds like you have thought of everything. I am sure the adopters will be delighted with how thoughtful you have been.
Hope the intros go well xx
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Post by moo on Oct 9, 2014 18:54:29 GMT
Hugs imp xx thinking of you & GLO.
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by knight on Oct 9, 2014 19:05:34 GMT
Aww lovely to hear it from your point of view IMP...hope all goes well (don't really need to say that !!) x
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Post by ham on Oct 9, 2014 19:25:45 GMT
how about details of this forum !!!
good luck hope they go smoothly
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Post by leo on Oct 9, 2014 20:40:31 GMT
11 days? You'll have plenty of time to remember whatever it is you've forgotten!
Hope it all goes well.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2014 21:18:52 GMT
Oh no it's starting.
GLO has found her forever parents, but it is so hard on you losing her.
Massive hugs to you.
You know it is for the best, but I'm sure it is horrendous letting go. Xx
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Post by imp on Oct 9, 2014 21:19:13 GMT
Yes, 11 days, as she has been with us from SCBU (aged 10 weeks)til now, just 100 weeks 
Will be strange to be without her, very like the one that I wrote the 'poem' for on the other site. |
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Post by imp on Oct 9, 2014 21:24:34 GMT
For those of you who haven't seen this before. Basically how I feel every time one leaves me.
Today I have a 'Little One size' hole in my life.
She left me, with a smile, a wave and a 'bye bye', and I miss her.
I miss her smile, her chuckle and her cheeky grin.
I miss her cuddles and her empathic stroking of any part of me that I have hurt.
I miss her excitement and wonder at nature, slugs and snails included.
I miss her imagination, her funny voices and mannerisms.
I miss comforting her when she is upset, snuggling her in the towel after a bath, and sharing new experiences with her.
I miss having to keep pens out of her reach, having to close the stair gates, having to look for her when she is quiet, to see what mischief she is up to.
I miss searching for her special cuddly toy at bedtime.
I miss all these things and more, but she was never mine to keep.
She was always on loan, never mine to plan a future together, to look forward to sharing her first day at school, her first time riding a bicycle, her reading to me, instead of my reading to her.
I love her, and I let her go, because that is what I do.
So, to you, her new family, treasure this very special little girl.
Treasure all these things that I miss, and relish the chance to share with her the joy of growing into your family.
You don't know her well enough yet to realise just how very lucky you are to have her in your life.
She was on loan to us, she is now your forever.
Love and guard her well, I am trusting her to you, don't let us, or her, down.
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Post by chotimonkey on Oct 9, 2014 22:49:17 GMT
Oh... I've read your post before, it's so lovely, hope your gorgeous lo's new parents realise how special you are xxx
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Post by moo on Oct 10, 2014 5:10:56 GMT
Still has my eyes leaking hugs xxxx
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by serrakunda on Oct 10, 2014 6:49:59 GMT
Hope it all goes well
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Post by imp on Oct 10, 2014 16:15:16 GMT
Well, 2 hours today. LO greets both of them with 'Daddy'--think she struggles with the 'M' sound, most of her words start with 'hard' consonants ---baby, bath, bye, gone etc
She did lots of going out of the room, but did engage on her terms.
Drink and biscuit time a hit, especially as she was allowed 2 of the 'special' biscuits.
Then some more manic behaviour, especially when I had either of the other babies---even hitting the youngest one (whom she usually adores) when I was feeding him---and then hitting me.
She obviously knows that something is going on!!!!!
Mummy and Daddy didn't seem too fazed by it all, think they will be even more relaxed when we can be less in evidence, though we obviously have to be around at the moment.
OH did go out with the middle one for an hour, and I tried to keep out of the way in the kitchen and the hall, but then she wanted---naturally---to be with me.
Oh, the balancing!!
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Post by jollymummy on Oct 10, 2014 17:55:11 GMT
This is bringing back memories of our intros! I particularly remember the girls (nearly 4) coming into the kitchen whilst I was talking to the FC saying "mummy, mummy" and repeating it. Whilst I was thinking "Why doesn't she answer them?" before I realised they meant me!!! Our FC was very good at giving us space with the kids whilst still staying within sight.
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Post by imp on Oct 11, 2014 16:52:22 GMT
Day 2 today, and I was out all day----just something I couldn't get out of, and had been factored into the plan.
Our 2 daughters took the babies out so that my OH only had to be around for Intros.
Mummy and daddy have now seen a full scale screaming session, when GLO couldn't get her own way---hope they come again tomorrow!!!
Playing and getting wet in the garden, lunch together (late!!!!).
GLO very happy to see me back, and so to tomorrow and meeting big sister for the first time
Later---one very upset LO, beside herself with sorrow.
I really do believe this is the most difficult age for Intros, old enough to know that something life changing is happening, but not old enough to understand how and why
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Post by moo on Oct 11, 2014 18:32:37 GMT
Hugs imp xxxx my heart goes out to you.... It sounds tuff xx
Poor GLO Poor You xx
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2014 19:57:48 GMT
Heartbreaking and wonderful at the same time, poor GLO.
Hope tomorrow goes ok and that big sis falls in love with her.
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Post by knight on Oct 11, 2014 21:04:02 GMT
Yes, it has to be so hard pre-verbal: it's hard enough for slightly older ones to absorb the enormity of it all (until after the move) but way harder for younger LOs. Hugs x
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Post by amberle on Oct 12, 2014 5:02:02 GMT
Oh Imp sounds like you are doing fantastically. And the poem, well still dabbing my eyes..beautifully written and so heartfelt.
Hope day 3 goes well. Big hugs xx
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Post by imp on Oct 12, 2014 18:25:41 GMT
Day 3.
Went really well, GLO met her new big sister and appeared to be mutual attraction. Big sis was interested in GLO, and her toys, but genuinely interacted with her.
Lunch just for
the 4 of them in the dining room, all seemed to be at ease
Her parents have done a great job preparing her.
There was a break this afternoon while they went out/GLO had a nap, then tea together.
As soon as GLO started to fuss---signs of tiredness, they left, with a promise to see her tomorrow, Big Sis did then look somewhat miserable, but she must also be tired.
Then we had the 'fall out' (though not as vocal as yesterday). GLO just cuddled up to me once she was in her PJs. clinging on to me as though she was never going to let go. After a good half an hour she had relaxed her grip enough to be taken to bed and settled really quite quickly.
Intros seem to be going as we would expect, and Mummy and Daddy will be more hands on from tomorrow.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 12, 2014 18:46:57 GMT
Sounds fab and sooooo promising xx
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Post by moo on Oct 12, 2014 19:20:29 GMT
Great imp xxx exciting times for GLO....
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by esty (archive) on Oct 12, 2014 19:33:49 GMT
Sound brilliant and so different from the last lot as it were.
Do you think it's because these parents have had better info or that they are just more confident in themselves?
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Post by knight on Oct 12, 2014 19:34:21 GMT
Aww sounds to be going very well (just so hard even reading, let alone you living, with the inevitable fallout, little lamb) x
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Post by imp on Oct 12, 2014 19:42:50 GMT
esty. I think these are just the 'right ones' and the previous ones just were not a match at all---except that they wanted a girl!!
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Post by justbserene11 on Oct 12, 2014 20:01:09 GMT
Sounds good! Our FC were amazing and I know I really appreciated their support. I agree that these 'are' the parents xx
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Post by gilreth on Oct 12, 2014 21:25:29 GMT
Sounds like going fairly well. I do wander at times how Sqk was during Introductions. He was just about verbal (2yrs 3 m when he was placed). Our FC did a wonderful job -as she has she has for other adotpees (we've met other adopters now). reading this is bringing back memories of a year ago - when we were in full flow of Intros....
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Post by imp on Oct 12, 2014 22:49:07 GMT
23.45 Sunday
GLO needing cuddles right now, woke distressed, but not at all surprising.
In some ways would be more worrying if she didn't show some distress.
This is the part that Adopters don't see at this stage, and must come as a shock when it happens once LO is home with them .
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Post by loadsofbubs on Oct 13, 2014 7:12:23 GMT
its something that sw's often fail to understand or appreciate too I think. but glad its going as well as it could be hoped for and hope lo is more settled tonight. |
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Post by imp on Oct 13, 2014 18:38:07 GMT
Day 4. First full day, GLO looked a little shocked to be collected from her cot by daddy, but demonstrated very firmly where her priorities are when she gets up---straight to the table for breakfast! Mummy and daddy observed the dressing routine, followed by a full on tantrum---which had to be left to work itself out---then I went with them for a walk to, and round the park. Good time had by us all, despite the drizzle, and they were highly impressed by GLOs stamina. Loads of photos taken (as there were yesterday), lunch out, which we three adults thoroughly enjoyed, then a weary trek home, with GLO at last in the buggy. Mummy then had the delightful task of changing the dirty nappy and putting GLO down for her nap, achieved with a minimum of fuss----from either of them!!!!! (I jest, mummy is very capable, and they are both lovely parents) Break for them---retail therapy---while I did some of the essential chores that just can't be left, even for Intros. Fortunately OH had coped with the babies with his usual calm assurance. Parents back for tea, saw GLO eat quite well, though not as much as usual. I do wonder if she might be a little one who goes off her food when stressed (unlike me who just eats more). Observation of bathtime---daddy loves to play with the squirty toys---and bedtime. ---and so the end of another day!!!!!! Half way review tomorrow, am sure all will go well, especially as all three of us will be able to report that the 'sisters' had a good day yesterday. I, and they, are under no illusions that all will be plain sailing, but they are realistic and prepared to deal with the unexpected |
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