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Post by ladybug on May 3, 2014 11:19:09 GMT
Moo, I hadn't actually thought about other adopters interested! I assumed that a selection visit was part of the process to meet us and see the house so they could imagine the children here with us etc...
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Post by chotimonkey on May 3, 2014 12:59:18 GMT
You are def entitled to ask about the selection process fro lo's la... For us we were looking at three sib groups and all three were different, groups and and two were both looking at us only (groups were 'harder to place' )and were already talking about panel dates before meeting us... Hmmm
For our Los their ff had a large response, selected ten to see their form fs and the. Put them in order of their favourite, we were no1 but if they weren't sure after having met us they would move to no2 and so on...
Some of my friends have been in competitive match situation where ff sees two/ three families then decides
So it's def worth checking
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Post by moo on May 3, 2014 13:21:23 GMT
Oh ladybug so sorry if I have you in a panic....
I think things are different today than they were in the dark ages.... Back then sadly I think a short list was drafted & three families visited to see who the lucky winner would be... Awful.... I think choti's experience is more likely to be true now.... But deffo check up to be sure.... The great news is everyone is happy so far & that is a fab start so just relax & enjoy the ride.... Enjoy the sun.... Tuesday will come quickly.. Xxx
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by ladybug on May 3, 2014 17:27:28 GMT
No Moo you haven't got me in a panic! I'm fine.
Tuesday will come quick enough I know. Just don't like the sitting and waiting to be contacted regarding a visit, it makes it so much worse when there is no timescale to adhere to!!
X x
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Post by leo on May 5, 2014 20:02:49 GMT
Good luck tomorrow, hope the visit goes well.
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Post by knight on May 5, 2014 20:22:24 GMT
Everything crossed for tomorrow x
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Post by justbserene11 on May 5, 2014 20:37:22 GMT
Hope it goes well, thinking of you xx
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Post by ladybug on May 6, 2014 9:57:34 GMT
Thank you!
Emailed yesterday to ask how many other families are interested in the girls so will just wait for the email. Determined not to keep checking the inbox though!
Hope you all had a good bank holiday weekend.
X x x
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Post by moo on May 6, 2014 18:40:49 GMT
Fingers crossed for you ladybug....
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by ladybug on May 6, 2014 18:51:52 GMT
Thank you Moo x x
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Post by amberle on May 6, 2014 20:52:05 GMT
Good luck Ladybug. Hope you hear back soon xx
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Post by knight on May 7, 2014 21:36:29 GMT
hope u hear something soon x
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Post by ladybug on May 7, 2014 21:41:17 GMT
Me too Knight, just sitting waiting now. Our SW is off sick this week but does still have email access. Phew!!
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Post by knight on May 7, 2014 21:51:06 GMT
Ladybug, I've lost track of where you're up to (unless you've posted somewhere else, it didn't jump out at me): did you have the selection meeting yesterday/today too: how did that go? What sort of feeling did you get about what they thought of you/your family, what you had to offer etc?
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Post by ladybug on May 7, 2014 21:59:18 GMT
No we haven't had a selection visit yet  we are waiting for the girl's SW to get back to us to arrange it. X x |
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Post by knight on May 7, 2014 22:12:32 GMT
Oh bummer.....I hope they come back to you then re: (1) date for visit; and (2) whether you're the only ones in the running. I know you've said you're waiting for an email about the last point as well. Keep us updated Ladybug: bet you're watching your phone and email like a hawk ~ it's tough going x
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Post by leo on May 7, 2014 22:30:59 GMT
It can be a long and frustrating wait:
- 4th November - my SW and I both saw a profile and wanted more info.
- 1st December - finally heard back from Family Finder saying she was interested in info about me - but already had 4 sets of parents shortlisted
- 18th December - received CPRs (that were over two years out of date)
- 20th December - Family Finder and Social Worker came to meet me - then stood on my driveway after the meeting talking to my SW saying 'Yes, let's go ahead' (while I jumped around excitedly behind my front door!)
Only 6 weeks I know - but it felt a LOT longer at the time!
Hope you hear something soon
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Post by ladybug on May 8, 2014 6:04:24 GMT
At this point even a few days without hearing anything seems a longtime Leo especially when you have a few pics of the children to look at. Can't wait for the feeling when they say yes, I imagine I will be like the woman in Love Actually jumping up and down on the downstairs when the guy she likes comes back to her flat!! X x
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Post by moo on May 8, 2014 6:21:23 GMT
Oooohhhhhh sad ladybug that you have had no news.... A few hours waiting for this news feels like a week!  I soooo remember....
Hope you get news of a visit today..... ( or just news )......hugs xx
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by amberle on May 8, 2014 6:30:01 GMT
Ladybug.. That love actually dance is not unusual, I think I have done it 2 or 3 times, although not quite the same as I have an inane grin n my face whilst tears streaming down my face and mascara running so I look like someone from the group Kiss..lol.
I know what you mean about time dragging, a day feels like forever..but stay strong you will get there. And as you say at least your SW is still in contact via email..so as soon as they know you will.
Have a great day and hope you get some news soon xx
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Post by ladybug on May 9, 2014 12:07:05 GMT
Omg!! I am so excited girls SW wants to do a selection visit next Wednesday!!! I can not concentrate which is bad because I am at work whilst DH is at home texting to make a decision and I am very busy working.
Need to sit and go through the CPRs to find questions to ask etc...
Amberle, I almost did the love actually dance but decided it wasn't a good idea infront of the general public! Lol
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Post by moo on May 9, 2014 13:42:37 GMT
Yay.....
Oooh so exciting.... You are gonna have the most frantic,exciting,bonkers,panicky weekend ever.....
Superb news.... Study the CPR check out the resources board for Q's to ask & keep posting.... Your excitement is infectious.....
Hurrah......
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by knight on May 9, 2014 17:46:54 GMT
Whoop whoop ~ sooooo excited for you: Wednesday will be here in a flash x
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Post by ladybug on May 9, 2014 18:27:00 GMT
I am really excited but scared and nervous at the same time. Really don't know what to expect and what sort of questions to ask! Oh my days, didn't actually expect it to happen this quickly was anticipating not to hear until at least next week!! I have Tuesday to get the house looking ok as I was already off.
Wish I wasn't working tomorrow but it may keep me a little grounded!
Right I am off to study the CPRs and scan the boards for help advice and questions!!
X x x
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Post by leo on May 9, 2014 18:52:48 GMT
That's lovely news Ladybug!
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Post by amberle on May 9, 2014 21:45:34 GMT
Wahoooo great news. Please tell me you have done the dance now..you know it would be rude not to.lol
Omg I am so excited for you, keep us posted xxx
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Post by ladybug on May 9, 2014 22:07:36 GMT
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Wish we had dancing emoticons to do the dance with you. You'll just have to settle for us lot dancing in our own homes along with you. Exciting times Lady bug !!!!!  |
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Post by amberle on May 10, 2014 8:30:25 GMT
Ok the main thing is not to panic..easier said than done i know..lol. We had ours a few weeks ago, and as you would of seen, I was clean clean clean and had all sorts of dramas going on in my head.
When they turned up..I was quite surprised, they were quite quite normal..had a cup of tea and a few biscuits, now don't get me wrong the good ones came out. Infact I did not even mind that they ate the Jammie dodgers.lol.
But questions were mainly about us.general stuff, maternity leave, do we know of play groups, parks etc locally. Saw potential LO room and then just reviews and questions around information we had been given. Medical reports, More BF details..Whilst in my head was going to be terrifying actually was reasonably relaxed.
But the main thing is as someone advised me only a few weeks ago...breathe.
Xx
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Post by nomoretears on May 10, 2014 11:14:18 GMT
Good sign that its happening quickly - and less time to panic. Hope all goes well!
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we are waiting for the girl's SW to get back to us to arrange it. X x 
I soooo remember....
