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Post by ladybug on May 14, 2014 6:53:57 GMT
Cakes all ready!!! X x
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Post by ladybug on May 14, 2014 8:41:57 GMT
What a time to cut my finger! 10 minutes before our SW is due! Only I could do that! :-(
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Post by nomoretears on May 14, 2014 8:51:08 GMT
Look yummy! Wish I was on my way round!
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Post by ladybug on May 14, 2014 12:03:32 GMT
:DPhew all done! It was all actually fine. Consisted mainly of us asking questions about the girls, saw a DVD of them and a few recent photos. At this point no other prospective adopters are short listed!! Whoop whoop.   Our SW said it all went very well and thinks that we will get the girls. SW is going to email the girls SW on the way back to say that we want to proceed so just have to sit and wait and hope that they also want to proceed further. FC are going on holiday at the end of August so they would push for placement prior to that so they don't have to go into respite then move home fairly soon after. Hoping for July panel! Eeekkk! No one ate any cakes or biscuits either  X x x |
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Post by lovelybee on May 14, 2014 12:17:18 GMT
Yay! Sounds like it couldn't have gone better! Lucky you seeing a DVD of the girls too!
Fingers crossed for good news very soon!
LB x
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Post by ladybug on May 14, 2014 13:13:28 GMT
Thanks LB. I don't think it could've gone any better. X x
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Post by nomoretears on May 14, 2014 15:07:22 GMT
Hurrah Ladybug! (Have to admit the first thing that jumped out at me though was that no one ate any of your lovely cakes! Your SW must be mad)
Definitely push for July panel if FC away in August. My own LA have a ridiculous rule about no moves for 3 months after time spent away from usual foster home...
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Post by nomoretears on May 14, 2014 15:08:20 GMT
Also, its only May so July should definitely be do-able if SWs pull their fingers out.
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Post by knight on May 14, 2014 19:11:05 GMT
Oh this is wonderful news ladybug, so very pleased it went as well as it did; I'm so thrilled for you both. Let's hope you hear this side of the weekend otherwise, it'll be a loooong weekend x
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Post by amberle on May 14, 2014 19:37:46 GMT
Hi what great news that it went so well. Lets hope you get a reply soon.
Xxx
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Post by ladybug on May 14, 2014 20:47:28 GMT
Thanks Knight & Amberle!
It was good to know that the girls delays are improving and that they don't need speech and language therapy, the therapist has given the FC tools to help improve their speech and language.
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Post by amberle on May 14, 2014 21:33:19 GMT
That is good to know. Please let us know as soon as you hear anything. Xx
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Post by ladybug on May 14, 2014 22:15:27 GMT
I will do Amberle! X x
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Post by moo on May 15, 2014 4:22:55 GMT
Ooohhh goody so glad it went well & s/w sooo positive.... Crossing everything this end...... Did they give any indication when they would make a decision??!?
So thrilled for you especially that no else so far in the running..... Brill.... Please keep us posted so eager to hear your news......
Difficult typing with everything crossed!?!   .... Hugs.....
Bonkers about the cakes?!?! 
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by ladybug on May 15, 2014 5:30:49 GMT
Thank you Moo. You do make me laugh No indication of when they may give us a decision sadly. FF SW on annual leave for 2 weeks but ASW said she would speak to adoption team manager and ensure they follow correct process. Would be nice to find out this side of the weekend but not going to hold my breath. SW took no notes what so ever which surprised me, our SW did however!  I am very hopeful that we will get the ok to proceed. To me it seemed like that had already made the decision but just wanted to come and see us in person and have a look at the house. Sadly our house isn't as grand as the FC's but the girls bedroom is around the same size! X x x |
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Post by amberle on May 15, 2014 16:50:47 GMT
Hi Ladybug, our LO SW did not take notes either so don't worry about that. I assumed it was because they had learnt all they needed to in our report ..so just wanted to meet us and make sure we were the same as the report.
The girls bedroom and you two are what the SW needs to see as your report was good enough for them to come and see you.
It's a shame about the holidays but as you know this process if nothing else teaches you patience..lol.
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Post by ladybug on May 15, 2014 17:38:48 GMT
Yes I suppose that is the case, didn't think of that yesterday Amberle! I'm actually not very patient sometimes and especially in this case when it's something I want and just need to know so I can plan and organise everything.
Our SW went to an exchange day on Tuesday and she said there was quite a lot of interest in our profile! She obviously had to tell the SW's that we had a selection visit yesterday but if it didn't proceed any further she would be in touch. I was actually quite amazed that so many other SWs were interested in us!
Sorry for go off on a tangent!
X x x x
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Post by amberle on May 15, 2014 18:39:14 GMT
That's because you will be great parents!!! Sorry the waiting time drags and if I could I would give you the answer tomorrow..but as I am not in charge I am afraid I can't help..lol.
But on the plus side, you have tea and cakes to keep you company xx
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Post by gilreth on May 15, 2014 19:06:47 GMT
Really pleased for you Ladybug. Just to reassure you - we met Sqk's SW on 27th Aug and were at matching panel on 30th Sept to avoid him going into respite. So if it can be done in a month it can certainly be done in nearly 2.
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Post by ladybug on May 16, 2014 6:36:17 GMT
That's great to know Gilreth. We are just not sure when matching panel dates are because the girls are from a different LA from the one we went with, our agencies dates we know are first Tuesday of every month..
DH keeps checking everytime an email comes through to see if it is our SW with news and dates!! He is a nightmare, bless him.
X x x
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Post by ladybug on May 16, 2014 21:09:12 GMT
Hmmm...feeling a bit confused about our selection visit now.  Had an email from SW she had a quick email from girls SW saying she wanted us to think about the match a bit longer and make sure that the girls are best suited to us! Does it mean that meeting didn't go as well as we had thought? Our SW has asked us to write a brief paragraph on why we feel we can meet the girls needs and our feelings on the match ie when we first saw them, how we wanted to wait for them and not pursue any other children. Also Lollipop's opinion and how she feels. Not sure how to feel. Am a bit upset right now if I am honest. |
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Post by knight on May 16, 2014 22:02:23 GMT
Oh, Ladybug: that does sound confusing: they did say that no-one else was in the running, didn't they and I'm guessing they asked these questions when they came? Maybe they just want to be absolutely sure, that you're sure?? The fact that you wanted to wait for them and not pursue others speak volumes. What feeling did you get when SW was there? Did you feel that you both got how you feel across? how you feel you can meet their needs/what their needs would be? etc etc? x
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Post by moo on May 17, 2014 4:56:09 GMT
Oohhh sorry ladybug this is very tuff.... Never heard of this tbh..... Hugs for you {{}}
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by amberle on May 17, 2014 5:24:23 GMT
Ladybug it must be very confusing, whilst not sure i am with Knight - that they just want to make sure you are sure. After you have met and clearly have the full profile. So now know the full extent of everything. You have had a few days to take it all in and think about it..just want you to be sure.
It's a bit of a rubbish way to go about it, but maybe that's what they are trying to achieve. And asking you to write stating your not looking at any other profiles tells me it looks promising although I would be feeling the same as you.
The only thing that I think you can do, is do what SW asks and see how you go from there..big hugs xx
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Post by ladybug on May 17, 2014 6:13:23 GMT
The only questions their SW asked was about finance and were we considering any other children! Perhaps we weren't gushy enough about the girls |
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Post by amberle on May 17, 2014 7:06:55 GMT
We were asked that too xx
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Post by moo on May 17, 2014 10:01:07 GMT
Can't believe you weren't or your s/w would have said.... It's prolly just a bonkers s/w moment....
Hang in be gushy in your written thingy & fingers crossed xx
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by moo on May 20, 2014 3:49:58 GMT
Thinking of you ladybug.... Sending you positive vibes....
Have to confess to 'un - crossing' for a bit yesterday it was very tricky in my acting midwife capacity with the delivery of Spicie & Demererra's calves!!?? ( Spicie had a boy :- her first after previously having 7 girls in a row!?,? So a real shock for me & her I bet... ) First time mum Demererra had a beautiful girl....
But back double crossed now!?!?
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by ladybug on May 20, 2014 7:04:56 GMT
Thank you Moo.
Wow two little new lives.
Sent our email yesterday to our SW a bit more than 1 paragraph more like 4 but hopefully got our point across. Not really expecting to hear anything until at least Wednesday. Still hoping it is because our SW replied with a yes so soon after the meeting that the girls SW thinks we haven't had enough time to really think about it. Our SW is a student still and we are her first adopters so I think maybe she is as eager as you for a match!
Only time will tell.
X x x
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Post by imp on May 20, 2014 9:04:40 GMT
I think you are right ladybug. In these current times a good SW will want to be absolutely sure that they have the best possible match, and that the Adopters are making decisions with their head as well as their heart.
I am sure that the extra time/ information you are being asked for is so that they are as sure as they can be that you have made a considered decision about these girls---in as much reality as possible after seeing their video---rather than the two LOs you read about on paper and have imagined. Hope that makes sense?
We are currently going through the same sort of thing from a FC perspective. One of our LO has been matched, but the Adopters are being asked to have a more intense opportunity to consider LO before they go to panel (sounds strange put like that but can't go into details on an open board)
If these are the right ones for you I am sure that your latest submission will support this. Good Luck.
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Had an email from SW she had a quick email from girls SW saying she wanted us to think about the match a bit longer and make sure that the girls are best suited to us! Does it mean that meeting didn't go as well as we had thought? 