Partridge porkies

Partridge had a very BAD DAY on Saturday

He told us he was going to work
Was rather vague
So I did suspect something was fishy

And sure enough- despite initial protests he's lied to go Christmas shopping for his dear family and friends.... He unravelled and turns out he'd got a bus bus for saving an old ladies handbag from being nicked

Used this bus pass to get the other side of the city where his latest gf happens to live
According to him he just ended up there and wandered to see her!!!
It's a tiny village with nothing there
He's even lying to himself

He's been ok at saying sorry for lying
But I'm very stressed because of what he did afterward

I asked him to consider what ways he could put things right
And he thought of curfew and then giving notice of what plans we have
So I celebrated good thinking
But gently pointed out that neither of these things address the deceptive behaviour
And if he'd like a curfew at 18- he's the person to implement it

He needs such a lot of parenting! But at 18 I can't do it, he's so rejecting

Then came the corker
I tried to demonstrate that by lying then putting things right- it can repair relationships
And gave an example of the trouble mr pt and I had a few years back with him lying and us working it through.

Then partridge said anyway in not scared of you guys now and I'm not a violent person
So I said good that's good you feel you can trust us now 12 yrs in

He said 'no I know I could easily break your arms if I needed to'
I'm not violent because if that day I broke your wrist mum.
Mind you- that was in self defence...

WHAT ?!

Apparently I was telling him off ANd moved my hand

That meant I deserved what was coming
Plus I'd hit him lots of times and been on the edge of abusive
I've hit them and dragged pip by her hair apparently

I just sat with my mouth open
Not one bit is true

I felt and still feel rocked by this!
Mr pt went and talked about perceptions to him and that these things are reLly awful to say because actually they are just his perception

And in everyone else's perception they didn't happen

I'm just horrified

All because of lying

Way more complex because of SNOGGATE issues I know but I am just staggered