Birthday Parents Meeting

Hi there,

Yes, I had a meeting with Birth Mother and Birth Grandmother probably a year or so into placement.

My Social Worker helped me come up with some questions but my memory is a little faded on it. My Social Worker took comprehensive notes for me during the meeting so I have got a record of it somewhere - that may be worth thinking about for you. It's such an emotionally turbulent thing, you may find that afterwards you can't remember what was said.

I think I asked:
- how and why their names were chosen (whether they were linked to something special)
- was there a message she would like me to pass on once my children were old enough to hear it
- were there any photos she had which could be included in a Life Story Book for them when they were older

I think that was all actually, it didn't last very long.

My Social Worker and I had already agreed she would field any questions from the Birth Mother to me so that I didn't accidentally give too much information.

Good luck and I hope it goes well for you.