The way you describe Special K reminds me a lot of Butterfly. The only thing that helped at times was taking complete control.
Making a minute by minute plan for each day. No surprises and safety by knowing what would happen at any point. Including food, portions and making sure there was enough exercise, so any mental overstimulation could be run off. I know he is older, so this is much trickier to achieve. But he doesn't know you well yet, so you have more of a chance for him to respond well to boundaries. Would he be up for digging in the allotment? Seems an obvious therapeutic tool. Learning about food at the same time and knowing more will grow. If food is used as a control tool, maybe not respond to demands to buy things which will be rejected anyway. As long as he eats enough generally and is not anorexic, it's his choice if he wants to reject. He will eat more the next meal when he is more hungry. I really hope he will learn to trust you.
Hi Serrakunda Thinking of you now that school is underway. I went back to work this last week and that hit me like a tonne of bricks; even though Paddington has been brilliant and settled back a school very well.
I hope all the transitions for you and Special K and Simba are going as well as they can be.
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