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Post by scaredycats on Aug 29, 2022 19:47:18 GMT
Are there any threads on interracial adoption or any resources mentioned please?
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Post by moo on Aug 29, 2022 20:08:55 GMT
No Scaredycats Cannot Remember Seeing Any Sorry....
Maybe AUK Archive ( if you can get in, I never could or find content )
Good Luck...
Xx moo xx
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Post by flutterby on Aug 30, 2022 10:24:32 GMT
We are an "international" family with 5 different ethnic backgrounds spanning 3 continents, if this is helpful at all. Can't remember threads either other than discussing haircare where white parents had adopted children with afro hair.
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Post by serrakunda on Sept 3, 2022 10:53:52 GMT
Simba is mixed race, I’m white
can we help?
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Post by chotimonkey on Sept 6, 2022 13:37:21 GMT
We have 5 different ethnicities between us… i’ mixed race Indian/ emglish, hubby is white s aftican/ emglish, kiddies are different mixes… Hapy to help if we can xx
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Post by scaredycats on Oct 10, 2022 21:48:10 GMT
Me to her teachers: how can we all support my AD in her identity? Teachers: children this age don’t see colour. She won’t know she looks a bit different at this age.
I don’t know where to start…
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Post by flutterby on Oct 11, 2022 6:53:46 GMT
My first reaction to your question was shoot the teacher. But I guess this would be politically incorrect.
This teacher obviously needs some serious training. What's the ethnic mix within the school? - I'm asking because most of my kids went to Catholic schools and they attract students from all over the world - so in a way race never was an issue, because everyone was different. This diversity was celebrated by having whole days dedicated to students' different backgrounds with students being invited to showcase their cultures and traditions. The one thing the students had in common was they were Catholic.
Interestingly, until race became racist (around the time when slave trade seemed a good idea and was a great business model as part of colonialism) people did not identify friend and foe via people's looks but via their religion.
Is the teacher's outlook a general "ethos" within school? If not, I would raise this with the headteacher/governors.
Does your child feel different? Maybe this could be a starting point with the teacher. To explain what your child says to you and how it is affecting their self esteem. They have so many identity issues anyway due to being adopted and race can complicate this even more.
Children do look in the mirror each day. Has there been any bullying?
As a parent at home, and particularly as an adoptive one, the best you can try and do, is to give your child an identity within your family. All my children have different fathers with different ethnicities and Butterfly, although not black, struggled with feeling "too dark" and her hair being too curly. I was horrified by it tbh, she's got such beautiful skin/hair. So I kept pointing out self tanning products to her, curling tongues etc and kept on commenting on adverts on TV. Whilst she would prefer straight hair, she now loves the fact others would pay lots of money to have her hair and seems to be more drawn to characters on telly who are more like her.
Before it was always blond and blue eyes girls she liked, the total opposite of her.
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