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Post by mudlark on Sept 6, 2021 16:42:48 GMT
A new thread as a new topic but related. Peewit aged 11 has been horrified by his sisters clandestine written contact with their
birth family, as well as other stuff she has done of recent weeks.
It has stirred up lots of emotions. To cut a long story short. He has written a short letter to both birth parents articulating his hurt and anger at what they did to him, neglect and witness to violence , exposure to drugs. The letter is angry and criticises them both quite openly. His aim he says is to make them feel sad and sorry.
Will the letterbox people send it? Should I send it - Peewit is so angry and hurt and vehement he want me to send it.
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Post by mooster on Sept 7, 2021 12:37:51 GMT
Oh Mudlark, my heart goes out to you all and wee Peewit trying to get his head round everything.
Rock and hard place come to mind; you knowing Peewit feelings and also the likely result of sending this on. Perhaps a few days thinking time? I imagine it may take more than a few days though for feelings to subside.
Wanting to blame can be a very strong driving force, not always a healthy one in my experience. Then again truly understandable when you want others to understand your feelings and the impact of their actions.
Sending much love to the ((Mudlarks))
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Post by moo on Sept 8, 2021 6:11:39 GMT
Hi mudlark
baa has the same very strong feelings about boys bf & trauma that they both experienced, I know slightly different than your current situation for Peewit but I think the venom is very similar & fiercely felt 😿
No I do not think ss will send it... they will be full of usual guff about life choices & bf feelings etc....
Moosters few days to think is a good plan but if Peewit is like baa he will be more determined in a few days & vengeful if that is possible... for his closure I would deffo send it if you know the address...
Sending hugs xxx
Xx moo 🐮
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Post by flutterby on Sept 19, 2021 8:48:29 GMT
I'm very late to this and maybe no longer relevant. Personally, I think it is important that Peewit's voice is heard. Whether or not to actually send this letter is another matter. If they might know where you live by now, it may be better on file at SS for the time being. But Peewit has every right to be angry with them and maybe some lifestory work might help with this too.
He is probably also scared with his sister having opened a Pandora's box and him now being forced to confront things he was quite happy to forget. It shows incredible maturity and clarity that he is able to see things for what they are. He needs validation and empathy how all this is affecting him.
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Post by mudlark on Sept 19, 2021 16:16:28 GMT
Thanks Flutterby - yes I agreed, in the end, that his voice should be heard but also decided that sending the letters he wrote might damage any future relationship he may want to have with them - not sure about my logic but it seemed to make sense to me.
So I wrote my usual letterbox letter to them - well not usual at all as I didn't bother with all the nice things we did over the summer because the summer was utterly blighted by lapwings' other on line behaviour resulting in police investigation. Anyway I did tell the birth parents about Peewits letter and told them that both children have now read the 'later life letter' and so both know much of the 'bad stuff' that happened. I voiced Peewits anger and hurt for him and in doing so I hope protect him slightly from any future fallout.
What a minefield it all is. What an amazing boy he is!
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