Post by mudlark on Apr 5, 2020 21:50:29 GMT
Some may remember me talking about a therapist Lapwing and I saw weekly for nearly five years. She became a friend and absolutely loved Lapwing, which not many people do ( Lapwing is difficult but wonderful) Anyway this lovely person who transformed us and gave Lapwing a way forward and indeed me. a way to re consider how I reacted, she became a true guiding light to Lapwing and myself.
She had strong views and now and again we argued, I got cross, ( I always sort of liked that we could argue) but I always knew that however much we fell out, ( hardly ever) she totally adored my daughter. A few days ago she texted me to ask me to buy a present for Lapwings 11th birthday, which is on Wednesday. She died last night. Lapwing sad. I am sad.
In such times as these I will not be able to go to her funeral and that feels difficult.
I couldn't think where I could write or who I could tell, but this moment is a moment we all have felt, will feel. LOSS. I looked at Lapwing today when I told her... I saw in her eyes...she already knew Loss. So my friend, her therapist would have said, "Don't rescue her, feel it with her. The word was always empathy, empathy empathy!" It is a shock or jolt or deep pain when people die and leave us...but they always leave something behind, it may be a smile, a way with words, a philosophy on life, a glass half full, a deep melancholy, a soft look, a shared journey, a held memory, an ability to laugh and have a laugh, or a well loved connection...what ever it is.. that is the treasure to keep.
She had strong views and now and again we argued, I got cross, ( I always sort of liked that we could argue) but I always knew that however much we fell out, ( hardly ever) she totally adored my daughter. A few days ago she texted me to ask me to buy a present for Lapwings 11th birthday, which is on Wednesday. She died last night. Lapwing sad. I am sad.
In such times as these I will not be able to go to her funeral and that feels difficult.
I couldn't think where I could write or who I could tell, but this moment is a moment we all have felt, will feel. LOSS. I looked at Lapwing today when I told her... I saw in her eyes...she already knew Loss. So my friend, her therapist would have said, "Don't rescue her, feel it with her. The word was always empathy, empathy empathy!" It is a shock or jolt or deep pain when people die and leave us...but they always leave something behind, it may be a smile, a way with words, a philosophy on life, a glass half full, a deep melancholy, a soft look, a shared journey, a held memory, an ability to laugh and have a laugh, or a well loved connection...what ever it is.. that is the treasure to keep.