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Post by serrakunda on Jun 12, 2016 18:19:34 GMT
seriously at what age can you reasonably expect them to sit at a table and eat a meal without it ending up on the floor, on the table, down their clothes and round their faces
and as for using a knife and fork even vaguely properly
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Post by corkwing on Jun 12, 2016 18:35:23 GMT
With birth kids, I'd have expected them to do it reasonably successfully by about age 4. For yogurt, maybe a year or two later. Spaghetti bolognese... well into teenage years.
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Post by serrakunda on Jun 12, 2016 18:50:55 GMT
Spooky
How did you know it was Spag Bol?
But it's the same whatever he eats. Even gets yoghurt in his hair
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Post by flutterby on Jun 12, 2016 19:22:19 GMT
Would it make you feel better if I told you hubby was worse than the kids?  ?  |
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Post by serrakunda on Jun 12, 2016 19:37:14 GMT
If he was my hubby he would be my ex
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Post by mudlark on Jun 12, 2016 21:00:43 GMT
I wish it were just the kitchen floor, I found a baked bean embedded in the sole of a slipper and a pea in my cup of tea the other day, I often remove shreds of breakfast from Lapwings hair......
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Post by pingu on Jun 13, 2016 6:25:52 GMT
Speg bol. does seem a hard one to deal with ! I heard a teacher at our school dinner hall telling a kid (8-10 approx.) to "eat it properly don't 'sook' it up "on Friday
My ds2 is 12 - only got his knife and fork the right way round this year. ds1 can be clumsy, but has dyspraxia so he has an excuse. Hubby can be messy occassionally but the last spill at our tea table was actually me as I misjudged the tightness level of the lid on a juice bottle!
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Post by flutterby on Jun 13, 2016 7:20:41 GMT
Can I just clarify one point. Hubby does use knife and fork! But he has this legendary knack for spilling things down his front.
In the great scheme, I think spills are the least of our problems.
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Post by serrakunda on Jun 13, 2016 8:49:40 GMT
Simba is nearly 12 though. And I assume that hubby doesn't kick up a fuss about changing his shirt or cleaning himself up.
Yes in themselves the spills are minor issues but then its the battle to get him to clean his face, change his shirt, wash hands etc
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Post by flutterby on Jun 13, 2016 12:51:26 GMT
That's very true. I suppose it's the aftermath, the constant battles. Serving only 'dry' food with no colours, i.e. no tomato-based foods etc simply isn't an option. How would he respond to this, if you have not tried it yet? You put a fresh set of clothes at the other end of the table for him to change into after a meal if necessary and put wet wipes there too. You explain well before meals that from now on he gets changed straight after. It's easier for him, because he doesn't need to do a transition, it becomes part of the meal. In fact he doesn't even have to get up for it. He can change his top at the table, get wiped down etc. Or would he object to a tea towel or adult apron as a bib? Anything to make your life easier really. My 14-year-old now wears an apron for spag bowl as a matter of cause even when she has friends around, and I am not forcing her, she has just got used to it. It's all about trying preserve your own sanity.
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Post by elderberry on Jun 13, 2016 13:34:29 GMT
DD doesn't eat with a knife and fork at all at home. She will use a spoon if the item is too liquid to be ingested otherwise, but everything up to and including mashed potato is eaten with her hands. She is capable of eating properly (she does at school), it's just a control thing combined with the fact that that's how she ate in her birth family. I have stopped making a fuss for the sake of my sanity.
I also long ago stopped insisting that we eat at the kitchen table because it was just causing too many battles, and since it's only the two of us I wasn't convinced we needed "family meals". So she sits on the floor and eats at the coffee table in front of the TV. I sit on the sofa and eat off a lap tray. That is actually harder to do, so usually I'm the one who needs to change my clothes, though she's the one who spreads food all over the table and the floor.
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Post by mudlark on Jun 13, 2016 20:37:53 GMT
Lapwing has a spag bol t shirt...she changes into it when she has spag bol or anything too messy I then don't have any stress about stains etc.
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