School refusal from teenager Mar 14, 2016 21:46:50 GMT
Post by rosie on Mar 14, 2016 21:46:50 GMT
We have had massive difficulties getting dd year 10 to school since Christmas, and some days have not managed it. Emotionally she is a bit wobbly at present having completed some life story therapy which contained some very tricky stuff, and the pressures of year 10 homework and tests seem too much for her at present. We are also having massive meltdowns and volatile behaviour over completing homework. I have been into school several times and they have put in some programmes to build her self esteem, but things have escalated with her refusing school 3 times last week. Post adoption have been supportive and are intending to come into school with me to discuss dd's difficulties and to ask them to put some support in place to help her become less anxious. They feel homework should be done at school. I am wondering how this will work in reality in year 10 as she has so much homework; and am worried she will end up having detentions for not completing it. They have already told me she cannot drop any subjects. Unless homework is supervised it will not be done, and the school does not have a supervised homework club. dd also struggles to organise herself, so revising and organising herself for homework are very difficult for her; she relies on us so much to get her organised. Because dd is quite bright apart from maths, school do not seem to understand how much she struggles with this; although I have tried to explain. Has anyone had good support from school over school refusal, organisational difficulties and homework at secondary school ? What sort of support has been offered ? I want to go to the meeting with some idea of what to ask for. I would love to leave homework at school but do not think they will provide the support she needs in school. DH and I have accepted she will probably not do well in exams at this time in her life; and have found out there are some good courses she could do at 16 even if she does fail most of them; it is getting her into school daily and surviving the next 14 months that is our immediate concern.