Post by sockthing on Jan 22, 2016 10:15:59 GMT
so... I spoke to the Head about the incidents in my other thread and made it clear I don't know for sure that any of my facts are straight or indeed connected to each other but this is certainly something to be kept an eye on. She was concerned and sensible, and agreed it needs to be on staff radar without over-reacting.
In in the meantime, kipper this morning has been saying "made you look made you stare, made you lose your underwear". I laughed and said I remembered people saying that at school when I was was a child. He then said that "boy X" says it to him a lot. I asked does he say it to other people too, and Kipper says "not so much". So again - I don't know how much this boy is saying it and whether it is upsetting Kipper.
The thing is Boy X, is best friends with Boy Y, who is the one that told Kiipper that "Avengers" is babyish (Kipper also came home with his Avengers glasses case broken, and also stopped wearing his Avengers glasses to school).
I tried to to chat to Kipper this morning, have asked if Boy X ever calls him silly names (no mummy), but I suspect they are all of them all calling each other poo heads etc all the time.
I have told Kipper that sometimes children call each other names and it's just a bit of fun, but if someone ever calls you a name a lot, and it stops feeling fun and makes you feel sad inside then it's best to tell a teacher.
Problem is, kipper doesn't always "get" social subtleties, vocal intonations, the difference between gentle joking and meanness. He clams up when I tried to talk about it, and gives the impression of not listening and tries to change the subject. Also, there is a danger now that just having mentioned it he will perceive any silly name calling as something to worry about, when I know perfectly well that boys especially are quite brutal with each other and a bit of joshing is just perceived as part and parcel of being male. It's also possible he will worry about the difficulty of knowing whether someone is being mean. He won't disclose any of this to me of course, and I'm not really sure that he recognises these difficulties that he has.
He is a potential target for bullying - glasses, clumsy, needs more support and attention from the adults, naive, scared of the videos they out on at school and leaves the room when they come on. Also clever and a little eccentric.
I have ordered a red a book about bullying. But anyone got any thoughts, advice?
How do I prepare/teach him without confusing him? How do I know when to talk to the school again?
i feel so cr&p at this stuff. I m great at tuning into kipper but feel very inexperienced and clueless in navigating the greater world for him.
In in the meantime, kipper this morning has been saying "made you look made you stare, made you lose your underwear". I laughed and said I remembered people saying that at school when I was was a child. He then said that "boy X" says it to him a lot. I asked does he say it to other people too, and Kipper says "not so much". So again - I don't know how much this boy is saying it and whether it is upsetting Kipper.
The thing is Boy X, is best friends with Boy Y, who is the one that told Kiipper that "Avengers" is babyish (Kipper also came home with his Avengers glasses case broken, and also stopped wearing his Avengers glasses to school).
I tried to to chat to Kipper this morning, have asked if Boy X ever calls him silly names (no mummy), but I suspect they are all of them all calling each other poo heads etc all the time.
I have told Kipper that sometimes children call each other names and it's just a bit of fun, but if someone ever calls you a name a lot, and it stops feeling fun and makes you feel sad inside then it's best to tell a teacher.
Problem is, kipper doesn't always "get" social subtleties, vocal intonations, the difference between gentle joking and meanness. He clams up when I tried to talk about it, and gives the impression of not listening and tries to change the subject. Also, there is a danger now that just having mentioned it he will perceive any silly name calling as something to worry about, when I know perfectly well that boys especially are quite brutal with each other and a bit of joshing is just perceived as part and parcel of being male. It's also possible he will worry about the difficulty of knowing whether someone is being mean. He won't disclose any of this to me of course, and I'm not really sure that he recognises these difficulties that he has.
He is a potential target for bullying - glasses, clumsy, needs more support and attention from the adults, naive, scared of the videos they out on at school and leaves the room when they come on. Also clever and a little eccentric.
I have ordered a red a book about bullying. But anyone got any thoughts, advice?
How do I prepare/teach him without confusing him? How do I know when to talk to the school again?i feel so cr&p at this stuff. I m great at tuning into kipper but feel very inexperienced and clueless in navigating the greater world for him.
