Glad that's all cleared up....

If you'd just use a sticker chart she'd stop waking up in the night and asking not to go to school

Oh yes....of course it would....alternatively you could try the naughty step....

((hugs))

Also mentioned was the 'she'll grow out of it...'

Basic parenting course must be required!

Rosie, you name it they've had it...
Attachment training, pasw, dds therapist, virtual school...
It's not that they're not trying, they have been very accommodating and are willing to try anything that's suggested. When it comes down to it dd just puts on such a good front I think they don't believe she has any real problems. They ask if she's ok, she says 'yes' therefore there's no problem....

Warning, this may cause offence (although none is intended).

My children were in a church school when we faced similar issues. In one meeting, (after visits and training from PAS, therapists, Ed Psych etc had had no effect),I tried a completely different approach. I offended one teacher hugely - but four other staff members were able to see my point and did change their stance.

I challenged the staff to think about their teaching of, or their own personal, belief in God. I said they were expecting children (many of whom were not fully capable of abstract thought) to believe in God - yet they could not see Him, touch Him or see any physical 'evidence' that He existed. I was simply asking them as adults capable of abstract thought, to believe in well documented and evidenced issues that were not a figment of my imagination or caused by me but were known to exist and had been witnessed by others - but that they personally, in the school setting, had not yet seen for themselves. I asked them to believe in my children's needs despite not being able to see them for themselves and said that, once they believed/accepted, they would actually begin to see the evidence of it for themselves because their eyes would be opened to it. I questioned their need to see something themselves in order to believe in it and 'respond' to it.

It was the LSAs who accepted this the most - and they were then able to see little things that were previously unrecognised (by them) 'markers' and they finally began to realise how much my children were struggling in school and how desperate they were to seem 'normal' (yet not able to cope with the stress it caused them/how much effort it was).