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Post by corkwing on Oct 10, 2015 17:53:35 GMT
It may be my fault, I guess. For years I've been suggesting to everyone that it's not helpful inviting Mackerel to his PEP meeting and I didn't do that for his latest one. I kind of forgot that it's a new school and his social worker hasn't been with him long. I can't even remember if she's been at a PEP meeting for him before.
Anyway, luckily he wasn't in from the start so we got some stuff done. Then they called him in to see what feedback he had, and he went off on one about a completely unrelated incident.
At least the social worker had the sense to just break up the meeting after about 10 minutes and let us all get out of there.
And he totally ignored me. Didn't say hello or goodbye.
We'd also had our first family contact since he moved. I did find it distressing that twice, in the car, he threatened to punch Sprat in the face. Then, when playing basketball back at the care home, he swung the ball hard at Sprat as if he was going to slam it into him. He did that a number of times. And finally he decided he was bored and just dumped us.
It did make me realise again that I really couldn't cope with him any more.
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Post by serrakunda on Oct 10, 2015 18:17:51 GMT
(((((Cork wing))))
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Post by esty on Oct 10, 2015 20:20:14 GMT
Its not you Corkwing its his past! so painful for all. Hugs.
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Post by bop on Oct 11, 2015 8:39:13 GMT
So sad Corkwing - ((hugs))
As Esty says its you have to hang on to the fact that this is rooted in his early life stuff and that you and Kermit have done the best you could for him...one day he may realise that.
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Post by monkey on Oct 11, 2015 18:03:02 GMT
Corkwing, I really feel for you. You always have such positive and uplifting messages for the rest of us. Hope you're having a better day today.
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Post by damson on Oct 12, 2015 19:56:20 GMT
((( CW))) You can't herd professionals, even if it makes sense. or perhaps especially if it makes sense. Were you thinking the PEP would be a productive hour? Anyway, the new school will have got the idea by now.
Sorry to hear that contact was unpleasant and threatening. He wasn't much company when he lived nearby, and distance clearly hasn't made the heart grow fonder. What arrangements does the school make for Christmas, as this is a major flashpoint?
xxx Damson
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Post by corkwing on Oct 13, 2015 8:36:11 GMT
Damson - school shuts down for the normal holidays so it's just the care home. We haven't discussed Christmas with them, but previously we haven't had any direct contact on Christmas Day itself. It's a hard day for everyone to handle! That's been an incredibly tough decision to make.
What do you do about Christmas?
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Post by sockthing on Oct 13, 2015 9:31:13 GMT
So sorry to hear how hurtful it's been for you, Corkwing.
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Post by sivier on Oct 13, 2015 13:41:27 GMT
The ignoring must hurt - so sorry Corking. Take care.
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