Eldest is not adopted has everything he wants or had every he wanted and is smart.
But oh lord is he lazy !
His term started on Monday. So just 1 week in and I am trying not to explode.
English homework Friday. 2 pages. We agreed he'd do 1 page, I made tea early so he could play out. The other page to be done today as football mafch later than normal. So it's now 10.30 & he has done zero except needle me. It's my fault the world turns, it's raining, etc etc. but of course according to him I give all my attention to youngest ! Oh and it's not fair that youngest doesn't get any homework. He is in year 7 & youngest in year 1 !!!
On a separate note whilst I'm moaning on holiday oldest didn't like the beach so we stayed by the pool most of the time.
Two things strike me. Firstly I always assumed it would be younger child that would be jealous but in fact it's the eldest unless youngest just can't verbalise the feeling yet.
Secondly and this does worry me. Ii am struggling big time with eldest behaviours. He is 11 and from friends his behaviour is normal I'm scared of how I will react with youngest.
Whinge over. He has returned to the table and is demanding my presence.
I recognise the laziness my ds2 is about the same age and very bright, but his chief ambition at the moment is to be average. Minimum homework he can get away with and we are such bullying parents for making him do it. If we ask him to also put his clothes away, or set the table we are being indescribably cruel ! His tactic is to make such a fuss about doung it that maybe we will think twice about asking him to do anything ( think again son)
I would explode/ implode if I didn't have a moan every now and again....! My two are almost the same ages as yours cowgirl, they've started secondary school and infants in the same week, both anxious although with different responses to the anxiety and both needing my full attention at all times!!! They compete a lot, sometimes feels like they've got their own mini trauma bond going on
Birth mum to Charlie (14) and adoptive mum to Lola (8)
Hi Cowgirl defnately don't feel guilty about whinging. Sometimes just letting it all here where people are supportive and non judgemental is a necessary release. I know I rely on this group of virtual friends enormously in hard times.
Hoping your weekend is giving you some little space for yourself! ( Archers in the bath?!)
Mum to DD Lapwing (13) & DS Peewit (12) Married to Mr Mudlark
Sympathise with the homework having had an awful weekend trying to persuade dd to do all her homework. She is starting GCSE courses now and feel she should be taking more responsibility for it herself; but no hope there. With dd it is distraction all the time. If homework involves the internet, she is constantly switching to games or video clips when left to get on. We limit times on laptops etc. but if she wastes the time rather than doing her homework she then runs out of time to complete the actual homework. Felt really stressed too on Sunday. Just wish she would realise if she got on with the homework she would complete it quickly and then have more time to do the things she really wants to do.