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Post by lankelly on Aug 22, 2015 22:29:42 GMT
Our son is nine soon. Please help, whenever I follow his wish list it's a wipe out.
What's out there and current with your boys? Top ten list....?
He's not sporty nor academic. Has some gaming stuff with limited interest, but really has never learned to play much imaginatively. Tonight he was relaxed enough to make a castle from books and pool his soldiers knights etc to fight around it... trying to build a better bond with him it seems rather inadequate right now so any ideas for presents to play with together?
I thought swing ball but it looks plasticky and very breakable a big problem here...?! Rules for games need to be simple but with excitement to the content. He's big on collecting but not so much on doing much with it all, more about acquisition for him then onto the next thing. Thanks in advance.
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Post by pingu on Aug 22, 2015 23:04:22 GMT
Would he enjoy a board games set , Snakes and ladders, ludo, draughts , etc to play against you?
Jenga, dominoes, Twister, jigsaw
Or a model kit of some sort that he could build with yoiur help,
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Post by monkey on Aug 23, 2015 8:02:02 GMT
Lego or Playmobil?
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Post by serrakunda on Aug 23, 2015 13:06:28 GMT
We have swingball, it's held up quite well to a lot of hard use.
What about games like Jenga, key plunk, buckaroo, no rules as such but they can get quite exciting
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Post by ham on Aug 23, 2015 17:33:45 GMT
I used to day out present. Just me and the child in question. Could you find a castle were they do reanactments ( if he could cope ), a trip to war hammer in Nottingham - they do courses .
One of mine liked train trips.
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Post by lankelly on Aug 23, 2015 18:03:35 GMT
Now that's a thought Ham...I think I'm due a day out with the first born, being older I tend to let dh take him away more now Marci get left with Tweedledee and Tweedledum. Perhaps I can do a night away at YHA with Moptop and catch a show. Thanks! Swing ball gets the vote too then, but a far cry from the iPad he'd really like of course.If I were a rich man...tedededededededa! Grateful really we made it to his ninth birthday.!
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Post by pluto on Aug 24, 2015 9:02:58 GMT
Kapla gets good use here......
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Post by lankelly on Aug 29, 2015 7:12:53 GMT
Well the day dawned on the ninth birthday...
Lego, swing ball, electronic set, knight on horse, travel hulk mug...
And a resounding....'Is that it?'
Yup. Getting better each year! (Irony btw)
See if his choice of day out to NT garden goes well today.
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Post by serrakunda on Aug 29, 2015 8:14:13 GMT
Nothing like appreciation for your efforts!
Is he disappointed by the number of presents or what's in them? I admit simba probably get about 15 parcels from me, but most of them are things I'd have to buy anyway, socks, pants, pjs, swimming trunks, toiletries, I don't often buy him clothes except for his birthday and Christmas so there's usually a couple of tshirts etc in there as well. , I theme them according to the latest obsession or current favourite film. This year he had minion stuff but the biggest hit was his London Underground map duvet set. So he gets lots of parcels, sees his interests in them, not that it's boring underpants or whatever
Hope your day out is successful.
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Post by lankelly on Aug 29, 2015 20:24:38 GMT
No way of knowing. He just obsesses with whAt he hasn't got. It's hard getting the amount right as he is so overwhelmed or upset on special days where gifts are involved. Our ideal birthday (which means happy child) hasn't happened since he was three really.
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Post by bop on Aug 29, 2015 21:38:41 GMT
Birthdays are so hard for our kids
DD1 really struggled - she didn't feel she could ask for anything (the fear of not getting it was too much) so we had to guess what she might like - but she got really upset if we guessed wrong....
The younger two cope better but we do play birthdays and Christmas down...
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Post by sooz on Aug 30, 2015 15:34:08 GMT
Snooz struggles with what he didn't get so we have a wish list and I tell him he can pick say 10 things or tell him to expect no more than 10 gifts and the remaining things can stay on his wish list for the next Xmas or birthday. He is very particular about what he wants, if he doesn't get them he thinks he hasn't deserved them or done something wrong so I have to manage his expectations to avoid disappointment.
It's not that he's not grateful for what he did get, he will just focus on what he didn't.
I can say something like, I think you deserve a really special gift because you are so wonderful...what would you choose if you could have anything for up to x pounds....
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Post by lankelly on Aug 30, 2015 21:46:05 GMT
Good idea Sooz. He is 100% happier today. Time to absorb his goods,wanted to go to church, and had massive swim. After the 'worstbirthday' ever experience that was declared after breakfast. By evening it had culminated in my having to put him outside the house as he was hurting sib so much for touching the presents..throwing swing ball poles at me and screaming obscenities. No other way. Very sad for both of us. But he did at least calm down after the event before bedtime.
On subject of gift ideas...Can recommend the SnapCircuits set btw. Moptop had it out working today, even though he can't read the manual he understood the principles enough to make flashing lights and sounds. There are forty variations to make on it.
May try to actually play swingball tomorrow.!LOL.
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