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ham
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Sorry not been around Jul 26, 2015 18:34:41 GMT

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Post by ham on Jul 26, 2015 18:34:41 GMT

Hi all

i have not completely disappeared of the face of the earth but planet adoption , issues with ex and mainly my dad has kept me away.

after a successful heart op my dad looked really well. But 3 weeks ago he was taken back into hospital with another bladder infection ( he has a catheter and cancer) .he had also been falling requiring 20 call out to ambulance to recover him .anyway while in hospital dementia kicked in big time and has no lucid moments.
although he now requires 24 /7 care, need 3 people to move him, mum insisted he went home despite SW and hospital saying he needs to be in a home.

my brother moved bedroom downstairs. Mum not coping and SW now saying he is not bad enough for a home. Even the carers can't get him out of bed, he is not eating or drinking. He awake all night singing, sleeping through the day.
mum constantly in tears .

Life is cruel. Just wish he would die

Single mum to a mixture of BC and AC all young adults.

cowgirl ASB Posts: 965	Sorry not been around Jul 26, 2015 18:52:29 GMT via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by cowgirl on Jul 26, 2015 18:52:29 GMT So sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you. Anything I can think of saying just sounds inadequate. Awful. Hugs
	A proud & lucky Mummy to BS (15) and AS (9)

sooz ASB Single Adopter Posts: 1,244	Sorry not been around Jul 26, 2015 21:04:13 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by sooz on Jul 26, 2015 21:04:13 GMT Oh ham, wish there was something I could do or say. Bless you. Keep posting when you can to offload xxxx
	Mum to Snooz, a quirky but fab 18 year old with ASD and Tourettes.

serrakunda ASB Single Adopter Posts: 4,965	Sorry not been around Jul 26, 2015 22:25:13 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by serrakunda on Jul 26, 2015 22:25:13 GMT Oh ham, it is so hard, it really is s living death, the person you loved has gone and what are you left with. I hope things resolve themselves one way or another soon
	Mum to the 'hansom' Simba, age 19 and 40 now retired teddy bears and FC to Special K, age 12

moo Administrator Posts: 10,348	Sorry not been around Jul 27, 2015 6:51:39 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by moo on Jul 27, 2015 6:51:39 GMT Awww ham hugs xxx how truly awful for you all.... Tuff seeing your beloved dad reduced to this {{{{}}}} Sending lorry loads of cyber support xxxx ( & damson gin.... ) Xx moo xx
	Proud single adoptive mummeee to brothers baa & skweek 18 👀 & 17 ( 38 & 23 months at placement together ) WoW Where Did The Time Go?....

corkwing ASB Married Adopter; one kid accomodated under Section 20 Posts: 2,118	Sorry not been around Jul 27, 2015 7:13:10 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by corkwing on Jul 27, 2015 7:13:10 GMT Sending you hugs, Ham
	I have 1 wife, Kermit, and 7 kids. 3 of them - Mackerel, Fairy Basslet & Sprat - are adopted

leo Moderator Single Adopter Posts: 1,133	Sorry not been around Jul 27, 2015 9:06:44 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by leo on Jul 27, 2015 9:06:44 GMT It's an awful situation. Thinking of you.
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haze ASB Married Adopter Posts: 172	Sorry not been around Jul 27, 2015 10:14:06 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by haze on Jul 27, 2015 10:14:06 GMT Hugs Ham. my mum has been on a downward spiral since her surgery in Feb & is deteriorating rapidly. It seems that dementia has set in & she has given up. I fear it won't be long.
	Mum to AD's Cashew (16) & Pistachio (14)

milly ASB Posts: 845	Sorry not been around Jul 27, 2015 14:57:22 GMT via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by milly on Jul 27, 2015 14:57:22 GMT It's heartbreaking. Hope things resolve themselves one way or another soon. Hugs
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mooster ASB Posts: 494	Sorry not been around Jul 28, 2015 5:58:04 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by mooster on Jul 28, 2015 5:58:04 GMT Thinking about you all Mooster x
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ham
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Sorry not been around Jul 29, 2015 0:55:18 GMT

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Post by ham on Jul 29, 2015 0:55:18 GMT

Thank you all.
They had no bed so spent 26 hours in A&E.
His breathing laboured and has had suction to clear his lungs. I chose not to go to hospital today as I had such a wonderful time with him and my mum yesterday ( does that sound weird ) I wanted to preserve those memories.
My brother and mum agreed got them to include DNR on his notes.

Single mum to a mixture of BC and AC all young adults.

kizim ASB Posts: 370	Sorry not been around Jul 29, 2015 1:36:11 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by kizim on Jul 29, 2015 1:36:11 GMT Sad news Ham. Hold onto those happy memories x
	Mum to DD's, Enigma (20) & Whizzy (15) - (adopted aged 2.5 & 1), plus HB, 1 dog, 2 cats

sooz ASB Single Adopter Posts: 1,244	Sorry not been around Jul 29, 2015 14:04:37 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by sooz on Jul 29, 2015 14:04:37 GMT Sending hugs xxxx
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mudlark ASB Married Adopter Posts: 2,525	Sorry not been around Jul 29, 2015 20:54:29 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by mudlark on Jul 29, 2015 20:54:29 GMT Thinking of you and your family ..in sounds heart breaking..xxx
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Sorry not been around Jul 30, 2015 20:28:54 GMT

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Post by lemonade on Jul 30, 2015 20:28:54 GMT

A difficult time for all - sending cyber ((((( HUGS )))))

Mum to AD's Bubbles (29yrs) and Fizz (28yrs) (came aged 6 & 7yrs). Now Grandma to GD Miss Bubbles (9 yrs) she lives with Daddy Bubbles & GS master Bubbles (6 yrs) he was in fc from 3 months old for a year, now returned to live with sister Miss Bubbles & Daddy Bubbles they all have no contact with Bubbles. Bubbles and new partner now have tiny bubbles SS on board. AD Fizz has DD Miss Fizz 3 yr old. Fizz has really turned her life around having finally got out of DA relationship.

moo Administrator Posts: 10,348	Sorry not been around Jul 31, 2015 6:22:53 GMT Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by moo on Jul 31, 2015 6:22:53 GMT Thinking of you ham xxx Xx moo xx
	Proud single adoptive mummeee to brothers baa & skweek 18 👀 & 17 ( 38 & 23 months at placement together ) WoW Where Did The Time Go?....

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