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Post by serrakunda on Jul 25, 2015 19:44:12 GMT
So we have survived, not so sure about the restaurant at the Premier Inn Holborn
on the positive side, London Transport Musuem went down well, friends from Cornwall were there, unbeknown to Simba, given the pelting rain they staged a very effective Surprise! moment from behind 6 large brollies.
Matilda was excellent. Hampton Court gardens were lovely and I even got to see a bit of the palace
on the downside, controlling behaviour is escalating, together with his need to hear I love you every 5 seconds, I am somewhat weary
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Post by knight on Jul 25, 2015 20:50:42 GMT
aww, glad it went well and you both had a great time.
Hope things settle for Simba a little over the holidays x
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Post by kstar on Jul 26, 2015 5:41:23 GMT
I agree Matilda is amazing! Glad you managed to enjoy parts of the weekend even if it was exhausting. Take some time to recover now! xx
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Post by corkwing on Jul 26, 2015 7:45:33 GMT
Hope he can relax a bit now that the stress of the impending birthday is over.
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Post by leo on Jul 26, 2015 8:19:40 GMT
Our life is full of these stark contrasts too and I have much sympathy for you as I know how exhausting it is. Can't quite believe Simba is already 11 though!
Not sure how far through your assessment of need you are but hope you get the support Simba needs soon.
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Post by serrakunda on Jul 26, 2015 10:06:32 GMT
Interesting comment corkwing, I have been mulling over 'stress' in Simbas life for a while. He is a very busy person, he needs a lot of physical activity, he is interested and curious in life and what's around him. We do a lot, but I try and balance it with down time. We didn't do anything last weekend apart from the allotment, today is a pyjama day. I'm not sure if his birthday is a particular trigger or just the busyness of life in general.
He loves the fuss and attention of his birthday, he talks about it for months leading up to it, he has already told me it's only 363 days to the next one. He had a great time in London, it fed into all his obsessions, the underground system, trains, buses, I've lost count of the number of times he's watched Matilda, he loves theatre, he loves staying in hotels. He had a great time in the maze at Hampton court and got to eat cake and ice cream.
One of the issues I have with work is really that it's not giving either of us enough chill out time.
It's me who had the stress this weekend. But the need for control is becoming overwhelming. After the the theatre he wanted us to in the opposite direction of the hotel, just so he could go to a tube station and line that he hadn't been on before. And he just won't let it go, he was still complaining about it on the way home yesterday. He does this all the time at home, trying to dictate how we get to places. Refusal to go if I won't go the way I say we need to go.
It has reached the point where he will argue about everything, even the clothes I am wearing
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Post by Janie2 on Jul 26, 2015 10:59:47 GMT
Oh this all sounds so familiar Serrakunda. DD 2 used to get completely stressed by Birthdays. So much so that if I arranged a birthday party and school friends came I had to remove her after a while and let the friends get on with it. She would also do a countdown of the days to the next one (and still does aged 20)! Hang on in there, I'm sure Simba will calm down in a while.
Take time for yourself.
Janie2
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Post by ham on Jul 26, 2015 18:12:49 GMT
Glad it went well.
Dd at 21 still the same
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Post by elderberry on Jul 27, 2015 8:49:26 GMT
I stupidly this week told DD we could go to the cake shop and order a special birthday cake, instead of buying from the supermarket as we usually do.
Cue biggest meltdown of the past six months, including really bad treatment of the cat, who finally managed to escape and negotiated the cat flap that he usually struggles with at breakneck speed (he's come back now and seems to have forgiven).
But eventually we did go, we did order the cake, and only another 10 days of chaos to go. Based on previous experience, once the birthday is over, everything will calm down completely.
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