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Post by kstar on Jul 17, 2015 22:18:32 GMT
Following the discussions amongst my Facebook friends after my "no one understands" thread, I have been pushed into starting a blog. It's really aimed at helping people to understand what I have been through to get to this point, and will eventually also deal with how we cope now. I thought I would give you the link in case anyone can find a little help, reassurance or at least something that resonates with you. It's nothing fancy - I write as I think and don't even edit! 20 mins a day max for writing. It's called Crazy Planet Adoption and the link is: crazyplanetadoption.wordpress.comThoughts and constructive criticism welcome!!! |
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Post by kstar on Jul 17, 2015 22:19:38 GMT
Ps it updates at the top so if you want to start at the beginning you need to scroll down! I've only done three days so far.
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Post by esty on Jul 18, 2015 7:35:19 GMT
I'll be following;-)
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Post by lemonade on Jul 21, 2015 13:27:12 GMT
Great read ... and not that different to ours 20 yrs ago. A no to us attending panel, just waiting at the end of the phone to see if our SW and the girls SW could convince the panel we were the ones! No to a prep course, they didn't do it then. Something to come back and bite us in the future, as SW said if we had of had prep course we wouldn't have made the mistakes we did!!!! Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm Not being able to meet up with any other adopters was tough and no internet in those days either, but as luck had it a friend of ours who at the time lived near us was in a similar situation. She adopted two children just six months before us and we have supported each other through the rough and high roads of adoption life and of course when I found all of you, who have been there as my support too  Somethings though don't change feelings, anxieties, photos of child (we didn't even get video's in our day lol). Our first meeting of our children was at foster parents, BUT prior to this visit and on the actual day we were to meet them. We had to meet with our SW and the girls SW in a little room, where they proceeded to discuss an adoption break down of a little girl and her newly adopted parents, nothing to do with us or our girls. Not the most encouraging way to start our first visit with our girls  Also agree with the middle class bubble it existed then and still does today. Some people are in for a shock of their lives! We have been exposed to life we would never have known, it has been a challenge and an experience to say the least. But we are still here and hanging on. Thanks for sharing Kstar |
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Post by mudlark on Jul 21, 2015 20:59:53 GMT
It'-s great...well done! It's always so heart-warming, life affirming, just lovely to read about an experience that you connect with, where you really know how the writer was feeling.
...and that you have written it down means that both you and starlet can enjoy it together in the future...
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Post by kstar on Jul 22, 2015 10:10:29 GMT
Thanks everyone! I'm finding it quite cathartic! It's really aimed at the people around me, I know my nearest and dearest try hard to get it, it's the others in the next circle - colleagues, Starlet's friends' parents, old friends on Facebook - the ones who don't see us often enough to really get it but who genuinely want to be supportive. Once I get myself caught up to the present day, I will try and tackle some more challenging topics! And at some point my lovely supporters here will get their own entry too!
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Post by kstar on Jul 22, 2015 10:11:44 GMT
PS Toko I love you reading it because you change my stats map - the other day I had 77 visitors, 76 from the UK and you! It makes my map look more interesting!
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Post by larsti on Jul 22, 2015 20:22:31 GMT
It's brill kstar 
I like the simple format.....very effective. IMHO you are natural writer
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Post by rosie on Jul 23, 2015 13:06:41 GMT
Am enjoying reading your blog. Can relate to many of the issues you mention as dd was 7 when she first came to us.
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Post by kstar on Aug 7, 2015 20:19:20 GMT
I think I'm developing a blogging addiction...
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Post by bop on Aug 8, 2015 16:49:18 GMT
Just been reading through your blog and I love it....well written, highlighting the challenges but with real warmth - well done |
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Post by kstar on Aug 8, 2015 19:11:30 GMT
Thanks everyone I'm finding it really quite therapeutic! Hopefully someone somewhere will find it useful - I know my family and friends are starting to understand a bit more of what is actually going on!
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Post by penguin11 on Aug 9, 2015 19:58:25 GMT
Hi Kstar, I haven't posted on this site before but I've just read your blog. Just wanted to say thank you ive been feeling a bit isolated recently. I can see lots of similarities between your daughter and mine especially the lovely day and then the enormous meltdown. My daughter has frequent meltdowns, I'm still quite new to this (18 months in) I try to look for the trigger, try to deesculate etc. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, its good to know she's not the only one. I also often find her wrapped in my pyjamas or dressing gown when I check on her at night (or find her in my bed!). Its good to know others are experiencing similar things.
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Post by kstar on Aug 10, 2015 23:05:27 GMT
Awww thank you Penguin! I blog mostly for very selfish reasons but if it helps someone else out then that makes me happy!
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Post by kstar on Aug 12, 2015 20:38:44 GMT
Taking a break for a couple of weeks from the blog for those of you have been reading! More when we get back from our holidays xx
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