... When they send the eagerly anticipated letter home and you see that your child has the same teacher again next year. The one who wrote the report you've just had that says she's gone from national average to below national minimum standard in a year. The one who tried to fob you off with PPP money being used already because she gets time with the full time class TA. The one whose comments on the report are not exactly radiating the warmth you want to feel from an 8 yr old's report.
Oh yeah and the letter also told us in the afternoons they'll be merged with the year below, making a class of 37!!!
No it's a tiny school they only have one class per year (the afternoons 37 will be year 3+4 combined, that's how tiny it is!)
I'm reluctant to go for a move of school because she's so so happy there. She loves school, has some amazing friends and I have built up great relationships with the other mums (there are only 9 girls in her year so we're quite a tight knit bunch) and they help me out a lot with our hectic lives!
I need to tackle the teacher really. I thought she was great to start with but now I think the cracks are starting to show. I am wondering if maybe Starlet's needs are starting to show more as she gets older, I know a few of you have mentioned 8 ish as a key age when things started to go pear shaped at school. Time for them to start using PP money properly!
On the positive side she has a teacher who already knows her well, albeit doesn't quite understand her - which gives you a good basis to discuss with them the best way to move forward next year. You should tackle the head re the PPP.
And, though it's hard to see your child slip in relative attainment, it can be about issues showing up more as they get older, rather than teacher failure, as you realise. (My older dd went from being a good average reader in year 2 to the only one in the class who didn't get level 4 at year 6. With her it was fear of tests and lack of self esteem more than lack of reading ability. Very frustrating but the issues remain three years on)
Hi kstar can you ask for ed psych input now it's showing Your child has on going difficulties? Moptop only got this after making progress but he was significantly behind his peers at end of year four juniors.he has always been behind btw... Just took this long to get ed psych in. He started in similar village school of 60 combined classes and ability and learned v little. In a town school single class environment that is less stimulating he learns better more focus etc. But part of it is maturing later , as you expect a competent seven yr old to. He is eight nearly nine. Can you liaise more with TA and ditch the expectation of teacher changing mindset? I know she should!
Mum (too old) to DS, Moptop (13), DD, Tweedledee (10), DS, Tweedledum (8), all placed separately. Crazed amazed and dazed every day. DH, Humpty, in the crazy house being a great Dad.
This happened to DD a few years ago. She had had the same teacher for 2 years. Said teacher hated DD (other children told their parents this independently) and she did not understand her, or want to understand her at all. We had to force DD to go to school in the last term with the bribe that she would not get the same teacher for a 3rd year particularly as it was her last year in primary school.
DD came out of school on the Monday of the last week in tears having a full scale melt down which turned into a panic attack as she had just been told she was having the same teacher again the next year. DD had lots of friends at this school but the teacher did not get her and DD knew the teacher hated her. I withdrew DD from school there and then and she did not go back for the rest of the term. We met with the head and said how silly it was that the same teacher had the same class for 3 years but they wouldn't change it. We went round schools and found another school she as happy with and got her in there. It was the best thing I ever did for her as she had two teachers who liked her, and as well as the teacher there were two fulltime classroom assistants to deal with two other children in the class. She blossomed to a certain extent in this new school although her troubles remain. she came out of school with a group of girls smiling and happy every day as opposed to the last school where she just looked miserable and was in tears 2 or 3 days a week.
Its not for everyone and I was criticised for doing it at the time but I don't regret it for a minute. Yes she had to make new friends, and we had to work hard to keep in touch with her old friends but we did it and I'd do it again. Every situation is different and only you can decide what is best for your DD.
Mum to 2 teenagers - DS, Thistle (16) and DD, Chanter (15)
Changing schools just isn't an option, our whole life is built around the friendships both of us have created there. I think from an attachment point of view, the solid foundations of friendship (bearing in mind 100% of the children go to the same secondary) are much more important to me than academic achievement at this stage. They have sent a letter home since explaining that many children who would have been at or above nationally expected standards last year will now be below because the government have moved the goalposts, surprise surprise.
I think the issue I need to tackle is the use of PPP money. I want it to be done sensitively so she doesn't feel singled out - she's paranoid about being treated differently!
Good luck kstar as you know we famously have had big problems with school.....
Even now our much much much better new school is very reluctant to spend the ppp money... Keep banging on about it not being ring fenced & needing to share it out to provide things that will benefit others too.... nothing I can do about it!? But not at all happy.....
Our la do fun attachment seminars & ed physc will also come into school to talk about different ways to engage & language etc.... our school seem keen to book these for their insets about £200 a go.... ( funded from ppp obviously!!)
Please let us know how you get on.... us small schools have it ruff coz school already know they can use it for general things that other children can benefit from..