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carp!
Jun 17, 2015 19:43:04 GMT
Post by sooz on Jun 17, 2015 19:43:04 GMT
...that is all....
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carp!
Jun 17, 2015 19:59:45 GMT
Post by ham on Jun 17, 2015 19:59:45 GMT
Hugs
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carp!
Jun 17, 2015 22:58:54 GMT
Post by serrakunda on Jun 17, 2015 22:58:54 GMT
Oh dear
Can you elaborate?
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carp!
Jun 18, 2015 9:17:49 GMT
Post by larsti on Jun 18, 2015 9:17:49 GMT
(((((sooz)))))
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carp!
Jun 18, 2015 15:16:35 GMT
Post by sooz on Jun 18, 2015 15:16:35 GMT
Sorry....would have loved to have spoken to someone last night but there were little ears around.....so saying on here was next best thing! Probably sounded like I was trying to be all mysterious, but no....
Mother mostly, and trying to work out how I can remain sane with everything else....
I'm ok though.....sorry x
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carp!
Jun 18, 2015 20:22:20 GMT
Post by mudlark on Jun 18, 2015 20:22:20 GMT
no need to apologise we have all felt carp...and worse.
are you really ok? Do you mean Mother as in your mother? Mothers can sometimes be very.....( fill in as appropriate)
Hugs anyway. x
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carp!
Jun 18, 2015 21:03:04 GMT
Post by larsti on Jun 18, 2015 21:03:04 GMT
Glad you are okay sooz. x
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carp!
Jun 19, 2015 9:11:30 GMT
Post by sooz on Jun 19, 2015 9:11:30 GMT
I'm ok, or I will be....very teary but think I need to just let it all go....amazing how one person can make you feel like a worthless piece of carp....and I have no way out. I've asked her to give me some space but I know she won't, she is totally incapable of understanding what she does and usually I can accept that but it's so hard being on the receiving end. She isn't like this with anyone else.
I think what's really upset me too, is seeing how she's being with snooz and I've realised just how manipulative she's always been, not intentionally really, she's just very needy and will play the victim, deliberately sabotage things etc.... Snooz will just not tolerate her and quite often shouts at her to leave him alone, when to the untrained eye she's just trying to be helpful or caring, but she's not ....it's all about her and her needs. I don't think I can leave them alone together anymore. She's not doing to him what she's done to me.
Wednesday's barrage was all about new 'love interest' and how she thinks he's just stringing me along, if he says anything nice to me it's because he wants to keep me where he wants me, if he cared about me at all he'd make more time for me, he'll just keep me hanging on until someone better comes along......you get the picture! This unsettled me enough to ditch the love interest (so maybe I am unsure) and left him wondering what the heck is going on.....
To be honest I don't have enough energy left for either of them.
Like I said...just carp.....but it will pass...
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carp!
Jun 20, 2015 7:28:18 GMT
Post by bop on Jun 20, 2015 7:28:18 GMT
((Hugs))
Sadly she sounds quite similar to my Mum - we ended up cutting contact a few years ago and now see them just a couple of times a year as a formality...
Hope you can find a way to make it work for you and Snooz.
Bop
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Post by esty on Jun 20, 2015 7:49:58 GMT
Yes I have one too! Took three years of psychotherapy and now I rarely have anything to do with her. Even if she wS capable and young enough I would never have left any child of mine with her. Don't ditch the love interest due to her. Wait on and feel your feelings about him. You are a worthwhile lovely person and keep telling yourself that. Hugs.
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carp!
Jun 24, 2015 18:30:07 GMT
Post by lankelly on Jun 24, 2015 18:30:07 GMT
Oh Sooz did you ever think he (the 'love interest')just may have the energy for you and Snooz though? May keep you sane when your world is crazy.or perhaps provide an interesting distraction.?
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carp!
Jul 11, 2015 0:28:22 GMT
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Post by pluto on Jul 11, 2015 0:28:22 GMT
It helps to think when in contact with mother; I know what will be coming, I just do not get sucked into the negativity, etc.
I think many of us have complex relationship with our mothers, myself inclusive. Maybe try not to have expectations about the relationship at all, just keep it friendly and light, and be carefull what you share!
It is early enough to inform her when you have ordered the wedding cake, until that time just don't tell her about princes who galop by on white horses!
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carp!
Jul 11, 2015 7:17:38 GMT
Post by Deleted on Jul 11, 2015 7:17:38 GMT
(((((((((Sooz))))))))))))
Let it go, your mother that is.
If love interest is worth persuing, call him, explain, if he intends sticking around, he will understand, if not the maybe it's for the best.
Hugs to you, we're here for you when others aren't remember that xx
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carp!
Jul 12, 2015 10:08:58 GMT
Post by sooz on Jul 12, 2015 10:08:58 GMT
Love interest still out of the picture....if I'm really honest I just wasn't feeling it, and probably wouldn't have done so in the future..happy about my decision.
Things are settling down with mother, she does seem to be giving me some space for now but I know she's finding it hard. My brother needs a chocolate teapot award.
I do need to let it go, but this has been my life...her breakdowns, suicide attempts, her need to have me around when she needs me but then picking away at me when things are not how she thinks they should be. She has always done things for me but they come at a cost.
I so hope snooz can be one of those that think they had a great mum when he gets to my age!
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carp!
Jul 12, 2015 17:25:21 GMT
Post by flutterby on Jul 12, 2015 17:25:21 GMT
(((Sooz)))
We have had discussions about mums before. So sorry she keeps on pulling strings. I totally get what you are going through. No wise words other than be extra kind to yourself and try and keep her at bay.
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