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Post by ham on May 27, 2015 15:34:43 GMT
Arghhhhh
i own a garage in a block opposite my house. I don't have a car but a friend stores stuff in there.
when it is busy my next door neighbour ask if she can park in front of it and always moves it at the first opportunity. However another neighbour has just started parking there. So let if go a couple of time due to me being ill. Well yesterday access was needed so I had to knock to ask for him to move the car. Well the look he gave me so I also informed him it was my garage and he did not have my permission to park there.
when I came home last night some people were moaning ( mainly the culprit )about how mean I was when I do not need it. It is my garage and my friend has a key to access stuff she might need and she will not know where to knock if cars are parked in front of my garage.
deep breath and relax.
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Post by bop on May 27, 2015 18:52:21 GMT
Good job you're an adopter - we have to have a hard shell  for now, ((hugs)) and I hope its old news very soon.... Bop |
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Post by larsti on May 27, 2015 21:50:58 GMT
What a cheek!
I have noticed a trend though. If you say 'excuse me' (ie please will you move so I can get past) which used to just be good manners, some people react negatively as if you are being rude in asking them to move. Similar with asking people politely if they will move their car (and please don't park there in future, in your scenario) people often seem to take it badly. Never used to be like that.
I know I'm showing my age, but a while ago I read in a local newsletter that when parents on the school run were asked to move their cars so residents could get out of their own driveways, they reacted aggressively with abusive language (in front of children as well!) I was really shocked at how *some* younger parents behave.
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Post by scaredycats on May 28, 2015 20:32:59 GMT
Some people don't understand boundaries and you need to very clear and consistent in these cases. Keep reiterating the message in a calm manner. All the best.
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Post by scaredycats on May 28, 2015 20:34:08 GMT
It's a bit like them saying "well, you're not using your spare room, so I'm going to use it!" isn't it?!
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Post by milly on Jun 19, 2015 9:34:57 GMT
Clear boundaries are best and remember the motto of the assertive approach - never apologise,never explain. Just state calmly 'this is what I want' - it does work.
When we moved to our current house the vendor (who was a sweet old woman who was clearly very generous - we had many cold callers selling tea towels etc at the door and asking where she was, for quite a while!) pointed out with derision a notice on a neighbour's garage telling people not to park in front of it or else. It is true it wasn't strictly needed as there is a clear white line painted on the road. But I didn't wholly agree that the sign painted the owner in a bad light. He is a bit of an oddball, but straight forward and friendly as well. At least we have always taken care not to block his driveway, as has everyone else. And the notice has now vanished so probably someone had been abusing the space.
Stand up for yourself. You can't please all the people all of the time, so don't try to!
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Post by ham on Jun 19, 2015 12:51:46 GMT
Needed a smile today. Thank you
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Post by corkwing on Jun 19, 2015 15:56:21 GMT
For a laugh, here's a (reportedly) true story about parking...
Outside Bristol Zoo there is a car park for cars and coaches. There also used to be a very pleasant attendant with a ticket machine charging cars £1 and coaches £5. This parking attendant worked there for all of 25 years , then one day just didn't turn up for work... "Ho hum", said Bristol Zoo Management - "better phone up the City Council and get them to send a new parking attendant" ...... "Err no", said the Council, "that car park is your responsibility" ... "Err no", said Bristol Zoo Management, "the attendant was employed by the City Council, wasn't he?" ..... "Err NO!"
Sitting in his villa in Spain is a bloke who had been taking the car park fees for Bristol Zoo for the last 25 years...... Some-one with brains!!!
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