|
Post by serrakunda on May 4, 2015 16:57:37 GMT
When does being 'thrifty ' and 'environmentally aware' tip over into being a candidate for 'hoarders, buried alive' ?
|
|
|
Post by ham on May 4, 2015 17:09:03 GMT
Not sure but maybe when you physically can't get into a room
|
|
|
Post by serrakunda on May 4, 2015 17:56:11 GMT
Simba had better watch out then.
I of course have nothing which is unecessary.........
|
|
|
Post by caledonia on May 5, 2015 11:00:59 GMT
what about a 'you can keep hold of something for 3 months and if you've not used it it goes out' approach?
cale x
|
|
|
Post by serrakunda on May 5, 2015 11:10:20 GMT
We are trying very hard. I think stuff breeds in my house, I take a bag to the charity shop and hey presto, more stuff appears !
Simba still has a few boxes that he brought from FC that he doesn't play with but won't part with because they were from FC. We had a huge upset over getting rid of bikes and scooters, he brought 4 with him. He's had two new scooters and a bike since he came home, persuaded him to part with one bike and two very rusty scooters but when he realised they were actually gone it was the end of the world.
When we empty his room for the new flooring I will have another go. My biggest problem is books, my books are very precious to me, I have a dreadful waterstones habit. Simba also loves books, he also has a waterstones habit.
|
|
|
Post by ham on May 5, 2015 17:49:21 GMT
I have to admit to sneaking into ds2 to dispose of stuff. Well I keep it in a holding place and if he does not ask for it it goes after 3 months.he hoards everything .
|
|
|
Post by lemonade on May 5, 2015 18:54:59 GMT
Would encourage our girls to have a clear out twice a year. Girls birthdays were both in July so around May time, would suggest they have a sort out to fill the charity bags to make room for birthday presents. Would do the same around October time for Christmas presents always seemed to work. Like the idea Caledonia of the 3 month holding place. Serrakunda wonder if in future actual books will be a thing of the past and all come on a Kindle they would certainly take up less room, but then we will have no need for book shelves I suppose it is a fine line between keepsakes, important documents, and hoarding because we can't bear to be parted from it, but then that is all part of dealing with emotional and physical loss which is a whole different post.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on May 5, 2015 18:55:29 GMT
Could you bag stuff up and put it in the loft or garden shed for a few months to see if he misses it.
if not, get rid of it while he is at school and if he does really miss something at least you can retrieve it
|
|
|
Post by sooz on May 5, 2015 18:55:53 GMT
Snooz has lots of shelves, if there is no room on the shelves nothing new can be added. Space needs to be cleared before we can get anything new.
This helps him as he is so visually strong.
But......I have a garage with several boxes of stuff he's agreed to get rid of.....I've yet to get around to disposing of! Lol
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on May 5, 2015 19:03:06 GMT
Speaking of books, myself and ex were avid readers (pre children) and I had floor to ceiling bookshelves built in either side of the fireplace in our living room. When Kindles came out ex bought himself one and then bought me one for Christmas that year so when I was redecorating the living room for a more modern uncluttered look, I decided to get rid of all the books as we never re-read them in any case so I thought why are we keeping them? It took loads of car trips to our high street and I had to share the trays of books out between all the charity shops as there were so many books and no one shop would take them all. It was only after the books had all gone that started hearing the kids in next doors house as previously the books had muted all sounds and had acted as a kind of sound proofing barrier. I missed my books then every time I heard the kids wailing.
|
|
|
Post by serrakunda on May 5, 2015 19:56:19 GMT
Kindle, what sacrilege is this you speak of?
I have become more selective about what books I keep but I have many beautiful travel/photography books, histories, biographies etc which I will not part with, don't tend to keep many novels now though, I have given Simba a number of special editions of classic books, we often talk about when he will read them to his children
I was a bit of an isolated little girl, books were my friends and are very precious and wonderful things to me and I'm glad Simba seems to feel the same. We are reading the Hobbit at the moment, he loves looking at the illustrations and turning the page, putting the bookmark in. I always write something to him in the front of a book. For me it's about memories. When we went to The Gambia we took a story called Bringing the Rain to Kapiti Plain, he read it one night round the campfire by torchlight to the men from the village. Magic, will never part with that book,
reading bedtime stories from a kindle just isn't the same to me,
|
|
|
Post by mudlark on May 5, 2015 21:04:40 GMT
Mr M is a hoarder, hoarder of LP's 100's of them. Hoarder of CD's 100's of them. It has always driven me mad. I do love books. But I have given 100's away to Oxfam, as I don't think I will be reading The Linguistic theory of Roland Barthes , or the Semantics of Existential philosophy much over the next few years..as indeed Mr M wont be reading...Why Buildings Stand Up or its sequel, Why Buldings Fall down... so I love to get rid of stuff....my ideal birthday present would be a skip into which I would throw half the stuff in the house.
Sadly Lapwing and Peewit are hoarders... I do ask Lapwing what is the point in keeping the left shoe of a right legged polly pocket doll who is missing a left leg..she replies... She needs it in case the other leg turns up....
|
|
|
Post by leo on May 5, 2015 21:17:58 GMT
I had to get rid of many of my beloved books during home study as my social worker thought I had too many! My boys also now have an Amazon and Waterstones habit!
Something that strangely seems to work for us when we need to 'get rid' of stuff is taking a photo of them with whatever it may be. Many of these photos have never then seen the light of day, but the boys seem to like the thought there is a record of it.
This is often then accompanied by me saying, 'Oh, Auntie ... would love that for ... maybe we could pass it on to them and see if they'd like it'. We then have a plan (the adults) for us to see 'it' in place once or twice in Auntie's house before they then dispose of it if they really don't want it.
We are currently reading the Paddington stories and they are really identifying with both the adoption side of it and the chaos that Paddington creates wherever he goes (although according to Hurricane, they were only like that at the beginning of our time as a family!)
|
|
|
Post by serrakunda on May 5, 2015 21:38:50 GMT
Sensible girl that Lapwing, perfectly reasonable answer to me
|
|
|
Post by lemonade on May 6, 2015 17:38:25 GMT
Leo you just reminded me of something we did with our girls. Especially their school projects such as for example their homemade giant Tudor house etc that was far too big and bulky to store in the loft. We would take a picture of our AD who's homework it was with the item and then dispose of the huge item! That way we had a record of them at the time with the lovingly prepared project forever as a reference.
|
|
|
Post by gilreth on May 6, 2015 19:27:48 GMT
I am terrible over books - but now have an agreement with DH that I can get new physical books from series I ahve started - otherwise it is Kindle purchase.....Books were my friend growing up as wlel and i still read lots - and re-read as well.
|
|