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Post by lankelly on Apr 20, 2015 18:48:42 GMT
This is an out of the blue thing. Tweedledee was watching a DVD tonight of children writing letters to pen pals. She said she wanted one too . I asked what country....she says Scotland to start with...
So I went online and saw fundraiser links and dodgy bogus ones looking for your info...then I thought ask here for any ideas or children out there around the same age 5, who would like to exchange cards. I'm not sure how or if it's been done before between adoptive families so any ideas welcome.BUT don't shoot me down in flames I'm not that robust right now. Cheers all.
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Post by chotimonkey on Apr 20, 2015 18:52:10 GMT
Sounds like a lovely idea, ours aren't quite old enough yet though  |
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Post by bop on Apr 20, 2015 18:56:44 GMT
Sounds like a graet idea, but mine are quite a bit older...
We are in Scotland so if you wanted a non adoptee, I do have several friends with kids around the same age as yours?
Bop
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Post by poohbear on Apr 20, 2015 19:16:49 GMT
My BD (6) loves writing letters and would be more than happy to become a pen pal but she is in England, not Scotland.
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Post by mudlark on Apr 20, 2015 20:02:21 GMT
I think its a great idea, Lawping loves writing letters and the notion of having her own friend she can write to would be very positive. It could be a good project to get off the ground for many of our little ones here?
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Post by lankelly on Apr 20, 2015 20:27:27 GMT
Perhaps the administrators can suggest an answer. I wasn't thinking online really more snail mail to encourage literacy etc and its so exciting to get stuff in the post.But there's confidentially of locality and all the rest to consider? Pooh Bear and Mudlark that'd be great Tweedledee is only in reception but quite confident writing though it maybe basic stuff and drawings etc. Let's see if there are any more ideas here to make it work for them.
I am happy to set up a po box if people felt it easier to send to one location to start with, but that means one person then resending it all. Personally I tend to trust folks in traditional means and methods.
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Post by poohbear on Apr 20, 2015 21:02:58 GMT
I would be happy to share my address if we decided to let the children be pen pals.
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Post by mudlark on Apr 20, 2015 21:11:59 GMT
I agree not online..but actual letters or postcards..
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Post by mudlark on Apr 20, 2015 21:15:19 GMT
I think anything that gives our children that extra feeling of something special, someone special, is powerful. I agree the administrators could facilitate, perhaps the exchange of addresses ...but great idea Lankelly
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2015 6:55:32 GMT
I agree with Toko and think that this is something that members should organise by themselves privately like the "meet another adopter in your area" idea.
Contact should be made by pm only with members that you have gotten to know and trust.
You have to use your own judgement just as you would have to do in real life.
Admin cannot be held responsible.
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Post by kstar on Apr 21, 2015 19:21:04 GMT
I think it's a lovely idea and I think you soon get a sense on here of when you know someone well enough to want to make contact :-) I'm sure Starlet would love to have pen pals she could could write to - even just simple things like sending postcards from holidays. And perhaps one day having a special friend who is also adopted might be a valuable contact once they're older if they stay in touch :-)
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Post by leo on Apr 21, 2015 21:05:08 GMT
I think it's a lovely idea but would just offer one word of caution/something to think about - and this may just be a concern for my two rather than a more general one...
When introducing the idea or reality to your children, it may be worth thinking ahead and planning how you can make sure they understand this is different from 'meeting' people online in chatrooms etc. One of my two was using the Mathletics website at school - where they can play against other children from around the world - and he came home saying about his new friends; didn't have a clue that they were strangers/people he didn't know. I think if mine were involved, I'd be saying that I knew the other child's parents already and we had agreed it would be a good thing and that it was ok because the adults knew etc...
Maybe just me stressing but thought I'd say it in case it caused problems that hadn't been anticipated. Hope no-one's offended if you've all already thought of this, sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 22, 2015 7:27:43 GMT
Very good point Leo. Kids would need to know that you do know the childs parent already and that the parents are 'safe' people like mum and dad. My DD made this point to me when I went to stay with Moo recently after knowing her on the boards for years. She said "but you've never met her, how do you know she is who she says she is, she could be a man". I reassure her that we'd been chatting for 6 years online and had been talking regularily on the phone since setting up this site, so I knew she was safe and a woman.  But it did at least show me that my warnings about talking to strangers online had sunk in. My only concern is, what if one child gets bored writing or wants to stop, how do you explain that to the other child if this happens as they may see it as a rejection if their friend stops writing? |
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Post by poohbear on Apr 22, 2015 17:22:51 GMT
JMK, I was about to post the same, about what if a child doesn't write.
Pilchard asked me a few weeks ago about having a penpal. I asked on a group I am a part of, we are all mums with children born the same time and have therefore know each other online for 6-7 years. Pilchard then wrote to 4 people, only 1 has written back. She asks almost every day if the other children have written yet.
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Post by cowgirl on Apr 22, 2015 17:27:21 GMT
Fab idea & id echo previous comments.
My son is 5 yo.
I will pm.
Inspired idea !!
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