monthly madness - period related?

Hi ya

Blossom is horrible around the time of her periods. SHe doesnt have the greatest sense of personal awareness at the best of times but the time around her period- she descends into wildness.
we said for a long time about this as we noticed we would get a lot of mounting concern phone calls from her unit around every 4 weeks.
Id suggest getting going with some oil of evening primrose and starflower oil over the counter at holland and barratt and make an appointment to see a GP. Some women can even develop psychosis to do with severe PMS so it is to be taken seriously. They will want to know whats what and if you need to speak to the GP before dd gets there thats doable- just ring up first.
Blossom in the end went for the contraceptive implant and the mini pill which seem to have lessened her symptoms a great deal.

All the best

Pear tree

Hi

DD (13) is the same. she has lots of issues but they do escalate a week before her period and then she is very calm for the 24 hour before her period starts. As her periods are not regular its hard to recognise what is happening until we are some way down the line. She wont take medication though, even EPO, so I don't know if it works but I know lots of female friends who have taken it and swear by it. You do need to make sure its a good quality one and take quite a high dose from what i have heard though.

please keep us posted on how it goes as I still hope that I can persuade DD to take something.

Good luck

Cale
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Had forgotten about this thread until it resurfaced when nzhb replied, but I can now add that yes, YDD becomes so angry and volatile just before her period starts.

I was talking to a friend about it and she was the one who asked me if she had her period and I started noting the date in my diary and bingo connected the two, as sure enough, just before the next one was due, she was aggressive and horrible again. I now keep track of the dates and pre empt the next one before it arrives so at least I am aware and kind of ready for it and it doesn't take me by surprise.

Friend said she knew all about it as she herself becomes horrible just before she comes on and always has done since she was a teenager.

Forewarned is forearmed, stock up on chocolate and painkillers and sympathy and that's just for me lol 

Ditto here - although better now she is older and certainly when she is paying attention to what she is eating. Absolutely awful otherwise from a standing start and something trivial to total histrionics which then seem to break the dam and then she's calm again. She's aware how much her diet does impact her but there are still times (fewer but exhausting nevertheless after all these years) when she spirals and just wants to take her pain out on us/me if I time things wrong. If I am not there she has to deal with it so is learning to better deal with the cocktail of hormones and feelings - don't always get the timing right unfortunately but miles better than it used to be.

Commiserations to those on the receiving end!

Mx

Dd struggled with portion control with carbs so would tip half a bag of pasta into a pot and eat it in a rush with little else so over carbing - also eating cook chill meals - she put on a huge amount of weight as a result and the mood swings and excess hair made us think of pcos - but she wouldn't consider discussing anything with a Dr. she was miserable so we patiently negotiated and got her to take control of a shopping list and food budget and shop for herself (as preparation for managing without us one day...even at 26 she has an unfillable emotional cavity that she feels I need to fill for her - me cooking for her is part of that narrative but I've stepped that back to occasional meals together - she and dh may do a 4.30 am porridge breakfast together for instance as they both have very early starts for various reasons - porridge is great for her - muesli is hell we found! Probably due to all the added sugar in most brands. Am about to trial and error her with an expensive spelt brand to see if that's tolerated. We don't generally do pudding that's an occasional treat - chocolate is the proper stuff which she is learning to appreciate. Drinks here are water or occasionally a shared can of something, she will drink a glass of red wine with a family meal but doesn't drink otherwise even on very occasional outings with work colleagues. As my dh is a coeliac she joined him in going gluten free on bread and pasta for nearly a year, lost more than 2 stone too and complete change in her mood, appearance and emotional maturity it seemed - she has gone back to non gluten but does generally eat better - makes simple pasta sauces from scratch, pizzas and tries more grains and lentils instead of pasta all the time. Weight has stayed off, excess hair has greatly diminished too due probably to less hormones stored in the body fat. Anecdotally I would say she isn't as "sharp" as she was on the partial non gluten diet - the change in her was really that noticeable! Speech processing difficulties when she is tired after work are more noticeable once again. Getting her to drink water another struggle but she does do this more often now though I am sure she will go all day at work with the bare minimum - she does come home and straight away drinks a big glass of water - everything is a struggle to make small sustainable improvements when there are deep wired needs or deprivations from her earlier life (sadly she was regularly deprived of food and drink right from day 1
) she can slip back easily into depriving herself so have to keep a relaxed watch and give gentle nudges when she is amenable which is more often than not provided I get my timing right - sometimes i just don't get it just right so it ends with her getting quiet time to reflect which she eventually comes round from...and I am clear with her that I am older and crankier and less willing to tolerate things that she saves for us and would never do at work! Sometimes I feel like it's like having a hormonal teen here still when she is in full flow but she is 26. I make far fewer allowances now though and she generally makes better choices but we have our moments! She used to suffer terrible eczema when she first came to us and I noticed a recent flare up which she hasn't had for 20 years even she reckoned it was down to an own brand muesli so she has put her self back on porridge and changed her shower gel back which might have been an irritant without me saying anything! So it's a slow slow process for us but interesting to see the marked difference some foods/drinks can really make from our experience. Our ds was also food sensitive we thought especially to sugary things but we were told back in the day by a camhs dietitician that that was nonsense. Since living with his bmum he has had ongoing health issues apparently and has been diagnosed with various food intolerances so it's likely our dd may have similar sensitivities that are probably heightened by their underlying heightened stress levels and anxious responses to everyday living impacting on their respective immune systems - throw in waxing and waning female hormones for our dd and no doubt there's a complex mix to contend with. given all she has to contend with its yet another thing we all have to think about but for the most part she is moving forwards with this important life task which she knows matters more for her given her poor start.

Hope this is of some help Cale.

Mx