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Post by mudlark on Feb 27, 2015 22:42:30 GMT
After trashing the 'play room' and trying to smash my phone, beating up Lapwing, stabbing himself on purpose in the chin with a fork, ripping up the lovely card Lapwing had made for Nana's birthday, throwing his tea on the floor.. Peewit had a choice...tidy up everything he had thrown around or I'd help into his pyjama's and he could go to bed. ... after howling for a little bit and sitting on my lap saying his chin hurt too much too move, he then stomped off and tidied everything up..I gave him a banana and said well done for making a great choice.. he ran into Mr M and said.. dad dad I made a great choice, I did the right thing... I was proud of him, he had a hard day at school, Lapwing had been testing but despite all the 'stuff' he came out the other end feeling happy.
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Post by poohbear on Feb 28, 2015 6:43:42 GMT
Well done Lapwing and Peewit :-)
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Post by corkwing on Feb 28, 2015 7:20:56 GMT
.. he ran into Mr M and said.. dad dad I made a great choice, I did the right thing... Wow! That realy touched me.
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Post by milly on Feb 28, 2015 8:00:08 GMT
That's amazing and shows a good degree of emotional control and ability to cope with having done wrong. At 9 dd2 still finds the shame of being in the wrong very hard to overcome and she would find it very hard to make a choice like that to do similar.
Also well done you for being so calm and clear.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 28, 2015 9:34:31 GMT
Wow, great progress and great parenting!
Well done Mudlark too.
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Post by knight on Feb 28, 2015 16:36:17 GMT
That is just amazing x
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Post by mudlark on Feb 28, 2015 22:15:19 GMT
I was just about to say I spoke to soon... as this morning in an avoidant, scared of being with mummy alone mode, he went again into destroy, attack, emotionally frozen mode. I left him alone for a few minutes and really thought I'd lost him.... and after about 20 minutes he came into the room I was in and came straight to me and said I am sorry mummy.. climbed on my lap and just lay there. He was angry again later today and things have been hard, but I am so encouraged that he is learning that coming to mummy in times of hurt, actually helps. He is feeling better for it... that's a good step. I fully expect his rage and anger to come back....but I see hope
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Post by mudlark on Feb 28, 2015 22:24:04 GMT
thank you for positive comments...it does help.. as sometimes I feel like a kind of... I was going to say punch bag. but that's not quiet it...I feel like a trampoline... emotionally bounced on too many times!
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