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Post by corkwing on Dec 11, 2014 8:35:38 GMT
Mackerel's care home rang yesterday. They've had a meeting because his behaviour is deteriorating.
(Could that be what we warned them about a couple of months ago?)
So we have deteriorating behaviour in school, to the extent that he's now involved with the criminal justice system;
Deteriorating behaviour in the care home;
He's increasingly ringing us up for things (shows where he's at emotionally);
Refusal to attend a medication review (shame is a bigger dose would help his anxiety as he seems to have grown enormously over the last few months).
I'd love to see them realise that he needs some serious help.
School and LA have mentioned that he needs more assessments. Not sure who's going to arrange to have that done - if anyone.
Got a PEP meeting this afternoon where I would like to gently suggest that he needs more therapeutic input...
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Post by damson on Dec 11, 2014 9:23:38 GMT
Good luck this afternoon.
I hope you have the right set of professionals in the room, and someone can actually offer something real.
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Post by aprilshowers on Dec 12, 2014 10:40:43 GMT
Hope the PEP went OK, from what I can remember the childs SW should be organising all appts, there should be a statutory medical and any other concerns should be referred by the SW to the appropriate services.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2014 10:53:21 GMT
Sorry to hear Mackerel is in decline.
Is there any way they could find him another placement with an experienced FC?
I know you know my DD's story and the difference in her since she has moved from the chaotic Ofsted failed children's home into a calmer foster home is amazing. She was recently dx HFA and the Dr. I spent 2 hours talking to said she would absorb the atmosphere around her and would act accordingly, so being around chaos with kids kicking off every 5 minutes meant she was chaotic and refusing any contact etc. Now she has a calmer (very strict) atmosphere around her she has been able to calm herself and reflect and she is in a much better place in herself, was home here last weekend for the first time in over a year and she was delightful, back to her old self. She desperately wants to come home and while I desperately want her to, we are taking it very slowly and as she is living so far away, it won't happen until next summer at the earliest asshe is in an exam year and I don't want to disrupt her schooling.
Feel free to ignore my post, but this time a year ago, there was no way I ever thought EDD would be coming to stay over Christmas and just getting her out of that children's home to a calmer environment has made a huge difference and huge progress.
How did the PEP go?
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Post by corkwing on Dec 12, 2014 11:00:52 GMT
Well, the social worker arrived 45 minutes late, after we'd dealt with most of the stuff, so that's not brilliantly helpful! The meeting actually went very well. The school, particularly... a number of the staff thanked me for coming and seemed genuinely pleased. They asked me for my opinion  , listened and again thanked me for my input. Didn't quite get the same response from the person from the care home. She didn't understand why, as they're managing his behaviours so brilliantly, school can't do the same. They have strict boundaries, you know, and Mackerel knows exactly what is going to happen if he transgresses them. Yes, like if he doesn't come in for tea on time, he's missed it and that's it. Wonderful for a child with a neglectful background and a history of food issues. Didn't mention that actually they'd had to have a meeting because it seems that their wonderful behavioural management doesn't seem to be working. A number of people seemed to be coming round to the idea that actually the school can't meet his needs and he had needs that are deeper and more complex than they'd thought. The issue of a residential placement came up and no one disputed that as a real possibility, although they're still reluctant for him to move as that will be another rejection. I'm not so sure: with his attachment problems, he's not that attached anyway. And they did acknowledge that may be their reluctance to let him go, as he really is a lovely lad underneath the huge burdens he carries. So, generally positive, but there are still hurdles to be overcome. |
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Post by bagpuss72 on Dec 12, 2014 18:56:23 GMT
I am glad the meeting went better than expected. Interesting that the care home think they are doing so well having read some of your recent posts. I hope the hurdles set are not too high. You and Kermit have always known Mackerel to be "a lovely lad underneath the huge burdens he carries", just so sad that he could not cope within a family and all that entails.
Praying that you get the outcome Mackerel needs and deserves x
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Post by peartree on Dec 12, 2014 19:56:26 GMT
Pleased meeting went well. Sorry the home person was rubbish. Have you ever seen the marigold hotel film? It's a bit like the Indian manager.....
Much love Corkwing and family x
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, listened and again thanked me for my input.
