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Post by serrakunda on Sept 18, 2014 15:00:40 GMT
Anyone started this process yet? I had my family meeting today where you are meant to talk about your aspirations for your child. The children also have to fill in a form. I thought some of Simba's answers were quite interesting what is important to you ....... My birthday and my ipad what are you good at outside school........playing angry birds on the iPad, interesting because angry birds is the gene he plays the least and no mention of things like all the swimming and cubs badges he's collected or his medals for fun runs what worries you......... Being lonely And shouting ( mummy needs to put a sock in it) the lonely thing upsets me, but may go someway towards understanding the friends obsessions had quite an interesting chat about the friends obsessions as well, don't think they quite saw why I was bothered so much until I said yes well as long as he doesn't turn into a stalker by the time he's 15. Ahh we see your point, we will take that one away.....
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Post by larsti on Sept 22, 2014 19:10:54 GMT
I would be interested in other people's replies too Serrakunda.
Also (not to hijack your thread) where about is the whole process written down (a list of these meetings and forms and what to expect. Is that in one place anywhere?)
I am interested in Simba's reply about what he likes to do. It reminds me of when our eldest BD when she had to write a story 'What I did in the summer holidays' 'We went shopping and watched TV' Well we did do those things of course BUT.....
It would be good to have a heads up of what kind of questions they ask.
I wonder if they would think that it wasn't much of an aspiration to say 'a law abiding citizen' 'stays out of prison' 'doesn't get any girlfriends pregnant' Not sure if holding down a job is now do able for Dash but I would like to think so.
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Post by serrakunda on Sept 22, 2014 19:42:44 GMT
I haven't seen any such list larsti. The family meeting was mentioned to me last term but I wasn't given a copy of the form that we completed at the meeting or Simba's form, i will be asking for them at the next meeting. The questions were around what I saw as positives, negatives, concerns, worries etc.
Last year when we went to Gambia at Easter, his teacher asked what he'd done in the holidays, Simba said he went to the pictures.
We settled on ' I would like Simba to take his place in society and make a contribution to his community'. I guess that's a positive spin on staying out of prison.
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Post by littlemisscheerful on Sept 22, 2014 20:55:55 GMT
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Post by larsti on Sept 22, 2014 21:59:26 GMT
Thank littlemisscheerful
Serrakunda.......I laughed when I read what Simba said!!
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Post by littlemisscheerful on Sept 23, 2014 8:31:46 GMT
Toko, that takes me back Our 'local' was a pub that had a converted garage for kids, so we were left there, with a packet of crisps and bottle of coke with a straw. My mum and dad weren't regular pub goers - but I have a terrible memory so we must've gone often enough!
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Post by larsti on Sept 23, 2014 12:12:28 GMT
Toko
Well count yourselves lucky! (violins playing in the background) My parents didn't even take us with them! I was left in charge of my 2 younger sisters while they went out most Friday and Saturday nights. I remember watching 'That's Life' and Roald Dahl's Tales of the Unexpected, Parkinson, you name it.
I don't think I ever wrote about it at school though!
(feels like that Monty Python sketch...'you think you were ill done to...we lived in a cardboard box)
Where were we?......EHC plans. Serrakunda (and I) want help!
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Post by larsti on Sept 23, 2014 12:23:46 GMT
now that's interesting because (having nothing better to do) I thought I'd look up 'Tales of the Unexpected' Had a listen to the theme tune. Anyway, it started in 1979 and I was 18 that year so obviously I didn't watch it as a child!
We were left alone though (in our cardboard box!)
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Post by littlemisscheerful on Sept 23, 2014 12:39:25 GMT
On the question of aspirations - I was asked this about my yd, 12, at her last AR. I said if she was doing some voluntary work that she enjoyed, that would be great. I honestly can't imagine her holding down a job. In the EHC documentation, it asks about how the yp will live as an adult - ie fully independant, supported living etc. How are you supposed to know this? If i was to guess, ED might be ok (?) - depending on choice of partner, but again, I can't see yd leaving home, - she is so passive, could imagine her not getting out of bed. Is it advantageous to say supported living as then they are in the system so to speak, and the numbers can be tallied up (i'm thinking of council budgets here) or is it all just wishful thinking? I have more questions than answers.
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Post by serrakunda on Sept 23, 2014 15:56:28 GMT
I think you just try and make a best guess, without cutting off options. As with anything these questions are designed for the masses. Without knowing that much about any of them I think it would be safe to say that the vast majority of children in Simba's school will not live independently. Then there are the border lines, were I would put simba, of children who have a chance of independence, if they get the right support now.
I hedged my bets on that one.
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