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Post by amberle on Jun 28, 2014 5:56:27 GMT
Hi all, I just wanted to drop a little note to everyone going through the process to all you not to give up.
We are a normal couple ( whatever that is) that have been on this journey to become mummy and daddy for years. We have had the IVF failures, the miscarriages, the is it all worth it conversations, the no one understands and then just stuff happening in life that to be honest some you could write a Hollywood blockbuster with.. what I am trying to say is as long as it takes it will take, you will definitely need patience, a sense of humour and an acceptance that as tough as it is sometimes you just need to go with the flow..but you WILL get there eventually. it may seem like all the hurdles are just happening to "you" but trust me they are not they happen to everyone on the journey, at different times. Different sizes, but I have come to realise that it is all part and parcel of the emotional roller coaster journey that is the adoption process.
yes we are about to embark on our new life, but before you think "yes but your at the end of the process - of course it's great" we haven't been, we have been where you are now. And we got through it..and trust me if we can so can you.
what I am trying to say ( in a rambling way) is don't give up,The process is not easy, it sometimes feels like everything is against you..but it is not. Just stay strong ( easier said than done at times), stay patient ( still one of the hardest things) and stay positive..
Good luck and it will happen xx
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Post by flutterby on Jun 28, 2014 6:26:41 GMT
Nothing to add, you have summed it all up very well xx
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Post by vickyvixen on Jun 28, 2014 18:26:34 GMT
Thanks for that - it can get a bit frustrating at times but I'm hanging on to the fact that it will happen - at some point (hopefully August now)
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Post by ladybug on Jun 29, 2014 8:21:44 GMT
Ditto to what Amberle said.
We are not as far progressed as Amberle however we have a link and going to an appreciation day on 8th July (all being well). From enquiry to selection visit took 3 weeks then another 10 days after to find they wanted to progress us to appreciation day which then took another 4 weeks to get a date!!! However after everything we have been through to get this far it doesn't matter, it frustrating not knowing when but that in itself is just another test for our patience as I am sure it will be tested many more times in the not too distant future when we do finally get our LOs home!
All the trials and tribulations we have all been through to become parents will stand us in good stead for the family we were always meant to be.
Never give up it will all be worth it in the end. What is meant to be will be and as hard as things seem to be at the time it is for a reason.
In the words of Dory (Finding Nemo) "Just keep swimming"
X x x Ladybug x x X
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