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Post by swimchic on Jun 16, 2014 18:58:57 GMT
Hello all,
Pink came home today with a letter saying that she had an eye test at school today. All is ok.
However, we didn't know anything about the eye tests taking place today.
Shouldn't we be notified first? Is it normal for children to have eye tests and parents not to be informed before hand ?
Swimchic
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Post by Deleted on Jun 16, 2014 19:00:45 GMT
Yep, quite normal, sometimes they tell you before, sometimes afterwards, depends on how efficient the office staff are.
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Post by imprudence on Jun 16, 2014 19:10:53 GMT
But at our school they do tell you before all the children are weighed in R and Y6. I withdraw mine on principal -- not adoption related.
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Post by serrakunda on Jun 16, 2014 19:47:12 GMT
I receive letters asking for permission, this year I refused because if they looked at their own records they would know he is under the eye doctors at the hospital and a test in school is a waste of time
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Post by swimchic on Jun 16, 2014 19:49:18 GMT
We didn't get a letter asking for permission. Just a letter saying it had been done..
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Post by leo on Jun 16, 2014 20:19:10 GMT
It's a statutory thing for all Reception aged children; a very basic hearing, eye and health check. You should have had a form asking if you had any concerns that you wanted to raise with the nurse before they actually came into school - and that would usually be accompanied by a letter informing you of the dates the nurse was due in.
It is separate from the height and weight check for Year R and Year 6 pupils - which you can opt out of.
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Post by nzhb on Jun 16, 2014 20:19:45 GMT
I think it would be costly to let everyone know. We didn't get informed, but I didn't mind.
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Post by oogleschnook on Jun 16, 2014 21:03:56 GMT
When we registered the kids at school there was a bit on one of the many forms that said that often they have dentists/eye nurses etc coming into school and to tick if you objected. It was tucked in amongst pages of other stuff!
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Post by milly on Jun 16, 2014 22:05:05 GMT
As Leo says. You should have filled in a medical form before she started. Its normal screening for reception children.
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Post by pingu on Jun 16, 2014 22:55:40 GMT
Wish someone had done an eye check ( and hearing check) when my ds2 was in reception. When he came to us, in the space of a few weeks we discovered he needed glasses ( couldnt see the board) and had glue ear ( couldnt hear the teacher on one side of room)
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Post by moo on Jun 17, 2014 4:45:12 GMT
Yep swimchic quite normal....
I objected coz it is a statistic exercise ( esp height & weight check in reception & year 6 ) didn't want it setting any triggers off re lac medical reviews etc... Exams following abuse when they were tiny....So I have sent a generic letter of refusal to school excluding them from any such exams or general interviews.... Hth.....
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by pluto on Jun 17, 2014 9:30:01 GMT
I think we have to make our children resiliant despite trauma. My child had absolute traumatising hospital treatments before adoption, there were good reasons for him to loose it by the first sight of a white coat. Yet I have been strict in a no nonsense way to break this cycle, there was no choice either he has a medical condition what needs painfull treatment at times. And as everything is now done in such way that there is no unnessesary pain I was of the opinion that he needed to realise that, and starting creaming when the Dr. only looked at him was counterproductive.
I spoke with him when crying was allowed, by sadness and real pain, that an investigation is no reason to cry, it just needs to be done or you like it or not. I made rules before we entered the hospital, I told him to stop or took him out to speak to him when he was about to loose it. I worked with stories so he knows what is coming, how he has to behave, how other children behave with the same condition etc. After hospital we go and have a drink somewhere, I never say that is because you 'were good, or did not cry', I want him to experience something nice after I knew it was difficult fot him, I do not want to give him controle over what happens afterwards, if he cries unnessesary we talk about it, and how he should have behaved, we still have a drink.
He has diagnosed ptsd, I see those non painfull examinations as fantastic opportunities to practise and desensatise traumatised children. Let's be fair most doctors and nurses are very child friendly in those days. And their trauma's are not going to go away over night, so some behaviour work might needs to be done. Put a good experience in the place of the bad ones, than children learn, it does not always have to be bad. The other thing is that it is less painfull when children co-operate, there might be a situation where a child ends up in hospital or needs medical treatment despite of fear, deeply rooted experiences. It would be less traumatising for them if they no longer have fear for medical personal.
So I would say reach out to every practise opportunity, my child is now so good that he allowes iv needles without numming cream first, and without crying. To focus his attention I tell him to blow against a little feather and see or he can blow so hard that it flies away. (I let the feather fly at the moment the needle is in).
Make those non invasive school medical appointments into fantastic positive experiences I would say. If your child has huge issues it would be nice to know beforehand as it is better when you are there. But than you need to make the school aware that you want to be present by every medical intervention. If there are no issues than just let the school get on with it.
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Post by pirate on Jun 17, 2014 20:59:59 GMT
We let our bc have weigh in in reception class, got letter saying she is over weight (swear words) we were not impressed. She was a big baby & tall like her dad (not fat)!!! She had her eyes done (no note before hand). Wouldn't let them weigh my bc again. She was upset by it.......kids don't need weight negativity pushed on them so young. Xxx
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