Money and spoiling for a fight

Agree with Serrakunda.

Maybe if you could draw up a list of the types of things he would have to pay for like rent, food, clothing, travel etc and then give him a budget,like his allowance, and a trial test time of say a month or two where he has to stick to the rules and try it out to see what it is like living on his benefit/allowance, just so he can have a taste of what it would be like in the real world without the bank of Mum and Dad bailing him out. He might then realise just how hard it is to survive when you have to stick to an agreed budget with very little left over for luxuries.

Worth a try?

I kind of got the idea from Coleen Nolan on Loose Women.

She said she did this with her sons when they were in their early teens for pocket money. She kept a list of everything she bought them for a month, all the things they asked for/wanted every time they were out and about like soccer cards, comics, games, etc - (everything apart from food and school clothes, as this was for pocket money), and then when she added it up at the end of the month, she then gave them the money at the beginning of the following month and they had to make it last, because when it was gone, that was it, no more money until next month, (like a salary or pay packet).

She wanted to teach them the value of things and to learn to budget and really think about what they bought and whether they really needed it or not. She said it only took about two months before they "got it" and started to think about every penny they spent, putting comics back on the shelf, saying "that's too expensive" or "I don't really need it" etc.

I thought what a great idea, as it taught them the value of money and managing their own money instead of relying on Mum to buy things for them and it did away with pester power when they were out shopping. She said now they are older they are still really good with money and they don't blow it all at once like they used to.

Hi, Peartree -

Wondering if you've decided how to tackle this one?


Love,

Corkwing

Hi

In the end, after a few more days of big argy bargy from partridge
We decided to have a try on tackling him

We've had a short set of chats
Wondering how it might feel to not have a job and be leaving college
That we've noticed the food cupboards need more topping up
And think that this means partridge may be worried and needing more food

This turns out to be the reasons for the disguarded cola cans and wrappers everywhere

We think he needs to learn the washing machine, show some responsibility round home to allow him to have more say over where his allowance is spent

So I showed him the DLA paperwork and he was horrified!
He's just anxy about the huge change

Comfortingly he's said that he wants all family involved in his flat hunting when it comes to it and he wants to move to the next village....

There's a lot
A huge amount going on for him