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Post by chotimonkey on May 30, 2014 20:00:21 GMT
dh has always wanted to give back to the world of adoption, we received a great deal of support during the process/ early days and he would like to pass this forward. he has been given 6-15 hours a month through work to look at voluntary community work and was wondering how best to use it . he would very much like to do something/ get involved in something that supports father's going through the process or in the early days of placements as he (like me) feels this is where his current supportive strengths lie i was wondering if anyone knew of any existing groups/ forums or had any interesting suggestions of things he could do thanks  |
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Post by doubletrouble on May 30, 2014 20:14:53 GMT
In our part of the world ( Scotland) there is an active Dad's group formed by AUK dad's If there isn't one in your area he could set one up. Also how about contacting the placing authorities/ V.A. in your area and offering his services as a Buddy/speaker to prep. groups etc.
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Post by donatella on May 30, 2014 20:21:52 GMT
Same here. Our local AUK have a dad's group. Might be worth looking into.
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Post by swimchic on May 30, 2014 21:15:00 GMT
See if your local childrens centre has an adoption support group. Otherwise how about the following ideas-
Do a talk on the prepcourse from a dads prospective
Volunteer at a local children's contact centre ( a lot of potential adopters volunteer at our local one)
Contact dad.info a parenting web site for Dads
Write a blog about the joys of fatherhood for potential dads
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Post by corkwing on May 31, 2014 9:25:37 GMT
The thing that I would have most appreciated was someone to unload onto - someone who would listen and understand. At one point my wife jokingly said that what I needed was a girlfriend. Not sure how that would fit in with voluntary work, though, and that was specific to us having a very difficult, traumatised child.
All the best,
Corkwing
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Post by ham on May 31, 2014 16:01:46 GMT
Try to make dads understand we are not neurotic and we need to be believed .my dh did not believe until he was made redundant and was at home for a period of time.encourage them to go and see Dan hughes Bruce perry etc. May be he could organise a speaker just for dad so they don't feel intimdated by us woman.
Maybe as CW suggest a buddy type system .
Not so sure many men are good at talking about issues and maybe social context might be better at first before it became more structured.
When I used to be a coordinator for AUK it was brilliant when dads turned up as they did get so much the structured/themed meetings.
Good luck to him.
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Post by knight on May 31, 2014 17:26:59 GMT
Hi
I suppose, following on from Swimchic's idea re: giving a talk at each month's Prep course (if they're held monthly, ours are) ~ DH could go a step beyond that and give out his contact details and make himself available for prospective Dads/new Dads' meetups, in the pub maybe, men would get more chatty over a beer than in a more formal situation (?) They'll all be fairly local folks on the prep.
x
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Post by jollymummy on May 31, 2014 20:10:28 GMT
What about joining an adoption panel?
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2014 20:19:38 GMT
Auk do have a Buddy system and I'm sure they would love to have some Dad's on their books. You do have to do training for it and are then assigned a family who need support or to offload.
How great that he wants to help others.
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Post by chotimonkey on Jun 6, 2014 12:40:44 GMT
Thanks for this... We would love to do prep groups panels Etc but our local la was so awful during our approval that I'd rather eat one of George's nappies than work with them, our placing la is lovely, but significantly out of borough so we have said we could do a couple a year, but probably no more and we could be email/ phone buddies for people for their early adopters.
Dh is keen to be part of a fathers group helping people in the early days and I'm a writer, and would quite like to look into writing for new adopters for our la adoption uk
or anyone else who will have me
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Post by swimchic on Jun 6, 2014 15:59:16 GMT
Chotimonkey, Please can you pm me and let me know where you are? I co- facilitate an adoption group and it would be great to have a Dad talk about his experiences. Dh can't do it as he is looking after Pink..
Let me know. :-)
Swimchic
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