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Post by monkey on May 26, 2014 19:34:42 GMT
LO's questioning has spiralled this weekend. I struggled with it yesterday but today has been even more trying.
She must have asked me 50 times yesterday afternoon what was for tea. I showed her what I was cooking (pasta), I made her to draw it, I tried ignoring her and I tried asking her if she could remember (she can but only if she stops and thinks intently for a while). In the end I sent her outside with DH as a distraction. It only took 15 mins to cook - arghhhhh!
Today has been similar, everything has caused her some anxiety which results in constant questioning.
Not looking for responses as I know it will settle when the routine returns but just wanted to  and knew you'd all understand! |
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Post by serrakunda on May 26, 2014 19:48:35 GMT
One of Simba's little habits. Gets wearing doesn't it
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Post by damson on May 26, 2014 19:55:34 GMT
Is it half term at yours? Our kids were ghastly at half term, they were so tired. And they wanted us to provide the routine and rules that school provided. In the flexible vacuum of holiday time at home, any source of attention was good attention, even an irritated parent  |
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Post by monkey on May 26, 2014 20:02:12 GMT
Yes Damson - half term!
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Post by esty (archive) on May 26, 2014 21:18:18 GMT
Hi when teaching kids who did the endless questioning we would answer them twice using the same words each time and then reply with a finger on lips. Occasionally we would ask them the same question to check they had processed the info given. This was with anxious kids as well. Occasionally we would then change the subject or repeat the whole social story of what they were asking the question about. Not sure this will help but when we did it consistently, all staff, it worked quite well.
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Post by monkey on May 27, 2014 19:49:02 GMT
Hi when teaching kids who did the endless questioning we would answer them twice using the same words each time and then reply with a finger on lips. Occasionally we would ask them the same question to check they had processed the info given. This was with anxious kids as well. Occasionally we would then change the subject or repeat the whole social story of what they were asking the question about. Not sure this will help but when we did it consistently, all staff, it worked quite well. Thanks Esty. |
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Post by sooz on May 28, 2014 7:37:16 GMT
One of snoozs favourites too!
I've started giving him the wrong answer, ie, I've already told him it's pasta for dinner, several times, so when he asks again I'll say 'snails on toast' or something as silly. Then he laughs and says 'no it isn't it's pasta!' 'Ah, so you do know then, so you don't need to ask me again'......
Other dinner options have been poo fritters ( most hysterical) , toenail pie, dog hair sandwiches....
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Post by wibbley on May 28, 2014 7:46:24 GMT
I get repetitive questions from DD, whereas DS just says "pardon" no matter how many times I repeat what I said. With both, when I say "what did I say?" most of the time they repeat what I said perfectly.
Drives me a bit potty & though I do sometimes give a made up answer, it then results in 50 questions & becomes even more tedious as I have to explain it was a 'joke' & then explain WHY it was a joke zzzzzzz
I think DDs repetitve questions are just 'filling' & finding something to say. Sometimes hoping I will change my mind if I have said no to something. But what's with the 'pardon'? I suspect DS process information at a much slower pace, I do think he had auditory processing issues. So maybe the pardon fills in where a response might be needed.
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Post by sooz on May 28, 2014 10:26:41 GMT
Wibbley you have the polite version...... I just get 'what' lol.
I also eventually ask him to repeat back what it was I said and he usually can! X
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Post by wibbley on May 28, 2014 12:42:22 GMT
 I once had a conversation with a SEN teacher about this & she said their method was to teach the child to use a 3min sand timer. They learnt to not repeat a question or respond with 'what?' Until the timer was through. She explained it as like the brain being a large filing cabinet, but in her kids nothing was labelled. So when processing an answer they couldn't 'file' it quickly in the right bit, nor could they pull the right info back our again when required (so answering a question/remembering). This leads to repetitve questions as the information just gone in hasn't been stored properly. Apparantly, eventually the child learnt to wait a little, to give themselves time for the information to sink in before re-asking & didn't need the egg timer. A good idea, but not sure how this translates to questions that are repeated at intervals rather than immediately. I also can't see my DS getting the hang of an egg timer either ha She said this is also why when you ask they can repeat the answer given as by doing so they are still processing it, not so sure this means it has sunk in though. |
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Post by moo on May 28, 2014 13:43:18 GMT
Hugs mm {{{}}} awful don't I know.... 
Love the snails on toast sooz.... I'm gonna remember that one... I usually say elephant stew to the same response from baa as snooz!?!,  
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by sooz on May 28, 2014 14:02:13 GMT
That does make sense wibbley, when ds repeats something back to me it often feels like he is just repeating parrot fashion rather than actually having processed it.
As for the egg timer........ Lol.... That would just distract him further, he'd be desperate to fiddle with it to the exclusion of anything else going on or being said around him. X
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Post by littlemisscheerful on May 28, 2014 14:08:53 GMT
Both mine process very slowly - my yd will ask me to repeat myself - her standard is 'huh?' She is doing exactly what you describe, - giving herself time to think.
ED will thinkin silence - it's really uncomfortable - been to the orthadontist today - new people asking unfamiiar questions is the worst scenario for her. Orth ended up looking at me (I've learnt to be patient). I reform the question, she can answer, - think this is semantic pragmatic something or the other.
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