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Post by mudlark on May 22, 2014 9:34:54 GMT
We have had funding agreed for a years worth of DDP Diadic Developmental Psychotherapy ( Basically Dan Hughes Theraplay) for Lapwing. It will start in a couple of weeks and involves myself and Lapwing working with a therapist once a week. The aim of this therapy is to help Lapwing form a secure attachment to me. At the moment the attachment is weak. Despite the fact she says she loves me etc we know by other behaviour and her past history that she struggles with attachment and unless work is done there will be the risk she will never be able to progress beyond superficial attachment. Lapwing has a disorganised/avoidant/ anxious/ attachment style.
Firstly has anyone else had experience of this kind of therapy and do you have any thoughts on it.
Secondly once it starts I thought I might try and keep a weekly update going on here as if any of the techniques and ideas work for Lapwing it may be that others will find them helpful. I know I would be struggling more than I am if it were not for the weekly input from our therapist. |
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Post by nzhb on May 22, 2014 11:05:43 GMT
This sounds a fantastic opportunity for you all. Good luck.
Are you able to tell us roughly which part of the country you are in to get this therapy?
Sadly here there is NO funded service, for the county we live in.
I have made my thoughts known to the services that be - it has been escalated......
Is this through your CAMHS service?
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Post by donatella on May 22, 2014 11:21:19 GMT
We had a funded package of therapy when middly was 6/7. It was around a year and included theraplay, reparenting strategies and therapeutic lifestory work. It did help our relationship - we were always very close but it gave me the confidence to be a firmer parent. Apparently I was very good at the nurture, not so good with boundaries!
I do though have to say that I'm not sure it would have been so successful had there not been other interventions - at the same time he was dx ADHD and put on medication and moved to a far more supportive school. Not sure one thing alone would have worked quite so well.
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Post by Deleted on May 22, 2014 13:06:38 GMT
No experience of this Mudlark, but glad to see they are cued up enough to offer you some decent therapy and are not saying "all children do that". Would be great if you could post any relevant things you find helpful from it to help others in similar situations.  |
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Post by sockthing on May 22, 2014 14:02:58 GMT
Great to hear you've got this mud lark. Would love to be kept updated with your experiences.
Good luck with it all.
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Post by ham on May 22, 2014 14:38:39 GMT
My dd has this and was brilliant.hers was based at camhs sadly when therapists left they were not replaced. She had it for about 3 years but she needed that long.the therapists really got it as they had been residential sw and had first hand experience ofattachment issues.
It good to have someone else confirm to your child you are the parent and you love them.
The blog would be a good idea.
Even now I still use some of the ideas with dd.
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Post by monkey on May 22, 2014 20:18:03 GMT
Hi Mudlark
We're having this therapy with LO. We go weekly - usually me and LO and DH if he can make it.
SS, after a lot of faffing around agreed to fund 6 sessions. We're now very clear that 6 sessions wouldn't have touched the sides and are pleased that CAMHS (health rather than social care) are funding it.
We're 5 months in and LO is just beginning to trust the therapist and settle slightly in the environment. The therapist thinks we get approx. 5 mins of useful work out of an hour's session.
We've noticed that LO has really regressed over the last month or so which is hard work but we're told that this is good. As a result of this DH and I are having some additional sessions to work through our feelings about LOs behaviours. I find these sessions most useful.
I find the sessions emotionally draining and LO does too. I haven't managed to take her to school after a session yet so be prepared for a whole day's outing!
We're due to have a session looking back on some videoed footage next week so that should be interesting!
Good luck. MMx
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Post by mudlark on May 22, 2014 21:09:13 GMT
NZHB It is not through CAMHS and it is funded by the childrens placing authority. negotiated by our adoption agency.
Monkey those comments are really helpful as I was already anticipating that Lapwing might take some time to trust the therapist and the sessions. I have been advised to start to drip feed Lapwing the idea that this will be happening ( 4 weeks from now) so she is prepared, but knowing Lapwing she will go immediately into over drive....Who What Why When
Interesting you find sessions with your DH to talk through your emotions useful as out therapist has advised my DH and I will need them fortnightly to keep on top of what will be happening. We are having all our sessions videoed ...not looking forward to that. Interesting your LO has regressed was that predicted by your therapist.
Donatella I am very good at boundaries, more so than I thought I would be, I am good at nurture, but I can be over whelmed by the sheer neediness and desperation of Lapwing. These sessions will also help me attune to her and help her to attune to her own emotions and resolve them. Its a big claim and I reserve judgement on how it will go.
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Post by leo on May 25, 2014 19:59:09 GMT
Hi Mudlark,
We go to DDP therapy. I can't imagine any other type of therapy working for us as my two also have disorganised attachment and we need every bit of help we can get for them to feel safe and begin to trust.
For us, it is very slow going (but think that is my children rather than the norm)but there is definite progress for Hurricane. Tsunami is still really only tolerating play therapy with some bits of theraplay thrown in! We have been going once a fortnight for about 18 months now.
I have parent sessions too so we can look both backwards at what has happened and forwards to plan for the next steps; they help me keep my sanity at times when I face being overwhelmed too.
I am happy for you to PM if you'd like any more specific details.
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Post by corkwing on May 26, 2014 9:19:09 GMT
Hi, Mudlark -
Hope it goes really well!
All the best,
Corkwing
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