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Post by larsti on May 21, 2014 15:22:43 GMT
I always used to 'trespass' on this board on the old AUK site. Partly because I liked to glean information for the future but also because for some reason most of my adopter friends have older children. I used to sometimes send hugs and support and even then wondered if I should post on that board!
Anyway, Dash is only 9 1/2 but when does he count as an 'older adoptee'? 10?
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Post by janpan on May 21, 2014 16:12:34 GMT
I reckoned from 13 onwards, but I completely made that up in my head!
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Post by donatella on May 21, 2014 16:17:23 GMT
Almost there then! Ds1 rapidly approaching 13 and boy don't we know it!
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Post by jazz31 on May 21, 2014 16:18:54 GMT
I always thought it was for adopters of children who were older at adoption (as opposed to babies) - pre-glasses I thought it was older adopters  |
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Post by jollymummy on May 21, 2014 17:48:45 GMT
I qualify on all 3 counts, then! They weren't babies when they came home, they are now teenagers and I am soo soo old!!
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Post by twoplustwo on May 21, 2014 21:14:49 GMT
I posted on 'older adoptees' on the other site when Stig was only about 8 so I guess I was a trespasser. I used the older adoptees site because a lot of people on the main page seemed to be discussing babies. He's now a teenager so I guess we are finally legit :-D
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Post by pingu on May 21, 2014 23:21:59 GMT
I think on the old boards it was mostly those with teenagers,and above, but as my first boy was adopted at 10 and second one is that age now, I have always felt the issues raised were more relevant to us than stuff about babies and toddlers
Both being older children at adoption I consider myself in the right place !
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Post by moo on May 22, 2014 6:02:55 GMT
Me too!??
It was mainly baby talk & somehow didn't seem relevant iykwim.... But yep I guess 10 plus.... But I'm with larsti I am trying glean for the future & here things don't seem as fixed & formal.... 
Maybe be now it is 678 year old at placement... But I think it is just what you are comfortable with.... Xx
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by Deleted on May 22, 2014 7:34:54 GMT
Think it just depends on the issues. There is no age limit, because if like Pingu you adopt a 10 year old, then that child is an older adoptee from day one and will have very different issues to a 2 year old, so as already said, it's whatever age you feel you need to post in here. When mine were little I used to be so scared of this board .... but now ....I'm living it!  |
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Post by larsti on May 22, 2014 8:03:28 GMT
Thanks...I will be a lurker/encourager for a bit longer  I think we fall between because Dash was 41/2 at placement which I don't consider to be 'older' and now he's a bit too young to be older  |
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Post by damson on May 22, 2014 8:06:29 GMT
As a fully qualified poster on this board, you are all welcome to wander in our lush green fields the other side of the fence.
I have great admiration for those of you deftly handling toddler rage and primary school shenanigans.
Swop you for Facebook messups, sexual experimentation, crime and bullying?
D
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Post by milly on May 22, 2014 15:23:41 GMT
I always saw it as around the start of secondary school age. But also about what issues you might have. On the old site they always seemed quite 'heavy' to me and I was daunted by my lack of relevant experience. But after a bit the adopters bit seemed to be all potty training, toddler groups and starting school which we had got past.
Or maybe it just means having an adoptee who makes YOU feel older?!?
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Post by janpan on May 22, 2014 15:41:40 GMT
I used to read the older adoptee boards with awe, wonder and a bit of fear too. Like every other aspect of adoption, however, here we are, in it, facing similar issues to those I read about in the old boards. I don't feel awe and wonder and not even fear anymore, I am just resigned to the reality of it all. Sometimes I am wholeheartedly sick and tired of the whole thing and want to run away - I have planned it - but I don't want to leave my home and my gorgeous best friend and partner. I don't really want to run away from the Bee and C-boy either, I just play with the idea.
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Post by peartree on May 28, 2014 10:33:05 GMT
Senior school up
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Post by shadow on May 28, 2014 11:01:50 GMT
I think its when the issues you deal with no longer fit into the general adopters boards, and you realise with horror you are more at home in the older adopters place!
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Post by serrakunda on May 28, 2014 12:17:05 GMT
maybe we need a tweenies board I always took older in this context to mean teens, though Simba is nearly 10 I find that the general adopters board, with the odd foray into schools etc is fine for me I expect when the hormones hit and he finally discovers facebook I 'll be joining you. |
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2014 15:05:23 GMT
Yep hormones have a huge part to play in it. Mine were easy until then and booooom! Trouble is puberty is hitting earlier and earlier these days. I have a freind with an adopted DD who started her periods aged 9.  |
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Post by wibbley on May 28, 2014 17:49:38 GMT
I like the idea of a tweenies board! Having a DD here who seems to already be starting to show signs of puberty at a very early age, I may be needing a tweenie board before tweenie-age hits, let alone teens!
Hopefully I am wrong though & we can hold-off mass hormones for a while longer yet!
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Post by pingu on May 29, 2014 15:28:29 GMT
I think this forum is for whoever feels they can relat.e to the problems and experiences on it, whatever age the child or children!
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Post by mudlark on Jun 19, 2014 19:50:46 GMT
It's like the obi wan kinobe of the boards.... I often tiptoe through as I already imagine ( and it scares me) what Lapwing might be like....
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