Discussions with an 8 year old!

    ..... Wow brilliant.... Very inciteful stuff for 8 me thinks....    Well thought out.....




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You see these conversations are the best. She is processing it all in her own little way and is joining up the dots.

This is what I always say to adopters about telling your child their life story. It has to be done at their pace and when they ask the questions and when they want to know.

This is why I don't really like SW doing life story work with our kids as they can hit them with way too much stuff at once which can be overwhelming not to mention unsettling for a little one.

This way is best as your DD will naturally change the subject onto something else when she's heard enough for the moment and this way there is no pressure and no "big serious chat" she can just take it in, as and when she wants to know some more, and as long as she knows her mum is happy to talk about it she will feel comfortable asking more when she is ready.

That's the way adopted kids get to know their life story in bits and pieces age appropriately as and when they ask.

Brilliant example! 

What a clever little one you have there Milly.

We have random chats like that too..Random as they take place in the car, at the dinner table, in the bath...wherever!

But yes, they are processing at their own speed and time. My parents did the same..They always had an open door policy and I could ask what I wanted and when I wanted..

I am sure that the way they did it , has certainly made me proud to be adopted and also happy and confident to deal with Pinks questions as they come up.

We are all doing a great job with our children and don't forget that people!

:-)

Swimchic
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