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Post by Ad-minnie! on Apr 14, 2014 19:50:45 GMT
I am not sure what is going on but having been back at work for a few months, I am struggling to leave LO. And, yes its ME struggling and NOT him!!! I felt so low being at work today and just desperately wanted to be home with him. Although, I would have preferred to have been able to stay home, I found going back to work after adoption leave OK. The fact that LO coped well with going to nursery helped a lot!!! So what I can't work out is, why am I suddenly struggling. I know part of it is that he is a lovely age at the moment and sooo much fun. This morning we went to the seaside, had a picnic on the beach, went for a swim, built sandcastles and had a sleep on the sand!!! But all right here at home  . Anyways, I found being at work this afternoon so hard. Isn't it the child who is supposed to have the separation anxiety???!!! Minnie x |
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Post by justbserene11 on Apr 14, 2014 20:01:46 GMT
No!! It is not! I always worry....I always worry, but poppet can surprise me both in a way that I expect or in a way that surprises me.
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Post by ceci on Apr 14, 2014 20:02:30 GMT
Hi Minnie. I get this a bit, even now. I work 3 days a week and find it hard to leave in the mornings. My 9 year old sits in the window waving me goodbye every time I leave the house - she has always had separation anxiety, and I think it rubs off a bit on me. Work is busy but they're on my mind all day. Then in the afternoon I look forward to phoning them to catch up with their day at school!!! I know it really annoys whoever is looking after them that day - either DH or one of their grannies, but it's really important for me (and also for them). I love to come home to them at the end of the day. I'm also enjoying their age and stage at the moment which is probably part of it - I don't think I was so keen when they were younger!
I have to say though when I'm with them all day, every day, like I will be next week, then I'm very happy to go back to work!!! I can only stick so much arguing and fighting, and eventually need my own space!!!
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Post by serrakunda on Apr 14, 2014 20:42:18 GMT
Simba loves school, would be horrified if I suggested he stay home with boring old mummy, me I just hate going to work. It's partly about not really liking the job, i feel a bit trapped, the job serves a purpose, ie pays the bills, but there is no job satisfaction for me. I'm treading water, it's takes up my time, when I could be home dusting and baking cookies and being fully available for Simba when he gets home, without feeling tired and grumpy because I've done nothing of any real value all day and I've got more important ( ie Simba related stuff) things to do. And it's so much harder when the sun is shining than in the winter.
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Post by ham on Apr 15, 2014 6:40:45 GMT
Mine are adults but I find working a late shift hard luckily boss understanding and tries to give me morning shifts
Why do I find one shift harder then the other makes no sense either.
Hugs
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Post by sockthing on Apr 15, 2014 10:02:15 GMT
I posted something similar a while back Minnie, on the old boards!
It felt much more than just missing him, I felt real anxiety about being apart. In a very hard to explain way! I still get it now but it's getting easier slowly. Personally I think it's about bonding with your child, catching up on the process that would have naturally happened when he was a tiny baby.
In a hurry at the moment but do PM me if you want to chat more xx
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Post by imp on Apr 15, 2014 10:24:56 GMT
Minnie, soooooo normal. he's your little man and you want to nurture, protect and have fun with him all the time---and see what progress he is making everyday. That's 'proper' parenthood. Transition object for you?
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Post by chotimonkey on Apr 15, 2014 13:14:43 GMT
could a little of it be transference from him? i have realised over time that often when i am really anxious about leaving them its connected to them having a hidden anxiety that they are projecting and surfaces a little later, or i am feeling worried about something thatis about to happen eg i started to really worry about leaving squirrel even with dh for any length of time before howler was placed, and agaon later when i was about to start her at nursery... a bit of guilt about what i was about to do to her:)
and aa large helping is normal...i go flying out of the house when i get the chance to get away for awhile, but v soon i miss them sdo much and hate being too far from them... i had a night away with my sister at hotel last year and was up and down all night with nightmares about the kids....totally my own anxiety...kids had a great time with dh and his mum
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Post by moo on Apr 15, 2014 18:37:07 GMT
Nope Minnie completely normal iyam....
Just loving giving the hols from school.... Boys know it's mummeees favourite day of the week!!! Hugs.... I'm told even when they are at uni it's agony!!!! 
Xx. moo. Xx
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