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Post by serrakunda on Apr 13, 2014 22:15:21 GMT
Simba said to me on Friday that I never have time to play with him anymore because I'm always doing jobs. He's right, I've been so busy the last few months with all the appointments, I work four days a week, the house is a mess. Ive tried to explain that it's harder now I'm back at work, because I used to do all the jobs when he was at school and then have lots of time for him. I've made an effort this weekend, played table football with him, watched some movies, had lots of chats. The house is in more of a mess and I haven't done the report for the GP to do the referral. We are on holiday Easter week so will have lots of time together. I wish I could work fewer hours but just can't afford to drop any more salary. Just feeling pants.
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Post by moo on Apr 14, 2014 4:44:34 GMT
Aww serrakunda.... I always have such respect for you all.... I soo don't know how you keep the plates spinning.... My work is gruelling but I am at home.... Just don't know how you do it.... & as for dealing with traffic to & fro deffo respect....
Hope you get some time off for choc egg day..... Snap btw the farmhouse is the biggest tip.... I can't see the floor!!!
xx. moo. Xx
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Post by corkwing on Apr 14, 2014 6:41:32 GMT
It's hard... Love, Corkwing
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Post by pluto on Apr 14, 2014 7:13:59 GMT
Not easy, just a practical question, do you let him help with whatever you are doing? At 9 they can be very good helpers, and there is no reason why you should not involve him (if you are not already doing that). You washes he dries or other way, you fold washing he puts it away. He brushes the floor you hover, both can dust if you do that, he can help with cooking cleaning the vegetables, peeling potatos. Etc, etc. Both of my boys are good helpers, they even go into 5th gear if I say first we need to clean the house (stable whatever) than we have time to go ..... That will really make your life easier, maybe it takes 10 hours to learn them to do something up to standard (like putting a duvet into a cover, obviously my oldest) but after that it's great.
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Post by serrakunda on Apr 14, 2014 9:01:34 GMT
Yes he does help, he has his own jobs every day and he always tidies up his toys and things when he's finished. He loves shopping so thats not a problem some people have. Im not the tidiest person so I dont mind a certain amount of chaos and as long as the kitchen and bathroom arent harbouring bio hazards Im 'relaxed' as they say. But Im looking at a growing list of minor DIY jobs, I havent done any maintenance since he came home and my wobbly victorian house is looking very battered in places and things need some urgent attention - not quite ready to let him loose with power tools, or send him up a ladder to varnish the windows. The extra travelling time he is doing is having a huge impact. We used to have all our chats about life and the universe at bedtime, now he is so exhausted after a 9 hour day he is out like a light and we dont talk so much which I think we are both missing. I should be able to pinch an hour in work today to do what I need to do for the referrals which will be a big weight off, for the moment at least.
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Post by pluto on Apr 14, 2014 11:17:02 GMT
I'm smiling, my oldest never showed much own initiative but that has changed now! (not sure or that is a good or a bad thing, lol) This weekend he cut off one berrie bush totally, it started with the dead branches around the bin, than he really got going, oeps. Last week we worked in the garden and for the first time ever he worked for about 45 minutes without me nagging him to continue. About tools, I'm painting my kitchen this moment,when I came downstairs saturday morning he had hung all the doors back (using the electric skrewdriver) and put the locks back on as well, messing up the thread on the skrews and some paint. Also the doors needed another 2 layers of paint.... He also sanded down (with electric sander) other doors while they were still hanging, that job was not too bad. So maybe you want him a week over the summer holidays? we are in the uk the last week of July! He also loves shopping and you will have no problem with public transport, busses and trains is what he lives for. Oh and he LOVES viaducts and bridges! Downside is he eats enormous amounts of food, so maybe a DIY man works out cheaper as they do not need feeding.
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Post by Ad-minnie! on Apr 14, 2014 19:41:23 GMT
Serrakunda,
Really feel for you. It is hard!!! I similarly work 4 days and since I have been back at work it is a challenge trying to juggle everything (like you with Simba being at school, when on leave, I used to do things when LO was at nursery). Also, don't underestimate the value of just being with Simba ... as in together at home ... even if you are doing jobs/he is doing something else (I know I sometimes forget that LO just likes me being around). Sending hugs and lots of chocolate. And hope you have a lovely week off.
Minnie x
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Post by serrakunda on Apr 14, 2014 21:09:36 GMT
Have decided to take a couple of extra days off whilst Simba is at tennis club. I'll be able to get s few things done and be able to pick him up at 3 without being in a total frazzle. We have a new juice bar opened at the weekend so will take him there one afternoon for a little treat,
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