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Post by flowerpower on Sept 16, 2013 10:49:00 GMT
Hi just thought i would share how i was feeling about our next contact. Our girls have been with us coming up to two years now they are both five and we have done face to face contact with two of their siblings three time in the past two years we have always meet in the park so they can play.
Just after our girls moved in they had a goodbye contact with their FC at our home, but then some time after it was decided that their siblings will be staying long term with the same FC.
So the sibling contact we have done up to now has been with me hubby and our girls, and siblings have been brought along by the person that has looked after them to give FC respite.
So now it has been decided that they are staying long term with the same FC so we have arranged to meet in the park as usual but FC is going to bring them along. So i am feeling quite anxious and not really sure how our girls are going to be, has anyone else had similar contact. After previous contact we have had fallout but no more than we get from any change that we have.
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Post by flowerpower on Sept 16, 2013 13:19:47 GMT
Thanks Bop i will post after to let everyone know how we got on xx
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Post by monkey on Sept 16, 2013 19:26:00 GMT
Hi Flowerpower
I think it's great that you're able to have direct contact and that the girls understand.
The plan is for us to have direct contact with one of LOs siblings in the future and I can fully appreciate how nervous you must be about it -especially re-introducing the FC.
Do you think that the girls will remember the FC? I don't think our LO would despite having photos of them available for her to look at.
MMx
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Post by flowerpower on Sept 17, 2013 13:19:10 GMT
Hi MM
I think they will remember FC, but maybe that is because they talk to each other so are always reminding each other about their past, but we will find out later next week, thanks for your support xx
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Post by flowerpower on Sept 19, 2013 14:43:50 GMT
Hi I am not sure they both completely understand I think one of them thinks great, of to the park and friends are coming to play, she craves a close friendship but tends to be a bit overpowering and other kids back of very quickly xx
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Post by flowerpower on Sept 25, 2013 13:01:27 GMT
Was just wondering if anyone had a suggestion for were to meet if it is raining on saturday we have planed the park but just worrying in case it is heavy rain don't really wont to go to a soft play as will not be Abel to see them all the time . Sorry i am properly just being paranoid xx
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Post by monkey on Sept 25, 2013 19:23:54 GMT
That's a tough one. If it was me I think I'd still want to be on neutral territory. I'm not sure how many of you there will be.
Is there a possibility of you hiring a room in a church hall or village hall? Do SS have anywhere suitable? SS own a bungalow near us which is kitted out with soft sofas and toys etc.
Otherwise I'd be tempted to try and stay outdoors but try and be close to somewhere with a cafe that you can dash into if the heavens open.
Best of luck - will be thinking about you.
MMx
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Post by flowerpower on Sept 26, 2013 0:15:39 GMT
Yes. I think you are right it will have to bee a mad dash for the cafe, because it is on a Saturday their will not be any SW their and I think it is better without SW as both of the girls get a bit freaked out by SW and they can spot them a mile off xx
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Post by greyspeckledhen on Sept 27, 2013 20:42:01 GMT
My boys would be interested to see their FC again I think so hopefully it will be really good. Just make sure they are 200% sure that they are going home with you again afterwards by maybe letting them know what your plans are for tea time/ bedtime/ next day etc. On one level I'm sure they know they won't be going home with FC but on another level they may need reassurance. As for indoor suggestions - not for this time, but if it works out well swimming might be an option another time. We often do sibling contact at the swimming pool as ours all like the water. We've also met up in one of those pubs where there is a little soft play area and an icecream machine - brewers fayre? A garden centre would be another option as you can wander round the animals/ fish/ plants etc as well as going to the cafe.
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Post by flowerpower on Sept 27, 2013 20:59:31 GMT
Thanks I know you are right, I am sure it will be really good for them to see the FC I think it is just me being a bit selfish and panicking in case they say they would like to go with them. But that's a good idea I will talk to them about the friends birthday party they are going to later in the day and visiting grandma on Sunday. and we thought we would let them choose some sweets to have after on the way home it is always a very big treat to choose sweets at our shop xx
We have two girls they are both 5 now and have been with us since November 2011 FP xxx
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Post by daisy1985 on Sept 28, 2013 4:59:12 GMT
Hugs flower power
I've no answers I'm afraid for you but just wanted to say I really hope it works well, some of the suggestions sound good especially the going over routine after the visit to help them understand they will be coming home with you!
See how it goes this time, let us know, if its not working out then maybe request it goes back to being without FC present
Good luck
Daisy xx
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Post by flowerpower on Sept 28, 2013 15:09:05 GMT
Thanks everyone for support, it went very well MM I think you were right i don't think they even new who the FC was they just played in park for 1 1/2 hours and after the only thing one of mine said was how did they get bigger. I may get some fallout later but I think it will just be lots of random question xxx but I am still glad it is over till next time
We have two girls they are both 5 now and have been with us since November 2011 FP xxx
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Post by greyspeckledhen on Sept 29, 2013 22:41:41 GMT
glad it went well - hurray!
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Post by flowerpower on Sept 30, 2013 21:22:47 GMT
Thanks I am glad it is over till next time hopefully next time I will chill out and not stress so and try and help girls enjoy the experience x
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Post by monkey on Oct 1, 2013 19:35:28 GMT
It's so difficult not to stress out about things like that. At least now you'll have a memory of a positive experience for next time.
I'm always surprised at how short LOs memory is!
MMx
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Post by flowerpower on Dec 1, 2013 22:32:50 GMT
Just bumping this up for DAFFIN to read
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