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Post by ham on Dec 24, 2013 8:48:32 GMT
sorry doing a virtual scream rather than a real one ds1 has just come home for Christmas and he has spend nearly £100 on booze he has just lost his job and his argument its cheaper than going out when he would spend £500 over 3 nights he does not have money and then discovered he has spent at least £40 on each of us( £160) plus he has a girl friend and for friends. arrrrhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
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Post by ham on Dec 24, 2013 12:32:56 GMT
over draft so he says???
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Post by Deleted on Dec 28, 2013 17:31:22 GMT
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAgh indeed my DS who is older still cannot manage money I dont know if I am helping him by keeping his bank card etc and trying to keep things on track or whether this will stop him learning to cope
I remember I started this process to help him pay off debts he had got into with loans
He just doesnt get it though - he sometimes asks to borrow money and does not understand when I point out he could NEVER repay it ; I do sometimes give him money and make it clear it is a gift
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh too Jet
PS this is of course not his only issue they just all exacerbate each other
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Post by lemonade on Dec 28, 2013 22:14:39 GMT
ARRRRGHHHHH ... with you on this one ham.
Bubbles had £500 come through last weekend for sure start maternity grant and NOW ALL GONE!!!! and nothing to show for it and still she is £4,500 in debt and mounting.
I don't do loans anymore, even tho she occasionally does ask, she asked for £20 two days ago to go out for pizza
Doesn't handle money well is an understatement!
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Post by phoebe on Dec 29, 2013 21:52:26 GMT
At least none of us is alone in this - none of our YP get money!
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Post by kizim on Jan 2, 2014 9:20:34 GMT
İ agree with tokoloshe but if you don't want/aren't ready to involve police can you invite someone supportive round whilst you tell your AD that she cannot have the Money. You sound frightened of her and you have to take power back from her - even if you don't feel it. İ realised that İ was allowing my youngest daughter to get away with bad beahviour because of her tantrums - especially after her periods started. My elder dd also tiptoed around her, behaving more like her younger sister in order to keep the peace. İt was difficult to change but İ did it by suffering the storm and sticking to my guns. This was easier because she was not as aggressive as your dd and her conscience kicks in before she gets too much out of hand Get yourself inside a pink bubble where nothing can affect you and surround yourself with support. Don't let her win - for her sake as well as your family's.
Jofran
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