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moo
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BPs and communication Jan 27, 2020 7:01:17 GMT

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Post by moo on Jan 27, 2020 7:01:17 GMT

Oh polly how impossibly difficult for youxxx

Always so hard managing contact with bp's who always seem to have a different agenda & mind set....

I hope you sort it for your girls, they are at a real crossroads about to take off into adulthood & exciting career pathxxx hugs for you in juggling all family feelings & expectations xxxx

Look after yourself I hope you can feel all will follow a structure to be sure to look after each otherxx

Xx moo xx

Proud single adoptive mummeee to brothers baa & skweek 18 👀 & 17

( 38 & 23 months at placement together ) WoW Where Did The Time Go?....

flutterby
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BPs and communication Jan 28, 2020 4:34:50 GMT via mobile

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Post by flutterby on Jan 28, 2020 4:34:50 GMT

Very tricky. As usual, having to support, protect (if necessary/possible) and hiding your own feelings around it all. Never mind the stuff that all parents go through when their kids grow up, start making their own decisions and make noises to flee the nest. It's a bittersweet time.

I hope you have enough emotional support from people who really get the situation.

Obviously, people on here are always there to listen, but can't replace friends/family.

How are you managing? It must bring up so many feelings for you. Xxx

Last Edit: Jan 28, 2020 4:36:29 GMT by flutterby

Married to Bumblebear, 3 1/2 kids, a mix of adopted and home-made.

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BPs and communication Jan 30, 2020 15:48:38 GMT moo likes this

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Post by Deleted on Jan 30, 2020 15:48:38 GMT

Thanks Flutterby and Moo for your replies

we are fortunate in having good support locally and a wider network who have journeyed alongside us over many years. With so much change going on at the moment it's just been a time for pondering and realising what them growing up means for all of us - many positives but inevitable challenges as they spread their wings.