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Post by happyone on Nov 29, 2013 22:30:20 GMT
Such a beautiful read xxx good luck tomorrow xxx
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Post by annie70 on Dec 12, 2013 23:07:25 GMT
Hello! I am still alive The last 2 weeks have been mental - we thought we were prepared for parenting but the early mornings and the silent nights (house very open so so loud noises after Zippy is in bed!) have been hard... as have the 3 square meals a day with little time in between and trying to eat healthily! Bungle is on his second cold in 2 weeks and I am still poorly from the first one but Zippy seems to be okay and still has bundles of energy! We have been telling friends and family it is like having instant summer holidays with a child you don't yet know... and the ones with kids really appreciate how hard that is! Now I understand why they have such a look of terror when the summer hols are approaching - 13 hours a day of having to make good food and find stuff for kids to do which isn't screen time... knackered! But anyway, it is going really well and we are having lots of fun... sometimes I wonder what I have let myself in for but it doesn't last long and we love zippy to bits most of the time We have been going out loads - we thought we would spend more time inside cuddling and watching tv / chatting but he has a massive addiction to screens and if you try to stop screen time he sulks and becomes hyper so we are trying to get rid of some energy outside... we don't think we will kill the desire for screens - he has been brought up in front of the tv - but we are instigating lots of story time and refusing to put the tv on and suggesting other stuff.. he generally sulks and sometimes give the angry face but eventually finds something else to do that he can put up with - but it has to be with us - he can't seem to play on his own and he has loads of toys but doesn't go near them! So again, we are knackered! It will be much better once he is at school and runs about there and make some friends for his imaginative play - we have had some play dates with friends but at the end of the day they do not get his sharp sense of humour and that frustrates him... we have become his friends who he plays imaginatively with for hours - and then we have to put our foot down and tell him to get dressed / brush teeth etc and it is kind of confusing for all of us... I don't want to wish away the time we have together but he really needs his peers! We have had lots of tears and sadness about birth family and foster family and we are dealing with it when it happens - which is a lot - but we think this is good and he is getting it out rather than keeping it in... hos S is going to do some work with him about not seeing his parents again as although he prepared well, he seems to think that now he is in a permanent family we can meet up and chat with mum on holiday!!! So it's all going on at our house... but we are a family and we all agree that it works... he comes for cuddles and stories in the morning in bed, makes jokes and bobs his head along to our music, asks random questions about the world, gives unexpected cuddles and hugs, eats most of the food I put in front of him, thinks the cat likes him (she tolerates him at best but at least she's not left home!), is excited about Christmas (although he wouldn't decorate the tree and won't do Christmassy things - which is fine), and mainly sleeps through after about 9pm until 7am... who could ask for more? He tells me he loves me when he thinks it - which is at quite strange times like in the shop, on the loo etc, and he told Bungle that out of all his dads he was his favourite! I hope to get on here more in the future but at the moment we are trying to get Christmas sorted and have an evening pow-wow for the following day so not much time after bed time... Yours cross-eyed with tiredness, Axx
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Post by oogleschnook on Dec 12, 2013 23:21:26 GMT
Oh Annie, well done, it sounds like you are all doing brilliantly! So glad that you're surviving (and thriving by the sounds of it). Totally understand what you mean about the constantness and intensity of it, when our first two came that was the thing I found hardest, that we were alway 'on shift' 24/7! (I know it must be like that with a BC too, but there is something very intense about it happening overnight with walking talking LOs plus no breaks from it as funnelling!). I found it did ease with time, sounds like school will help hugely and give Zippy others to play with. Lovely to hear how you're getting on
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Post by moo on Dec 13, 2013 2:52:42 GMT
Oh hi Annie so great to hear from you.... Really been missing you!!!
Yep remember that exhaustion feeling.... I so clearly remember thinking ' I have given birth to twins who have arrived at the run!!' the only difference I guess in my case was that they slept so well ( it was my life's work to tire them out racing around the farm during the day ) that I got good down time between 6 & 6....
Zippy sounds so happy well done you & bungle..... Love the thought of ' love you ' in the middle of asda!?! Superb that he feels able to share so much with you about how he is feeling.... He obviously feels very safe & was well prepared....
Congratulations on your resolve around the tv.... I admire you lots for that... The playing alone will come in time promise.... School sounds a good move in the new year.... He will deffo as you say be ready & value the change but fixed new routine....
At least you have fab support from bungle.... I clearly remember Mummeees famous hair early on in placement!! It took some while to manage a hair wash!!! Think I bore a stunning resemblance to the wild woman of Borneo!!! It was such a full on pace that 2 such little people demanded that I was permanently dizzy for about 3 months!!!
Hang in keep funnelling you are obviously doing a fabbo job...
Think chocolate for Christmas that will perk you up some more!!!
So good to hear your update.....
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by goat on Dec 17, 2013 0:22:46 GMT
Hi we are going to Panel on the 18th for our LO who is about 5 1/2, with intros planned for the new year.
Its so nice to hear your story with a similar age LO, who sounds amazing and great fun.
Thank you, and enjoy your pre Christmas plans!
Any tips gratefully received by the way...x
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Post by Deleted on Dec 17, 2013 9:06:05 GMT
Oh hi Annie, Thanks for the update. Fully appreciate why you can't be on here all the time - You are now a busy Mum and it is exhausting isn't it. I wasn't even on-line until about 4 years after mine came home, just didn't have the time. Sounds like you are doing so well and that Zippy is fitting in well with "the weirdo's!! " Don't know if you have a trampoline, but they are great for burning off surplus energy and can be used even when it's really cold out there as they get warmed up really quickly, might be worth investing in one if you can afford it. We've had one for years and DD's often go out and have a bounce when they are angry or fed up or bored, seems to calm them down and of course it is great exercise too and wears them out. Your intro posts are so great for others like Goat who are adopting slightly older children so thanks for sharing your experiences.
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