connect4
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Post by connect4 on Nov 12, 2013 12:46:33 GMT
After 4 and a half tumultuous years with our adopted two something lovely happened the other day in the car.
My relationship with my DD has always been difficult and conversation does not always easily flow. We were in the car, just the two of us, being quiet as usual, despite my best efforts to promote communication. Suddenly she said 'It's better to have adopted parents than birth parents because you know that they love you'. WOW. Seems like she knows we love her then! She may not be talking to me much but if that's what she's thinking, then I'm OK with that!
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Post by justbserene11 on Nov 12, 2013 12:53:22 GMT
That is lovely, I bet that bought a tear to your eye!
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Post by esty (archive) on Nov 12, 2013 15:39:44 GMT
That's brilliant and will definitely feel the bonds! It's. It easy our role and we definitely need things like this to boost us up. Hope she starts to open up more from now on.
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Post by chotimonkey on Nov 13, 2013 6:33:11 GMT
What a wonderful moment
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Post by moo on Nov 13, 2013 6:54:33 GMT
Aawww how special.....  
Well done mummy.....
Xx. moo. Xx
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Post by Deleted on Nov 13, 2013 8:27:55 GMT
Sounds like she is really processing her place in this world and realizing that she has a fab Mum. Great that she opened up to you and shared her thoughts.  Car journeys are often the best place for these kind of chats as there is no eye contact so it's easier to say things than when face to face. |
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Post by lilka on Nov 13, 2013 17:19:43 GMT
That's fantastic! What a lovely moment, you can treasure that going forwards. It's so special to know that she is certain you love her My kids also like to initiate adoption/abuse/birth family etc conversations in the car. As jmk said, lack of eye contact makes it easier, as does the fact that you aren't face-face and you can focus on what's going on outside the car at the same time. I also wonder if the movement/vibrations/rythm or whatever it is, of the car is helpful? |
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Post by happyone on Nov 13, 2013 20:48:33 GMT
Wow that's so powerful xxx
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Post by pirate on Nov 13, 2013 22:46:57 GMT
So lovely, a special moment/memory to cherish mummy Xxxx |
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Post by ham on Nov 14, 2013 21:19:33 GMT
Something to treasure
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Post by smileycat on Nov 14, 2013 21:59:54 GMT
Oh how lovely... :-)
It's moments like that, that just make it all so worth while.
SC x
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Post by piglet on Nov 15, 2013 21:11:37 GMT
That's so nice. We don't have a car although I might consider getting one if it prompts comments like these. Mind you - walking also seems to have a similar affect on my LO. Things pop out that wouldn't when you are just at home.
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Post by taliesin on Nov 20, 2013 1:48:13 GMT
OMG, that is so meaningful for her isnt it....and for you! How on earth did you manage to carry on driving!!! Lovely to read xxx |
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