Think it might be a good idea PT for her to see where she could end up if things got worse. The police and SS do this a lot with young offenders and it seems to work with most of them. You know Blossom best and if you think it would help I'd say let her go and have a look. Trouble is she might like it?
With my training years ago I visited a prison and a secure hospital - I hated the feeling of the gates closing and locking behind me - it was scary at age 19 - we did meet 2 very famous prisoners in the prison
from your heading it sounds like they are including you in the visit- that will be distressing for you I imagine - hope they anticipate that
does sound a bit extreme. Does Blossom respond to shock tactics? Is there no opportunity for her to talk to former prisoners in another environment. A few years ago I visted a social enterprise I was working with at the time - they were training young offenders/potential offenders in building trades. One of the instructers was a former prisoner who told us his story and how/why he had turned his life around. It was a very powerful story, me and my colleague were in tears. And I know he had a great influence on the young people who passed through his hands and kept many of them out of trouble
Mum to the 'hansom' Simba, age 19 and 40 now retired teddy bears and FC to Special K, age 12
As she has been on a criminale path I would let them take her there as that will be the place she ends up if she continues to make poor choices. (I still do not understand this fully as I would think autistic teens would end up in specialised asd units, schools) I myself would refuse to visit with her as I would tell her if you end up there you will also be all on your own. If that happens I might be able to visit you ones in a while, but most of the time you will have no contact with anyone from 'outside'. Might sound harsh but it is the honest truth.
I think you should let her go. I also think it would be useful for you to go too, so that you and she can reflect on it together afterwards. Also, so that when she tries to play it down later you can remind her what it was really like (cos you were there and you saw it too!).
Mum to twin girls (16) and a son (13). One of my girls is s20 and the other is in a mental health unit.
I tried this with dd and she was even locked into a cell but at that time it made no impression and she wanted to go back there.so for her it was not helpful.bizzarely it was the idea of not being able to have a MacDonald's had a bigger impact on her.
Single mum to a mixture of BC and AC all young adults.
middly did this as part of a school assignment when she was in the PRU, she hated it, did not like being locked in, found the prisoners and guards very scary.
Mum to 3. DS, Bigly (21), DD, Middly (19), & DD, Littly (18) with sibling trauma bond, (placed at 8, 6, & 5) none of them are living with us anymore, some contact with all of them but very much on their terms. Grandparents and enjoying it.
I am sure it works for lots of kids with cause and effect thinking, and we did this at a school I worked at. I don't know that it would have the same impact for Blossom, in terms of her maybe not being able to rationally "choose" her response when her anxiety is high, so if she can't link the decision and potential consequences, it may be of limited value? x
Mum of two, a teen (14) and a tween (11) still rumbling on after 10 years!