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Post by mudlark on Mar 29, 2023 23:03:56 GMT
Lapwing returned at 3.30 in the morning yesterday. Later this morning I found out she had some kind of sexual encounter with one of the boys she was with, barely knows and is known to the police. So I said she could not go out today; she was tired, I was tired and I don't want her to end up pregnant or raped.
She told me to F off, ran downstairs to put on her trainers, when I tried to stop her, she hit me round the head with a trainer, I grabbed her hoodie to stop her, she kicked me in the stomach. I let go of the hoodie and she ran into the front room, I followed, she picked up a glass and I could see she was ready to hit me. I opened the front door and told her to 'just go' she did, with glass still in hand, stopped turned and hurled it at my head. I shut the door and it caught the blow of the glass, shattering it.
I was in total shock, shaking and called 999. Explained the situation. Peewit arrived home from school 5 minutes later and was utterly distraught to see me crying and then to learn what his sister had done.
Anyway...police came round, Lapwing still missing, social services have done nothing, and say they will send someone round to chat to me.
What on earth can we do. How can I get Lapwing removed. She is a risk to herself and the rest of us. I have sent so many emails.
How can I force section 20?
Can we disrupt?
I cant see Peewit destroyed by all this.
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Post by moo on Mar 30, 2023 9:46:43 GMT
Oh no mudlark....
Nothing to offer except sadly I think this really is the end of the line...
You, Mr M & Peewit now trump everything.... Search inside you if you can, if this is it pack up everything, inform ss that she is homeless, police have her property....
Prolly totally wrong way to go about it but ss will not be able to ignore homeless 13 year old plight & potential violence teen on adult & sibling dangers.....
I am so sorry you are at your wits end ( why not you have given 200% , done everything & more anyone could possibly this is so not your fault š¢.....)
Do not give in lapwing needs to see your strength that this is just not acceptable....
Sending gentle hugs xxxxxxx flutterby I am sure will be along soon with some amazing insights......
Please pm if you have the strength xxxxxxxx
Xx moo š®
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Post by leo on Mar 30, 2023 11:24:46 GMT
Oh Mudlark, I am so sorry.
All I can think of on a practical level is to phone the Adoption Legal Centre (0843 8866386) for advice or even the therapist you have been in touch with. Maybe they will know what will trigger a FC placement.
If not, do you have a police liaison involved? I have heard people in the past say the police have been much more helpful than SS.
Is there anyone you know who would take Lapwing in even for a few days to give you all a bit of a break and allow you time to make decisions? I realise her behaviour may make this impossible, just trying to think of a way for you to have some safety and head space.
Thinking of you and wishing you safety, strength and someone/some agency who will listen, act and find a solution. Please take care.
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Post by sooz on Mar 30, 2023 13:27:46 GMT
Iām so sorry. I wish I had some concrete advice to give you.
snooz attacked me last year and I had him arrested. I didnāt want him back in the house as I felt very unsafe and had needed a trip to A&E. the police held him overnight but ss insisted he came home the next day.
what they did do though was place 2 trained carers in my home 24 hours a day for 7 days (this could have continued had things not settled). I didnāt particularly think Iād like that option but in reality it worked really well.
however, this was the one and only incident of violence from Snooz.
all I can offer is for you to not get into any confrontations with her, at all. If she goes out, let her go and call the police or ss or anyone you feel needs to know you cannot keep her safe. Sheās not going to listen or abide by your rules and enforcing them will only put you in danger.
I guess you could just say, the doors will be locked by a certain time and itās up to her.
itās so very scary, Iām so sorry youāve had to experience this xx
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Post by flutterby on Mar 30, 2023 15:48:56 GMT
Sorry I'll respond properly later. Try and get the police to remove her, I have mentioned on a previous post they suggested thus to us as a last option, if SS did not do their job.
In theory they can do this under the same section they use when removing children from violent parents. I can't remember the section off hand but scroll through my old posts, I may have mentioned then?
Get them on-board, explain they need to do this to protect all of you and her and force SS hand.
I'm so sorry, it is so scary when they attack you like this and so damaging for siblings. Hugs, I hope you can get this sorted ASAP. xxx
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