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Post by runmum on Nov 2, 2022 15:07:20 GMT
So Jealous Dog is now 18 and it was a reasonably straightforward thing to get access to his CTF. We sent copies of the adoption order and amended birth certificate and that was fine. Monkey Boy's money is with a different provider. Initially they asked for the same things which we sent. Because he's 16 we wanted to be the named contact so we could add money to the account and tell him how much is there etc. He is understandably desperate to know this now he knows his big brother got some money and used it for a trip to Newcastle with some mates. They said we either needed the account number or to give the current named contact a ring and ask them to fill in a form and make us the new named contact. I phoned and explained that this is not the way the adoption world works and they got very cagey with me and said they needed to refer the case to head office. 2 months later we just get a letter saying all the same things. Part of me thinks s*d it wait until MB is 18 and surely they will not insist he knows the account number. But they have been so daft I am not so sure. Monkey Boy is getting very stressed about it worrying that he will never get his money and this is not fair!! Any ideas. It's RBS Collective Investment Funds Ltd which is part of NatWest.
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Post by moo on Nov 3, 2022 7:06:50 GMT
Had a similar problem here that you are encountering with monkey boy 😔 ....
Decided to give it up as a bad job due to contact worries from bf if information was disclosed about our whereabouts..... Boys were very young, I considered it a small ( but still irritating) loss of money but safety was paramount....
So sorry as your situation is impossible.... never ever here can one have more/different to the other.. horrific situation for you.... Any chance of your two years saving could match the pot by the time he hits 18 ( only wriggle room here is if baa gets something skweek understands that he will get same at the same age iykim ) not that this is a reasonable suggestion for you! But it might keep the peace.... Post Adoption support perhaps could contact via legal bods... sorry massive long shot but cannot think of anything else... or legal aid advice line to see what legal letters can be drafted to resolve the dunderheaded fund guardians ( guard-dog tbh)....
Sorry no better advice or suggestions xxx
Xx moo 🐮
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Post by runmum on Nov 3, 2022 10:26:14 GMT
Thanks Moo. Financial crisis, had to give him highly paid professional job, boiler unexpectedly needed replacing, no family holiday this year - not sure we could save £485 but maybe the only way. It's his flipping money that's what gets my goat. Agree was worried about safeguarding especially when they said hey give the current names contact a ring. They clearly have no idea!!! Have called Adoption UK legal. Will keep you all posted. To make matters worse he has just contacted birth family via socials. Despite all our best efforts - full bubble wrapped children insights. Once peers start influencing you cannot control these things. He's at a special school, they are aware and they get the safeguarding concerns. One headache after another.
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Post by elderberry on Nov 7, 2022 11:10:28 GMT
I tried to sort this when my daughter was 9, left in tears after they told me that they would need to speak to her and get her permission to change the registered contact (something she would never have agreed to at that point).
My solution was to go to another branch of Nationwide and claim ignorance. They didn't really know what to do either, but they went away and found out and it was all sorted. They had a form specifically for the occasion and I just needed to provide the adoption certificate. I realise this may not work for you as you have already been all the way to head office. Have you tried the Child Trust Fund helpline? 0845 302 1470
Much good did all this do. The £1,400 lasted two months and nothing to show for it.
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