Post by mrsbear21 on Jul 29, 2022 21:14:01 GMT
So everything actually Paddington related is going really well. He's still very open to us and we seem to be getting closer every day. Bedtimes tend to be the moment he might get tearful about missing foster mum. But that is already getting less, and he's open to us discussing, sympathizing and soothing him. He has starting waking earlier; between 5:40 and 6:30, rather than 7 to 7:30. But I think that is actually a good sign that he is less emotionally tired than the first week.
Also we met his sisters and their parents for the first time in person on Tuesday. The girls are absolutely lovely and seeing the 3 together was beautiful. Plus we really got on with their parents and it all felt very relaxed, so that was a huge positive (albeit very early days and low pressure meet up at a park).
However we have had one surprise crop up, which is a friend of birth parents has apparently seen us at soft play and reported it back to birth parents. BPs have then asked social services if Paddington is in our home town. Only got that news yesterday. His SW thinks of all the parents of children she works with they are least likely to try and track him down and it was more "gossip" to birth parents than anything. But I must admit it's a bit unnerving. I'm trying to process it from a child centred perspective i.e. "at least they are interested and care about where he is". But I do wish something like this hadn't cropped up so soon, but don't plan on doing anything different as a result. (Our identifiable social media has long been locked down and neither of us have ever posted about adopting never mind anything related to Paddington. Plus home town is a big place and I don't believe they know our names yet).
So I wondered what experiences you guys have had with birth parents over the years? What can/should I do to mentally prepare myself best?
We're still due to meet with them (October is currently the suggestion for that). Mostly I want not to obsess over worst case imaginary scenarios.
Also we met his sisters and their parents for the first time in person on Tuesday. The girls are absolutely lovely and seeing the 3 together was beautiful. Plus we really got on with their parents and it all felt very relaxed, so that was a huge positive (albeit very early days and low pressure meet up at a park).
However we have had one surprise crop up, which is a friend of birth parents has apparently seen us at soft play and reported it back to birth parents. BPs have then asked social services if Paddington is in our home town. Only got that news yesterday. His SW thinks of all the parents of children she works with they are least likely to try and track him down and it was more "gossip" to birth parents than anything. But I must admit it's a bit unnerving. I'm trying to process it from a child centred perspective i.e. "at least they are interested and care about where he is". But I do wish something like this hadn't cropped up so soon, but don't plan on doing anything different as a result. (Our identifiable social media has long been locked down and neither of us have ever posted about adopting never mind anything related to Paddington. Plus home town is a big place and I don't believe they know our names yet).
So I wondered what experiences you guys have had with birth parents over the years? What can/should I do to mentally prepare myself best?
We're still due to meet with them (October is currently the suggestion for that). Mostly I want not to obsess over worst case imaginary scenarios.