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Post by serrakunda on Apr 19, 2020 22:59:21 GMT
How are we all doing?
Cabin fever setting in here. This week will be week 6 of working at home, not liking it much, working a longer day as I have to take breaks because I don't have an office set up, so quite tired, days are starting to merge. Simba is just bored and fed up.
We have had some good afternoons, a picnic in the woods on Friday followed by a delivery of fish n chips, a movie night with posh ice cream in the man shed, the allotment is saving my sanity. I'm enjoying the National Theatre and Andrew Lloyd Webber plays and musicals
Going to make a concerted effort this week to find some motivation
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Post by mudlark on Apr 23, 2020 13:04:51 GMT
Days certainly seem to merge into one long endless cooking marathon, why is it that doing 'mostly not much' makes everyone so hungry!
Sibling 'stuff'( to use the technical term!) is getting me down but each day I do try and help them to try again, (today however I have given up and left them to what ever madness they are doing upstairs!) The school actually called me yesterday to ask why Peewit was not completing any google classroom lessons his teachers are setting. I did try and tell them about the wall to head butting that ensued when I tried to get Peewit to engage. Actually Peewit is usually excellent at home schooling but he does not like the google classroom format or what he feels as the teachers invasion into his home. (Frankly neither do I!) Mr M, endlessly typing ( sounds like thunder) above my head or on equally endless Skype calls, emerges looking stressed at 5.30 wondering what delicious food I have prepared!
My novel which was nearly finished has had to be abandoned for now. The allotment is a welcome haven now and again. The weather helps, as do the walks in the local park. Mainly by the time the children are in bed I am a shattered wreck reaching for a glass of wine!
Anyway I hear the screaming and maniacal laughter of Lapwing from upstairs, always a bad sign, so must go and attempt to engage them in something else....scrabble?
Hope everyone is well and hanging onto their sanity!
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Post by rosie on Apr 29, 2020 22:40:24 GMT
Was doing quite well here, but as we come near the end of week 6 it is getting tedious. I am working on all the paperwork of my job; actually nearly caught up but realise how much I miss working with the children which takes up a good part of my working week usually. DHis working up in the spare room and dd is hibernating in her bedroom and will not even come out for meals most days. Really worried about the amount she is drinking, but now she is 18 harder to control. She is still doing her part time job about twice a week butI know she is depressed and getting increasingly worried about her college work. She is not coping with online lectures and work.If this goes on for too many more weeks I think she will be in a very bad place. She is missing seeing her boyfriend too.Unfortunately she has just finished her course of therapy which seemed to be helping her a lot, and I think that has probably made her feel worse as she had built up a good relationship with the therapist. Am finding this stage so hard. She is legally an adult but emotionally so much younger. She still needs help but any referrals for therapy etc have to be initiated by her. Even if she agrees for me to help her we can have no input into discussions, and of course she never tells professionals how she is really feeling and what has happened. Not really sure about the way forward any more. Hoping this lockdown doesn’t last too much longer. Hope everyone else is hanging in there.
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Post by moo on Apr 30, 2020 7:33:45 GMT
Sending hugs to all xxxx
Tuff news rosie xx want to send you hugs & strengthxx so impossibly hard now dd is considered an adult xxxx
Indeed strength to all to hang in xx
Xx moo xx
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Post by treetop on May 11, 2020 23:01:03 GMT
Hi, not sure if this is just for the younger ones but getting ds (14) out of bed is an effort on it’s own! He thinks he’s still on Easter break I think and it’s so hard getting him to do anything. Oh I wish I was a teacher lol
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Post by moo on May 12, 2020 7:25:47 GMT
Same trouble here with baa... apparently teens need extra sleep! But we are 9 weeks in surely he's caught up! 😟😨😵 ...
Still growing! 6ft 41/2 & still counting.... skweek rapidly catching up xx
Hanging in here hope all doing o.k. xxx
Hugs to all xx
Xx moo xx
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Post by flutterby on May 12, 2020 9:48:29 GMT
Omg, that is seriously tall. Must be all the farm food and fresh air.
As for us we are trying our best. That's all I can say. Things have escalated even more. Despite lockdown we have had a therapist come to our house. Well, she was screamed at and told to bugger off and she wasn't welcome. When that didn't get a reaction, Butterfly started chucking heavy objects at her at top speed. Therapist was visibly shocked. She'd never seen anything like it. Welcome to my world.
Having an MRI done in a couple of weeks too so we'll finally have confirmation of organic brain damage.
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Post by serrakunda on May 16, 2020 14:45:52 GMT
Hopefully she will do something about it then Flutterby.
Up and down here. We have both taken advantage of the relaxation of rules and met up with a friend. We are hopeful for our holiday in Llandudno at the end of July as we have a self contained flat booked, although I hear from a friend who lives there that the sheep from the Great Orme have taken over the town centre !
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Post by nzhb on May 18, 2020 10:24:34 GMT
I have not seen my AD for 8-9 weeks as she is in semi -independent.
No 'rules' there. Other resident has now moved out , so AD on her own with a support worker.
BF ended the relationship. Immediately she is in another one - found on line I suspect.
Leaves the house and stays over with him almost straight away. GRRRR.
She can just do as she likes in semi independent and there are no repercussions.
I have stopped working with CLA team as they are useless and it was their decision to place her ,; we argued for specialist residential as per court report of 2 years ago. Just told it wasn't an option , but no explanation.
AD now saying we are not to be given any info.
Stopped her ADHD meds and her contraception.
Behaviour becoming more and more irresponsible.
Lies, lies, lies.
She is a NEET.
We have waited nearly 9 months for education to get their act together, even though she has an EHCP.
Therapy on hold because of Coronavirus.
She is 18 this year and then our job is done.
We can't parent this child in this situation. Ridiculous that we have full PR , but are the most marginalised and ignored.
No way she can return home.
No way we can see her as don't know who she is meeting with.
I blocked her on my phone as she was being abusive to me.
She didn't like it.
Have told her if she gets pregnant, we will be blocking her for MUCH longer. She can't look after herself, let alone a baby.
Fantastic mess up by CLA team.
Relationships v fractured.
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Post by moo on May 18, 2020 10:48:25 GMT
Sending support your way nzhb...
Sounding truely awful xxx
Please look after yourselves xxx I hope you can distance yourself emotionally from this ss failure & dd's poor decision making xxx so so sad xxx
Sending you healing vibes xxx please take care xxx
Xx moo xx
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Post by serrakunda on May 29, 2020 20:15:56 GMT
nzhb sorry I missed your post.
You have done what you can, look after yourselves
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Post by flutterby on May 30, 2020 4:58:01 GMT
NZHB, I missed your post too. Been keeping my head down. So sorry that after all the years of doing a superhuman job and trying to turn things round for your daughter, you have been so undermined.
Horrible to have to block your child and move on, but you are right to do it. Let's hope that in time she will mature and be able to have a relationship with you.
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